I took on two rescue cats a week ago.They are two neutered males who met and made friends at a foster home so when I enquired about one,the lady asked if I could take them both.I was very happy to do this as I have recently lost both my elderly cats and have always had two.Im glad I did.They are both so lovely
Anyway Alfie, (three legged youngster whos original owner asked a vet to put him down
)is so friendly and confident. He has settled brilliantly and its like hes always been here.His friend Charlie(ex stray,about 5 ish)is very friendly but very scared.
I set up the spare bedroom for them before they arrived with their litter trays,food and water,toys and cosy places to sleep and hide.Alfie spends little time in their now but Charlie hides in there the majority of the time.He will come out happily if I approach him quietly and loves to be stroked and will purr.He will also come out of the spare room and sit on my lap if I sit in a chair in the next room.Hes fairly relaxed despite all the hiding and will roll around purring when I talk to him and sleeps soundly in his hiding places.
He was doing so well for a couple of days and really bonding with my OH until he got under OHs feet tripping him up.He must have thought OH was trying to rugby tackle him or something because since then hes become more "hidey"and is now terrified of my OH. :'(Its such a shame as he was doing so well.
I know its very early days but Im worried about his fear of OH and of course every time he runs and hides from OH it reinforces his feeling of sanctuary in his hiding place and so the cycle perpetuates.Im glad he has a place he feels safe but I wish we could break the cycle somehow as its getting worse.
OH loves him to bits but knows to back off for now and just strokes him while hes in his hiding place sometimes,talking quietly to him.He accepts this as he feels safe.
There is no rush of course for him to settle again.I just don't want things to continue to get worse.
If anyone has any tips to help this sensitive but very sweet boy id be very grateful.