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Re: And again it makes me cry
« Reply #31 on: March 16, 2009, 23:12:02 PM »
i havent been a member for long, but everyday purrs manages to make me upset,and tearful.  :'(
Im at work at 2am everyday, and i always have a lookie on here as soon as i get to work, probably not the best time i know, spending the rest of the day with a mascara stained face!!!
The bad threads make me blub, the lovely threads make me blub!
Before i became a member i had never heard of "rainbow bridge," and even trying to tell my hubby about this wonderful name, and place discribed by all = Sonnie in tears again!
Im an emotional wreck at the moment, if its not purrs, its a song on the radio, a "hello" text from a friend or something totally stupid!

i need a slap!  keep telling myself "sort it out girl"

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No, no slap. I was reading posts that made me cry also. Welcome to the human race, my friend. You keep on crying, just as I will. Tears mean we CARE. And we do. God bless you.

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Re: And again it makes me cry
« Reply #30 on: March 16, 2009, 20:58:42 PM »
Whoop, whoop  :wow: How exciting for you  :wow:

 :yayyy: :yayyy: :yayyy: :yayyy: :yayyy: :yayyy: :yayyy: :yayyy:

As Christine says, definitely take it easy  :hug:

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Re: And again it makes me cry
« Reply #29 on: March 16, 2009, 20:50:02 PM »
BLOOMING BRILLIANT NEWS   :hug:

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Re: And again it makes me cry
« Reply #28 on: March 16, 2009, 19:11:57 PM »
:C: :O: :N: :G: :R: :A: :T: :U: :L: :A: :T: :I: :O: :N: :S: :party:  :congrats:

Im so pleased for you and wish you all the very best  :)
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Re: And again it makes me cry
« Reply #27 on: March 16, 2009, 19:05:31 PM »
Im 8 weeks pregnant!  this would account for the tiredness, and the emotional-ness!!!

That's just wonderful.  Now, take it easy and keep us posted!
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Re: And again it makes me cry
« Reply #26 on: March 16, 2009, 08:15:02 AM »
 :congrats:

Is this your first?

Speaking from experience I can recommend a home birth
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Re: And again it makes me cry
« Reply #25 on: March 16, 2009, 07:34:32 AM »
that's brillian news congratulations  ;D
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Re: And again it makes me cry
« Reply #24 on: March 16, 2009, 07:32:09 AM »
Hi all,
Sorry i havent been around much lately...... i have some news!

Im 8 weeks pregnant!  this would account for the tiredness, and the emotional-ness!!!
We are do so excited! 
Waiting for Dr to open, *he got back from holiday today) so i can book an appointment.

Just wanted to share this news with you all!

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Re: And again it makes me cry
« Reply #23 on: March 10, 2009, 19:47:01 PM »
Never give up  :hug:

As You now know our Mrs R is having twins !

My best friend has PCO and she has just had a surprise for her 40th birthday....A beautiful baby girl hehe
My cousin also had years and years of problems and IVF and now has 2 children
and my sisters friend has PCO and now has 3 children ....So NEVER give up

Anyway....Rainbow Bridge....
Everytime one of us on here has lost a cat it effects us all...each one is special.
Rainbow Bridge is a lovely way of remembering them, although I dont believe its "this side of Heaven" ....I think it is actually IN Heaven

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Re: And again it makes me cry
« Reply #22 on: March 05, 2009, 00:35:41 AM »
Just caught up with this thread.   :hug: :hug: to you Sonnie. 

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Re: And again it makes me cry
« Reply #21 on: February 23, 2009, 13:33:19 PM »
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Think of it this way - perhaps the baby you're meant to have isn't quite ready yet 


i think that is right.  i believe that a spirit (all spirits) goes somewhere to rest and recharge after its life time until it is ready to be reborn into it's next life.  your baby just isn't ready to be reborn yet  :hug:


such a lovely way of thinking about things  :Luv:

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Re: And again it makes me cry
« Reply #20 on: February 20, 2009, 13:11:38 PM »
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Think of it this way - perhaps the baby you're meant to have isn't quite ready yet 


i think that is right.  i believe that a spirit (all spirits) goes somewhere to rest and recharge after its life time until it is ready to be reborn into it's next life.  your baby just isn't ready to be reborn yet  :hug:
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Re: And again it makes me cry
« Reply #19 on: February 20, 2009, 11:25:33 AM »
If you do ovulate, Sonnie, then you may well conceive naturally in due course.  I agree with Sam - try and relax about it and let nature take its course, rather than dwelling on it.  Think of it this way - perhaps the baby you're meant to have isn't quite ready yet  :hug:

Meanwhile, you've got each other and Joe sounds like a good chap  ;)

Thanks Christine,   :hug:
i do try not to dwell but sometimes its hard not too.  :doh:

 :hug: best of luck with this
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Re: And again it makes me cry
« Reply #18 on: February 19, 2009, 12:19:24 PM »
If you do ovulate, Sonnie, then you may well conceive naturally in due course.  I agree with Sam - try and relax about it and let nature take its course, rather than dwelling on it.  Think of it this way - perhaps the baby you're meant to have isn't quite ready yet  :hug:

Meanwhile, you've got each other and Joe sounds like a good chap  ;)

Thanks Christine,   :hug:
i do try not to dwell but sometimes its hard not too.  :doh:

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Re: And again it makes me cry
« Reply #17 on: February 19, 2009, 12:18:11 PM »
If you do ovulate, Sonnie, then you may well conceive naturally in due course.  I agree with Sam - try and relax about it and let nature take its course, rather than dwelling on it.  Think of it this way - perhaps the baby you're meant to have isn't quite ready yet  :hug:

Meanwhile, you've got each other and Joe sounds like a good chap  ;)
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Re: And again it makes me cry
« Reply #16 on: February 19, 2009, 11:19:26 AM »
Oh Sonnie I'm so sorry to hear about your health issues .... life can be so unfair sometimes.  I have several friends who all desparately wanted children and through no fault of their own were unable to concieve naturally (thanks to the wonders of IVF they all now have families).

Mrs R ... Purrs member is currently expecting twins after a long a difficult road to concieve but again thanks to IVF we are all eagerly waiting for the patter of tiny feet when her girls arrive.

Don't give up hope hun .... sometimes trying too hard and stressing about it actually makes things worse (I know that's so easy for me to say as someone who has never had any desire to start family).

Take care and know we are all hear for you to talk to ... as you say it is often easier to talk to "faceless friends" (we are not strangers)  :hug:
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Re: And again it makes me cry
« Reply #15 on: February 19, 2009, 10:56:59 AM »
I'm sorry to hear your diagnosis, Sonnie.  I'm afraid I don't know what the implications are.  Will you be able to conceive with some medical intervention?


I really dont know, I spent a year carrying around an ultrasound form, because i just couldnt face it it they told me there were problems.  I finally bit the bullet recently and went.  The sonographer was a lovely lady who was very softly spoken and this helped me to relax, i knew there was something wrong when she told me that "this might hurt, i am going to have to put some pressure on your belly, im sorry darling."   :'(
She had problems finding my right overy as it has considerable sized cyst on it.  My left overy has also apparently got some growths but theres nothing to worry about.  :'( easy for them to say.
I always dreamed of meeting my hubby young, and i did.  I met Joe in college in 2001, we got engaged in 2003 and married in 2005. That part of my dream came true!  Was 21 when we got married and Joe was a week away from being 20!!  :Luv2:
I keep being told by my mum that the reason im not falling pregnant is because of my weight, which i have struggled with for 99% of my life.  I was born with heart problems and other health issues too, and my health is the thing that gets blamed for eveything in the eyes of my parents! My mum and dad went through IVF for 13 years to concieve my sister (Tansel now 26), and mum was the first proud guinne pig for Sir professor Winston, (the miricle worker).  After having Tansel, mum was told "you have one miricle, be content with that."  lLittle did she know that 11 months later i would be concieved naturally.  My Gp keeps telling the that my weight "is the way your made."  and theres not much i can do about it.  I have tried every diet going, been under the supervision of diatitians (cant spell it) and dr's for some time.  I am lucky I have found a man who loves me for the person i am  :'(
Gp says that i am still young and there is still time for me to concieve, and my problems lie with not ovulating everymonth like a normal woman.
I am the way i am and thats it in their eyes. 
I have been carrying around all this for so long now, and its weighing me down (no punn intended!) Joe is a great listener but sometimes, i just feel i need to have the oppertunity to burn someones ears off! totally off-load and well, i suppose this is it!
Thank you to purrs, not only helped me out with my cat-babies, but health issues too   :'(

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Re: And again it makes me cry
« Reply #14 on: February 19, 2009, 10:26:59 AM »
I'm sorry to hear your diagnosis, Sonnie.  I'm afraid I don't know what the implications are.  Will you be able to conceive with some medical intervention?
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Re: And again it makes me cry
« Reply #13 on: February 19, 2009, 04:39:16 AM »
I totally agree with you all, purrs is a wonderful wonderful place, and it is like having an extended family.
I am so glad I was invited, (thanks Sam) and i am sooo privilaged to share everyones good and bad times on here.
I originally joined because my baby Felix went missing, i went through highs and lows through this, and the vibes, the daily chats, the advice that was sent to me through purrs is something i will never forget.  Everyone is so friendly, so kind, we all worry for each other, here for each other and i love that!   :Luv:  I know i am one of the lucky ones who's baby returned on his own accord, and i have enjoyed every update, every post, and what you guys thought of my three babies when i posted some pics.   :Luv2:
I was feeling brave last week and decided to have a look at rainbow bridge posts, well lets just say that i wasnt brave for long!   :'(
This is such a beautiful way to remember our lost babies. I had tried explaining this site to my step-mum-in-law, I didnt get to finish a sentence before she started blubbing too!
I would actually like to take the oppertunity to say thanks to all of you on purrs!  You have all been a great help and made such an impression on me, and my fur babies.   :Luv:

I am such an emotional wreck at the mo, over anything!  im going through an extremely hormonal stage i thinks!!!
Me and hubby have been trying for a family for 4 years now, and after both of us being "checked over" I have just been diagnosed with PCOS, i know its not life threatening or anything.......... its just a lot for me to deal with, i not good a coping with this  :'(

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Re: And again it makes me cry
« Reply #12 on: February 18, 2009, 20:57:10 PM »
I'm one of the originals to and have had highs and lows and losses since coming over from catchat but its like one big extended family here and we have loved and lost and always someone has the right words, poem or just them being there makes all the difference

In fact my OH thinks he is a Purrs widower!!!!!!!!!!!!!! :shocked: :rofl:
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Re: And again it makes me cry
« Reply #11 on: February 18, 2009, 19:30:55 PM »
I'll second everything Gill says ... I was one of the originals that came over from CatChat and think that Purrs is one of the best places on the internet for so many reasons. 

I'm sorry to hear we are turning you into an emotional wreck Sonnie ... I have to admit there does seem to be alot of sad threads running at the moment ... but that's part of what makes Purrs "special" - the support and friendship on here is wonderful.
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Re: And again it makes me cry
« Reply #10 on: February 18, 2009, 19:19:49 PM »
I am always have a weep, anything sad or sometimes happy over not just cats, I cried lots yesterday over the staffy dogs  :shy:
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Re: And again it makes me cry
« Reply #9 on: February 18, 2009, 18:22:06 PM »
I tend to cry at some of the stories and pictures on here to :( but many a time this has been my lifeline and i look upon everyone here(furbabes included ) as my extended family :hug: :hug:
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Re: And again it makes me cry
« Reply #8 on: February 18, 2009, 16:23:46 PM »
Awww Gill you devil - you made me cry again  :hug: :hug: :hug:
I will look at the Roll of Honour but not today - done enough blubbering to last me a lifetime  :rofl:

I am sure I will spend many a happy and fun filled hour on here in the future   MWAH xx
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Re: And again it makes me cry
« Reply #7 on: February 18, 2009, 16:11:31 PM »
Awww Gill   :hug:   

Purrs has come to mean a very great deal to me, for all sorts of reasons, but perhaps the primary one is how much everyone on Purrs cares for everyone else - cats or people :briggin:
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Re: And again it makes me cry
« Reply #6 on: February 18, 2009, 16:04:27 PM »
I have been with Purrs since it started and I find the site very emotional too but also I think its a good thing to be able to grieve for our best friends amongst others that care so much and know exactly how someone feels.

I had not heard of Rainbow Bridge until my cat Kocka died and that was before I found Cat Chat which is where Purrs came from. That is a long story and if you do a search for Purrs birthday you will find out the story  and  its the help, the people, the losses and the happy times that kept about 250 of us together to start Purrs.

We have grown so much since the first emotional day and our birthday which is 15 Nov has a very emotional Rainbow Bridge thread which I started on our first birthday. The first year it took me a number of weeks to search all the threads on Purrs to get it together and I went through boxes of tissues, but it was worth it by the responses.

Last year I started on 15 Nov and kept a running list and am currently doing the same and I think our Roll of Honour is very very special to everyone who has a cat or other animal on it.....as you are new to Purrs you wont know the names and events and people associated with them but each year there are special cats on that list that nobody was expecting to be there and for me its the most emotional place on Purrs.

If you feel brave enough to look there please be patient and wait for the music to load.

Besides the sad side of Purrs we have lots of fun and some great laughs and I will make no apologies for using this to plug The Purrs Cat Show which happens in May each year.......it was gonna be a one off  :rofl:..........and this year the whole show will be LOLcats in various categories. Its only a £1 per picture to enter and all the money goes to our rescues. Also as WC will know there is the big fund raiser once a year in Nov and through  the Auction.........its loads of fun....... and we raised a staggering £2400 last Christmas  which went to Teresa at Paws Inn ;D

So Purrs is a great place to be and I for one have felt all the wonderful healing vibes for my sick Franta over the last week and Purrs people have kept me going and Franta is doing quite well now .........I really dont know what I would have done without all the generosity and support since last Wed.

Ladies you are on a wonderful site and I hope you will feel priviledged to be here , as I do  ;D ;D ;D

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Re: And again it makes me cry
« Reply #5 on: February 18, 2009, 15:39:26 PM »
I know exactly how you all feel - same here  :'(
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Re: And again it makes me cry
« Reply #4 on: February 18, 2009, 09:27:02 AM »
Wibblechick,
i 100% agree with you.
I was brought up with the whole heaven and hell thing too, but never actually thought about where our animals go!
I have had cats for 4 years now, and thank god they are still with me.  I have them and enjoy their company soooo much, i love each one for their different qualities, and nutty moments! 
I have had 2 rats that passed at the same time, xmas 2006  (Alfie and Ratilda)
One gerbil who passed in 2007 (Me-me)

I was distraught when they went, and couldnt let them go.  Just kept hugging them and stroking them.    :'(

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Re: And again it makes me cry
« Reply #3 on: February 18, 2009, 09:14:41 AM »
I was brought up with the idea that good people died and went to Heaven.  Bad people went to Hell (which bad people qualified never seemed to be too clear ...... )  Pets went nowhere .... :(

Then as I grew older, I met people with diferent views  :)

And finally - I heard about the Rainbow Bridge.  Before I had heard about it, I had actually dreamt of somewhere that my cats were all playing together and happy and had made new friends.

It still makes me cry when I read some of the threads.  Even typing "Rainbow Bridge" brings a lump to my throat because I think of my Bridge Kitties ....

I think its human to find many of the things we read about distressing. 

Much music was written to provoke those emotions in us.

Im proud to be able to grieve for an animal - I think its better than the "it was just a cat" attitude too many non-Purrs people have.
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Re: And again it makes me cry
« Reply #2 on: February 18, 2009, 07:41:21 AM »
i know exactly what you mean  :'(
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And again it makes me cry
« Reply #1 on: February 18, 2009, 06:49:10 AM »
i havent been a member for long, but everyday purrs manages to make me upset,and tearful.  :'(
Im at work at 2am everyday, and i always have a lookie on here as soon as i get to work, probably not the best time i know, spending the rest of the day with a mascara stained face!!!
The bad threads make me blub, the lovely threads make me blub!
Before i became a member i had never heard of "rainbow bridge," and even trying to tell my hubby about this wonderful name, and place discribed by all = Sonnie in tears again!
Im an emotional wreck at the moment, if its not purrs, its a song on the radio, a "hello" text from a friend or something totally stupid!

i need a slap!  keep telling myself "sort it out girl"

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