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Re: Still feeling guilty..........
« Reply #16 on: April 24, 2008, 08:04:29 AM »
I'm so sorry for your loss. I had to make the same decision on 1 January, and I still find myself doing the "what if" thing, but the most important thing is to know how much we loved our cats, and how we were willing to take on the pain of loss to save them from pain.

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Re: Still feeling guilty..........
« Reply #15 on: April 23, 2008, 21:49:11 PM »
we all understand here and you should never feel guilty about helping Oscar to stiop suffering and pass to the Bridge peacefully  :hug: :hug: :hug:

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Re: Still feeling guilty..........
« Reply #14 on: April 23, 2008, 21:42:20 PM »
I can only echo what everyone else has said about not feeling guilty - you gave him every chance, and when it was obvious that he wasn't going to get better, you gave him that final act of love and kindness they all deserve. If the vet thought it was fair to try for longer, they would have done, they dont like having to let animals go, they are there to save them.
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Re: Still feeling guilty..........
« Reply #13 on: April 23, 2008, 17:51:12 PM »
Like everyone else has already said, don't feel guilty. You did what you felt was the best for him. At least you now know he is not suffering anymore, and he is having a blast with the other kittes at rainbow bridge, chasing butterflies and being up to no good!!
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Re: Still feeling guilty..........
« Reply #12 on: April 23, 2008, 17:40:45 PM »
So sorry about Oscar, I've been going through the guilt thing too about Gypsy who I lost last week, but really I know I did the right thing for her as she was suffering, and you did the best thing for your Oscar too  :hug:

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Re: Still feeling guilty..........
« Reply #11 on: April 23, 2008, 15:00:26 PM »
Sending an other batch of big  :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: your way xx

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Re: Still feeling guilty..........
« Reply #10 on: April 23, 2008, 14:55:58 PM »
Thanks everyone - that has made me feel a bit better.....

I am waiting to see how Beavis copes on his own before I get another kitty - plus I dont want to feel that Oscar has been replaced.



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Re: Still feeling guilty..........
« Reply #9 on: April 23, 2008, 14:48:46 PM »
Please dont feel guilty Kirst .... Oscar knew he was loved and he looked to you to help him when he needed it the most.  As everyone has said helping our terminally ill babies go to the bridge with dignity and no suffering is the greatest gift we can give them.

I'm sorry you found us under such sad cirmstances but we are all one big cat mad family on here and will do everything we can to help you with the grieving process  :hug:

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Re: Still feeling guilty..........
« Reply #8 on: April 23, 2008, 14:29:50 PM »
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Re: Still feeling guilty..........
« Reply #7 on: April 23, 2008, 13:17:05 PM »
I agree don't feel guilty :Luv: we had to have Felix pts oct 06, because he was suffering and might of only had days or weeks left,I really do know how you feel. :Luv:
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Re: Still feeling guilty..........
« Reply #6 on: April 23, 2008, 12:45:04 PM »
please don't feel guilty as you did the hardest but greatest act of love for your little Oscar to stop his suffering. And don't feel alone. All we mad cat people are out there and I know I can speak for others when I say we send you mega hugs  :hug:  :hug:
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Re: Still feeling guilty..........
« Reply #5 on: April 23, 2008, 12:40:28 PM »
:hug: :hug: :hug:


A hug is just what I need - I am in the office on my own.

But I guess there si a bright side to everything - if I hadnt googled pet bereavement I wouldnt have hit the samaritans site and then found this place - and its soooooooooo good to see there are so many other cat lovers out there! :thanks:



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Re: Still feeling guilty..........
« Reply #4 on: April 23, 2008, 12:38:20 PM »
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Re: Still feeling guilty..........
« Reply #3 on: April 23, 2008, 12:33:16 PM »
What a beautiful Poem - thankyou.



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Re: Still feeling guilty..........
« Reply #2 on: April 23, 2008, 12:27:53 PM »
Please don't feel guilty, sadly there will always be what-ifs in your mind but deep down I think you know that what you did for Oscar was the right thing at the right time - better a minute too soon than a minute too late...  :hug:

The Greatest Gift

I always knew this time would come,
From the very instant our eyes first met.
How I loved you then! How I love you now!
I made a promise then, and I will keep that promise now...
You will not suffer from a pain that will not heal;
You will not know the loss of a life remembered, now gone.

It is for me alone to make this decision,
The price for the bright joy and pure laughter
You brought me during the time we shared.
I am the only one who can decide when it is time.
When my hope dies, and my fear rides high,
Just when I need you most, I must let you go.

It is for you alone to tell me when you are ready
For without your guidance, I will not know
When to lay my grief, my guilt, my anger
My sorrow and my selfish heart aside
And give you this last gift, this greatest gift.
Your eyes will speak to mine, and I will know.

The pain of this moment is excruciating.
Tears stream down my face in a river of sorrow.
And my heart drowns in a pool of grief.
For you have spoken and I have listened,
And unlike other decisions I have made
This one brings no relief...no comfort...no peace.

For if there´s one thing you´ve taught me,
If there´s only one thing I´ve learned...
Unconditional love has a condition after all,
I must be willing to let you go, when you speak to me
I must be willing to help you go, if you cannot go alone.
And I must accept my pain so you can be free of yours.

Go easily now, go quickly now,
Do not linger here, it is time for you to leave.
Go find your strength, go find your youth.
Go find the ones who've gone before you.
You are free to leave me now, free to let your spirit soar
Rest easy now, your pain will soon be gone.

I pray I will find comfort in my memories...
In the dark and lonely days ahead.
I cannot say I will not miss you, I cannot say I will not cry.
For only my tears can heal my broken heart.
But, I promise you this; as long as I live,
You will live, alive in my mind, forever in my heart.

So I give you this last gift, all I have left to give,
And this will be my greatest gift...sending you away.
It is the measure of my unconditional love...
For only the greatest love can say,
"Good-bye, go find the bridge, we'll meet again,
Loving you has been the greatest gift of all."

Forever and Always... Until Rainbow bridge....

« Last Edit: April 23, 2008, 12:28:20 PM by Tiggy's Mum - Helen »

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Still feeling guilty..........
« Reply #1 on: April 23, 2008, 12:23:49 PM »
I had my baby oscar pts on Sunday , he had cardio -myopethy which had only been diagnosed two weeks , and the vet had told me it was incurable , but may respond to treatment.

We was on 5 tablets a day for nearly a week and if anything he went furthur down-hill , refusing to eat , drink and not going to the toilet. I tried hand feeding but he just spat it out , and on the last day he couldnt settle , and his back legs had started to fail. He also growled at me when I picked him up - he used to be the cuddliest cat ever. I coulnt get him to his normal vet so I took him to the emergency vet , but I cant help wondering if I had left him one more day would he have picked back up?

He was obviously in so much pain and I couldnt bear to see him suffer anymore but I still feel bad that maybe I could have had him a bit longer?



 


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