I have ordered it now, so will just have to wait and see.
I will explain the situation to the rescue place and wait and see how Benji does before I consider the kittens (they wouldn't be here for another 2 weeks though and at the moment have not been vet cleared). If they go to another home before Benji is doing better then it wasn't meant to be.
He does seem to be scared of a lot of men, so far he is not scared of my fiance or my step dad, both of whom are quiet men, but the gas man and any other man that comes round, he is quite scared of (slightly louder, bigger men that sort of stride across the living room kinda men, lol). Which makes me think something may have happened to him in his past to create this fear, I am not sure.
Benji comes first though, before any other new cats.
I just want him to be happy
edited to add: Just had a thought, I have just this week gone back to uni to start my masters so I am not home as much and my routine has changed, could this have affected him too?