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Cat General => General Cat Chat => Topic started by: jetcleo on July 08, 2011, 20:23:30 PM

Title: grieving cat
Post by: jetcleo on July 08, 2011, 20:23:30 PM

Hiya everyone, i just wanted to say thanks to everyone who gave me advice and sent best wishes when my baby boy Jet had to go to the bridge.
 :(
I'm still devastated now and miss him so much but i'm worried about Cleo, they've been together for 7 years and now she's acting strange.  I can tell she misses him, any advice on what i can do to help her.  It's been 2 weeks on Sunday  he left us and she's only just statred eating again!!

Title: Re: grieving cat
Post by: Sam (Fussy_Furball) on July 08, 2011, 22:04:14 PM

Hi hun  :hug:

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Hope Cleo perks up soon.  Poor baby she will need lots of love and understanding as her whole little world and all heirachy has been totally rearranged.  She vwill need time to adjust  :hug:

Title: Re: grieving cat
Post by: sheilarose on July 08, 2011, 22:40:06 PM

When my Cassie died many years ago, Beau pined for two weeks, he took almost no food. By the end of the two weeks he was emaciated and I was sure I would lose him too - the worst thing I could imagine.

When he finally started eating again it was chicken roll rather than cat food he would take (i had tried everything), albeit fed by hand in an intimate and private setting (we sat together in the porch with no-one around, him on my knee taking small pieces in silence - no purrs, no words - just strokes and cuddles).

Since then whatever has befallen Beau has been remedied with private cuddles and chicken roll. This is his comfy place. 12 years have now passed and he never really got over Cassie - he was so carefree with her in his life and this joy never really returned - but this combination works for him, and it must be said, gives me some comfort too.

There will be a combination that works for you and Cleo. Please persevere trying different things in different places, find her comfy place, she will come back to you so long as she feels your love.  :hug:

Title: Re: grieving cat
Post by: Tiggy's Mum on July 09, 2011, 21:27:56 PM

I think it will take time for her to adjust, just the same as for humans  :hug: Just try and take some comfort from each other in these sad times  :hug:

Title: Re: grieving cat
Post by: Michelle (furbabystar) on July 11, 2011, 21:34:11 PM

My Willow grieved for her litter Brother.

I would say it took at least 2wks for her to start eating and then it was a few months before she really was almost back to normal.

Just give Cloe lots of extra love and time to get over here loss

Title: Re: grieving cat
Post by: Susanne (urbantigers) on July 12, 2011, 08:11:49 AM

Poor Cleo.  Jaffa grieved when he lost his brother several years ago.  It was more than 2 months before he was back to normal.  He ate ok but he was very depressed and clingy.  It will take her time to get used to get used to not having Jet around.