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Title: Sam's really poorly - RIP darling Sam
Post by: Gillian Harvey on July 09, 2010, 11:52:48 AM
Sam's breathing has been quite laboured these past few days and the heat isnt helping I'm sure, but yesterday he didnt eat much and he's been drinking a lot. This morning I found him outside lying by the larger water bowl I've got outside for them. This breathing is the same as when he was first diagnosed with HCM 2 yrs or so ago and he had to have fluid drained off - not had to have that procedure since and he's been doing so well.

Just taken him in to the vets, not my usual one, and she just wanted to give him antibiotics and steroids  :scared: but I asked about the possibility of fluid building up again, and she's admitted him to do an x-ray to see if thats the case before deciding what to do. She asked if I thought maybe its time, but I don't know, if it is fluid and its successfully drained and he has another 2 yrs like when he was first diagnosed, then thats good, but I know he's more frail than last time to be honest.

I'm so scared I'm going to lose him during the procedure now when I'm not with him, and I could have made the decision to let him go while I was still there with him  :'(
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Post by: Tiggy's Mum on July 09, 2010, 11:54:40 AM
Aww Gillian  :( Sending you a massive  :hug: Thinking of you both and have everything crossed that he pulls through  :hug:
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Post by: Gill (sneakiefeline) on July 09, 2010, 12:06:21 PM
Oh Gillian I do hope he is all right  :hug: :hug: :hug:
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Post by: Gillian Harvey on July 09, 2010, 12:09:09 PM
I'm just going down to be with him, vet thinks he's so poorly he might not survive the procedure anyway
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Post by: Gill (sneakiefeline) on July 09, 2010, 12:09:59 PM
I am so sorry Gillian, and hope that shes wrong  :hug: :hug: :hug:
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Post by: Susanne (urbantigers) on July 09, 2010, 12:12:01 PM
 :hug:  Fingers crossed he makes it through ok  :hug:
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Post by: Lindsey (thefunkyinuit) on July 09, 2010, 12:14:36 PM
Sending massive hugs to both you and Sam. I really hope he pulls through and gets better. I've got everything crossed for you x  :hug:
Title: Re: Sam's really poorly - RIP darling Sam
Post by: Gillian Harvey on July 09, 2010, 12:55:11 PM
He's gone, he was so poorly, vet could have done the x rays and drained, if there was fluid, but his heart sounded so bad, she thought the sedation would have pushed him ove r the ege anyway - plus if he survived the procedure, ultimately as his heart was so bad it most likely wouldnt have given him much more time anyway, so made the decision, was my vet this time and she had a cat with HCM who went downhill suddenly like this too. They were so lovely, let me sit with him on my lap for a while before he was pts, he went to sleep so quickly and gently, I realy wanted him to be at home for this, but was best to do it there and then I suppose, heartbroken
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Post by: Lindsey (thefunkyinuit) on July 09, 2010, 13:06:20 PM
Oh Gillian, I'm so sorry about Sam  :'( I'm sure nothing I can say will make you feel better right now, but if you want to chat, I'm here  :hug: x
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Post by: clarenmax on July 09, 2010, 13:18:23 PM
Aw sweetheart, I'm so sorry  :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug:
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Post by: Tiggy's Mum on July 09, 2010, 13:21:46 PM
So sorry to hear this Gillian  :hug:

RIP Sam, safe and sound at the Bridge by now, waiting until your Mum is ready to collect you xx
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Post by: sheryl on July 09, 2010, 13:38:48 PM
So very sorry Gillian  :hug:  :hug:  :hug:

RIP sweet Sam - play hard at the Bridge xxx
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Post by: Mark on July 09, 2010, 13:55:43 PM
Sorry Gillian :care:

Nothing I can say right now  :(
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Post by: Sylvia on July 09, 2010, 14:00:07 PM
I am so very, very sorry  :hug: :hug: :hug:

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Post by: CC & The Pussycat Guys & Dolls on July 09, 2010, 14:06:47 PM
Oh no Gillian, dont know what to say hun  :'(

RIP Sam xxx

 :hug:
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Post by: Janeyk on July 09, 2010, 14:13:48 PM
 :'(  I'm so sorry Gillian  :hug: :hug:

RIP dear little Sam xx
Title: Re: Sam's really poorly - RIP darling Sam
Post by: Gill (sneakiefeline) on July 09, 2010, 14:16:59 PM
I am so very sorry, this is such sad news and he knew he was forever loved  :hug: :hug: :hug:

RIP Sam, find your friends on the Bridge and play hard
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Post by: bunglycat on July 09, 2010, 14:27:49 PM
Oh Gillian, i am so terribly sorry - i had such a soft spot for Sam , one of my fav Purrs cats.
He had a wonderful life with you and the best of care he could have ever had.
Loads of these  :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug:

 :RIP: Sam -such a handsome boy safe and sound at the bridge now playing with Gypsy
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Post by: tab on July 09, 2010, 14:53:14 PM
Im so sorry
RIP Sam
Play well at the bridge baby
love
Tab
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Post by: Angiew on July 09, 2010, 15:45:29 PM
 :hug:
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Post by: Stuart on July 09, 2010, 16:06:56 PM
awww, Gillian 
I'm so Sorry :(

 :hug: :hug: :hug:
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Post by: JackSpratt on July 09, 2010, 17:04:31 PM
Gillian, I'm SO sorry to hear this.

RIP, Sam - you'll always be loved.
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Post by: LesleyW on July 09, 2010, 18:38:18 PM
 :hug: :hug: :hug:
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Post by: Shiroi-Neko on July 09, 2010, 20:13:09 PM
Sorry to hear about Sam  :hug:
play hard at rainbow bridge
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Post by: ginge66 on July 09, 2010, 20:16:52 PM
So sorry to read this R.I.P Sam  :hug: :hug:
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Post by: Feline Costumier on July 09, 2010, 20:32:16 PM
Oh I'm so sorry Gillian :hug:

RIP Sam.
Title: Re: Sam's really poorly - RIP darling Sam
Post by: Gillian Harvey on July 09, 2010, 21:40:04 PM
Thanks everyone  :thanks: I'm still in shock it all happened so quickly, I can't believe he's gone. He was always there on the worktop (in my way!) I wish he was still there in my way. His eyes used to follow me round the kitchen waiting for that moment when I'd turn and notice him and he'd put a paw out to touch if if I was within reach - I can't bear it, he's been in my life for nearly 13 years (he was born on christmas eve 1997) - from 4 months old. I want to stop crying my head hurts from crying. I tried to hold it in when I went to see mum this afternoon - failed of course, I feel so guilty too, I've been so wrapped up in the foster cats lately - Chico in particular, and I missed precious time with my lovely Sam.  :'(
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Post by: pappilon on July 09, 2010, 22:14:40 PM
Oh Gillian, i am so sorry sweetheart :'(
Thinking of you :hug: :hug: :hug:  :hug:
RIP beautiful Sam.x
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Post by: Michelle (furbabystar) on July 09, 2010, 22:21:40 PM
OMG Gillian I am so so sorry  :hug:

RIP Sam xx
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Post by: Rosella moggy on July 09, 2010, 22:33:35 PM
I am so very sorry Gillian  :'(  RIP Sam baby boy  :hug:

Please try don't beat yourself up Gillian.  It does no one any good  :hug:  Whose to say, if you had time to dither, that you may have made the wrong choice and prolonged the inevitable?  There is no way of knowing what might have been  :(  Hopefully Sam will send you a sign to confirm what I think we all know; that it was his time and he was grateful you were there for him.  I'm in bits for you Gillian  :'( :'( :'( :hug: :hug: :hug:
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Post by: bunglycat on July 09, 2010, 23:55:01 PM
 :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug:
This is so sad -i have always loved Sam from afar  :'( :'( :'(
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Post by: Yvonne on July 10, 2010, 10:50:07 AM
So very sorry to hear this

----------------------------------------


They say memories are golden, well maybe that is true.
I never wanted memories, I only wanted you.

A million times I needed you, a million times I cried.
If love alone could have saved you, you never would have died.

In life I loved you dearly, in death I love you still.
In my heart you hold a place no one could ever fill.

If tears could build a stairway and heartache make a lane,
I'd walk the path to heaven and bring you back again.

Our family chain is broken, and nothing seems the same.
But as we are called one by one, the chain will link again.



 :RIP: :candle:    :RIP: :candle:    :RIP: :candle:   
Title: Re: Sam's really poorly - RIP darling Sam
Post by: madasacatter on July 10, 2010, 11:41:15 AM
So sorry to hear of your heart break and the loss of your beloved cat.  You know you did your very best for him, and you just wish you could have done more.  We all know that feeling.  :grouphug:
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Post by: Susanne (urbantigers) on July 10, 2010, 11:55:12 AM
I'm so sorry, Gillian  :hug:  I don't know what to say.  Sam was one of Purrs furry characters and a real babe  :Luv:  RIP Sam.
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Post by: Jasmine on July 10, 2010, 12:18:51 PM
So sorry Gillian :'(
 :hug:

God Bless Sam
X
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Post by: madamcat (Edd) on July 10, 2010, 13:44:27 PM
So sorry to hear this, Gillian  :hug:

RIP Sam.
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Post by: Liz on July 10, 2010, 16:17:41 PM
Gillian so sorry for the loss of Sam :hug: Our thoughts are with you all
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Post by: Desley (booktigger) on July 11, 2010, 11:30:26 AM
I am so sorry to hear this, I had truly hoped when I read it on Fri that he would just need fluid draining and would bounce back like last time. Please dont feel guilty about spending time with the fosters though, he knew how loved he was. RIP little one.
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Post by: Christine (Blip) on July 11, 2010, 12:02:53 PM
Gillian, I am so sorry for your loss and my thoughts are with you.
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Post by: Dawn F on July 11, 2010, 14:35:08 PM
I am so so sorry, all of your gang are very much loved and I'm sure he didn't feel left out by the fosters  :hug:
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Post by: Millys Mum on July 11, 2010, 19:58:19 PM
So sorry Gillian  :(  :hug: :hug:
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Post by: alisonandarchie on July 11, 2010, 21:40:41 PM
Very sorry to hear news, thinking about you :hug:
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Post by: Gillian Harvey on July 12, 2010, 14:24:20 PM
Thank you for your kind messages  :thanks:  I just feel numb now. He was such a sweet lovely and gentle boy.
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Post by: Kirst on July 12, 2010, 16:41:30 PM
Oh Gillian , I've only just seen this and I'm sat here sobbing - as you know I had a real soft spot for Sam , I am so so sorry he's gone. :'( :'( :'( :'(


Sleep tight little man - I consider myself very lucky to have met you.
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Post by: Kittybabe (Ruth) on July 12, 2010, 17:03:30 PM
So sorry, Gillian. xx
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Post by: maryas on July 13, 2010, 00:00:38 AM
I can only repeat what everyone has already said - we all feel for you and you know it was the right thing to do and don't feel guilty about spending time with Chico - Sam knew how much you loved him and cared for him.

Hope he's met up with Gypsy on the Bridge  :hug:

Sam you may be gone from this Earth but you will never be forgotten darling.  :Luv2: :hug:

Mary
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Post by: Fire Fox on July 13, 2010, 02:14:48 AM
Thanks everyone  :thanks: I'm still in shock it all happened so quickly, I can't believe he's gone. He was always there on the worktop (in my way!) I wish he was still there in my way. His eyes used to follow me round the kitchen waiting for that moment when I'd turn and notice him and he'd put a paw out to touch if if I was within reach - I can't bear it, he's been in my life for nearly 13 years (he was born on christmas eve 1997) - from 4 months old. I want to stop crying my head hurts from crying. I tried to hold it in when I went to see mum this afternoon - failed of course, I feel so guilty too, I've been so wrapped up in the foster cats lately - Chico in particular, and I missed precious time with my lovely Sam.  :'(

 :( Only just seen this and I have tears rolling down my face, so sorry. I know it's easy to say but you should not feel guilty - I know our darling furbabies know how much we love them, they can sense things in so many more ways than mere humans can! I am sure too that Sam loved you for more than just the number of minutes you spent with him, I am sure he could sense that the foster cats arrived unsettled but soon come to feel as safe and contented as he did. :hug:
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Post by: cazzer on July 13, 2010, 19:04:28 PM
I'm so sorry Gillian to hear about poor Sam.     Lots of hugs x x
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Post by: CarolM (Wendolene) on July 14, 2010, 14:55:05 PM
I've only just caught up with this thread.  So sorry to hear the heartbreaking news Gillian.  :hug:
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Post by: swampmaxmum on July 17, 2010, 16:23:44 PM
Gillian, I've been away and only just seen this thread. I am so very sorry about little Sam. RIP little one, you were and are so loved.
Just sending all my love to you too and big big hugs  :hug: :hug: I hope you are doing ok and please don't blame yourself for anything. lots of love xxxxxx
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Post by: CC & The Pussycat Guys & Dolls on July 19, 2010, 16:12:29 PM
How gorgeous is Sam  :Luv2: Gillian I think Sam was one of the most loved Purrs's cats, everyone adored him  :hug:
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Post by: Gillian Harvey on July 20, 2010, 22:47:56 PM
Sorry not been around lately - thanks again for your messages  :thanks: Losing Sam knocked me for six and I was just starting to feel human again - but I picked up his ashes today  :'( . I also stupidly looked through all my photos of him - did manage a little smile at the infamous 'Tomato face' photo that Mary posted, but ended up in bits again.

Something amazing though - I brought his ashes home early evening and tonight I was sitting watching telly, it was about 8.45pm and it had been raining. I happened to look out the window and there was this wonderful double rainbow, I couldnt believe it, unusual to see a rainbow so late, but there had been sun, then cloud, then rain, then a bit of late sun breaking through - and this beautiful double rainbow, one part slowly faded, but the single rainbow then became stronger and made a complete arch  :wow: - it made me cry again of course, but it just felt so perfect too - the fact that his ashes had come home and then that same evening - the rainbow.

An emotional day, I can't say much more at the moment, just thanks too, for the pm's, I will reply, just not quite back in action yet  :(
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Post by: CC & The Pussycat Guys & Dolls on July 21, 2010, 08:12:48 AM
 :hug:
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Post by: clarenmax on July 21, 2010, 09:21:12 AM
How clever of your boy to send you such a beautiful rainbow  :Luv2: :Luv2:

Its so hard collecting their ashes, but he's back home with you and the others, right where he belongs  :hug: :hug:
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Post by: Janeyk on July 21, 2010, 09:25:31 AM
Gillian  :hug:
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Post by: Kirst on July 21, 2010, 14:39:01 PM
 :hug: :hug:
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Post by: Zenith (Liz) on July 21, 2010, 14:51:55 PM
I've only just seen this I am so sorry Gillian  :(

Sweet little Sam, he was lovely
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Post by: bunglycat on July 21, 2010, 15:08:38 PM
 :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug:
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Post by: maryas on July 21, 2010, 16:46:44 PM
 :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: Gillian.

I bet the rainbow was mostly red - having tomato soup with Gypsy  :hug: :Luv2:

Love Mary xx
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Post by: Dawn F on July 21, 2010, 17:34:34 PM
awww Gillian, I'm so sorry you are finding things so hard, I hope the time comes soon when you can think of him and smile without the tears  :hug:
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Post by: Christie on July 23, 2010, 20:54:13 PM
Missed this topic....very sorry to hear about Sam, Gillian...he was gorgeous, and full of character. And I'm sure he knew how much he was loved.
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Post by: Daisymac on July 25, 2010, 20:18:07 PM
That photo of Sam and the tomato soup really makes me smile every time I see it,   what a wonderful boy he way.  RIP darling Sam  :hug: :hug:
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Post by: Gillian Harvey on July 26, 2010, 23:35:27 PM
Thanks everyone - I'm getting there, I think.
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Post by: Steff - Petsearch Bedford HQ on July 26, 2010, 23:41:51 PM
I never really know what to say in these sad times so hadn't said anything but did think about you Gillian when I was reading what was happening :(

I just wanted to say how wonderful it was of Sam to send you a rainbow :)

Hug xx
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Post by: Gillian Harvey on July 27, 2010, 00:06:32 AM
Thank you Steff  :thanks: