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In Loving Memory Cats => Rainbow Bridge - In Loving Memory => Topic started by: momma on December 13, 2009, 20:23:03 PM
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Well here I m again. I have not been on here on 2years. But my heart was broken once again!!!
My wonderful black cat Dusty is now in heaven. But my heart is broken so much I can not stop crying. He was 14 and beautiful. He had a tumor in his mouth, I kept him going as long as possible but the vet said it would be inhumaine to let him go on. But I miss him to no end. I found him at 3 weeks old and just want him back.
It has been 10 days when will the pain end???? I want to save another animal but how do I with my heart so broken
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:'( aww, I'm so sorry for your loss but you've done the kindest thing for your little one, it is very painful at first but it does get easier, so glad you've posted you'll get lots of support here :hug: :hug:
RIP sweet little Dusty xxxx
:candle:
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Thank you for replying. It means so much to me
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Dusty had a little stuffed animal he carried aroung named Tiger. I have Tiger and a pic of Dusty on my end table.. Ilove you little man
You got me through such rough times Mommy will always be here talking to you
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:Luv2: awww bless :hug: :hug:
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So very sorry to hear about Dusty :hug: :hug:
RIP Dusty, you have left a pawprint in your humans heart forever
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RIP beautiful Dusty. :(
I am so sorry :hug: :hug:
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Dusty's Story
Found him at 3 weeks. A man walkes him in a laundry room and left him there. We watched this heartless man walk out with no black kitten. We walked down there and there was a little black kitten.
We took him brought him to the vet and he was ours. When he turned 6mos, he got very sick the vet couldn't get him better. Thye put him on human meds and I put him on a heating pad every night to keep him warm. After a week he came back to us. There was my littleman. DUSTY!
He loved when you changed sheets on the bed he would jump on the bed and roll under them and just kick around.
He had beautiful yellow eyes. Dusty I love you. Play with Bubba abd Momma. But mommy is here, forever.
Love you
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I'm so sorry for your loss :hug:. Dusty sounds like a wonderful cat and you will never forget him but one day you will realise that you are able to smile because he lived rather than cry because he died. I hope that day is soon but in the meantime you have to grieve. I doubt there is anyone on this site who doesn't understand what you are going through right now :care:
When the time is right for you to help another animal you will know, and hopefully that lucky animal will help you too.
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Thank you CarolM. I hope the same as well. The support helps
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RIP Sweet Dusty, play hard on Rainbow Bridge xxx
Momma..... :hug: :hug: :hug:
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Thank you Bazsmum :hug:
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Momma, I am truly sorry about Dusty. :(
If the cancer was bad enough that the vet thought it inhumane to let him go one longer, then you made the right decision. And it was a hard and painful one, I know it well.
It will be quote painful for some time, but then one day you will find that when you see him in your mind it is not just then last image f him and the pain will be a bit less. It will lessen a little each day, but this is a very slow process. More important is don not expect it to every fully go away. You will always feel something in your heart and soul when you think about him. You will find that the hole never fully goes away, but at the same time your heart is always large enough to share love with more when/if you are ready. The new animal you get will never be a replacement for Dusty, ever, but will find a space beside Dust’s in your heart.
Know that the pain shows you loved Dusty too. The more it hurts now, the more you loved him. And I bet Dusty knows you did and is watching over you right now. :)
I’ll be thinking about Dusty today and you as well in hopes you feel a little better and can rest.
Sincerely,
David
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David:
Thank you for your kind words. Beautifly said. I have so so days and then real bad ones. I looked at my vet and read it in her face. Truly if was up to me he would be here. But how do I let him suffer.
As of now I feel horrible that there are animals out there in a cage and I am sitting morning when I saved Dusty and thats the right thing to do. Get these animals out of cages and give them good homes. But part of my heart does not want to betray him. He is not replaceable. I guess time will let me know.
Once again thank you every word helps me
PS I always called him Dust !!
Momma
Joyce
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Truly if was up to me he would be here. But how do I let him suffer.
Joyce, You did the right thing and put his needs adhead of your emotional response. Our hearts may want one thing, but you understood the greater need. :)
But part of my heart does not want to betray him. He is not replaceable. I guess time will let me know.
You just need to do 2 things:
1. Know and understand in your heart that you are not going to "replace" Dust if you adopt a new cat in need of a home. You will be adding a new room to your heart for the new cat, while maintaining the room you have for Dust. No replacement, an addition, and I am sure Dust would more than understand and want you to be able to share your life, heart and soul again while giving a home to another who is needing one. :)
2. Never rush yourself. WHen the time is right you will do it them. Perhaps you will see a cat in a shelter and just decide to walk in and adopt then, or perhaps you will decide at home, but you will know when you are ready. DO not let anyone push you into it before then.
Sincerely,
David
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So very sorry to hear about Dust :RIP:
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A soft full tail, exquisite eyes,
soft purring at the door,
playful swatting, frequent naps,
toys strewn across the floor.
With gentle rubs and playful purring
you made your presence known
and, knowing you were always there,
we never felt alone.
You loved it when we scratched your ears,
we swear it made you smile.
We could never stay angry with you,
we couldn’t if we tried.
The soft sweet purring now has ceased,
no gentle rubs to greet us,
just memories of a special friend
and good times are all we see.
Although we miss you dearly,
we’ll try not to feel so blue,
because we know that there’s a bridge
for special cats like you.
:RIP: :candle: :RIP: :candle:
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Yvonne: Thank you for the beautiful poem. It means alot to read it
Joyce (Momma)
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Well today is 2 weeks!! What a long 2 weeks. I just miss him. He meant so much to me. I hate being in this house with out him. It is not the same. I only moved in this house a month ago. So I am really out of my element and now the one little thing I always had to go to is not here. I was going to go to a no kill shelter here, but maybe this weekend. I hate that other animals live in cages. But I really just want Dust back.
Dusty I love you and miss you. Find Momma and Bubba. I will get all 3 of you one day.
Love Mommy
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Oh Joyce I feel your pain :hug:
Goodnight God bless Dusty, you were much loved xxx
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CC: Thank you so much. I am sure you feel the same pain as myself. Itmeans so much when people like you reply to me. I am sure you were truly loved as well. I have a picture of Dust and his stuffed animal on my night table and still have his bed.
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I will be thinking of you and saying prayes for the both of us. The pain is unbearable. I wish you peace.
Thank you for your kind words
Joyce
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Oh Momma I'm so sorry for your loss. I know how hard it is and my thoughts are with you. I'm glad you're getting comfort from the lovely people on here. Like so many of us, i found purrs when I was plodding through the days with my heart breaking after losing my boy. It helped me a lot and it will help you too. Its clear how much you loved Dusty and you will be missing him terribly, all you can do is take comfort in the fact that you gave him such a wonderful life filled with love and that even at the end, you were thinking of what was best for him. :hug:
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Rockysmum
Thank you for writting to me about my boy. Everyone that has written me has help calm me a bit, because I know we all feel the same pain and we all undestand each other.
He meant so much to me.
Once again thank you
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Hi Joyce
I'm so sorry to hear that you lost Dusty :hug: :hug:
Having to make that final decision for our babies is the hardest thing we have to do, but he would have been so grateful to you, and will always be looking down from Rainbow Bridge over you :hug:
The pain does start to subside, this I can promise, but I don't think it will ever go away :( I lost my boy at the end of July, he'd been with me for 9 years, and the feeling of loss was just terrible, I still miss Max every second of every day, but now at least I can smile about all the good times we shared, rather than cry all the time about having lost him :shy:
I think its even harder when you've been looking after a cat with an illness or special needs, as that bond becomes even closer, quoting Pav from an email she sent me when I lost Max, their needs become more important than yours, and it becomes all consuming, then suddenly, nothing :( Its hard to deal with.
One thing I will promise you is that Dusty will never truly leave you, he'll always live on in your heart and soul, and he might even send you signs that he's still around, I know my Maxy has and I know without any doubt that its him :Luv2:
And when it comes to adopting another furbabe, when the time is right for you, go for it :) You'll never replace Dusty, and nor would you want to, but the greatest tribute to a cat we've loved is to love another, and I'm sure Dusty would want your love and care to be extended to another furry :hug: We adopted our Poot only a few weeks after Maxy left, the house felt so empty, and we learned of another FIV cat needing our help, so think it was fate :Luv2:
Be good to yourself
Clare
xx
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Hi Clare:
Thank you for writting me. I am so sorry about Max. You were a wonderful mommy taking care of him.
Dusty was sick and I knew it, but just kept like you said taking care of him. Sometimes I question my decision of him not being here anymore. I do hope he forgives me. He coludnt drink anymmore, he tried but the tumor just took over his mouth. I hope I can get to really smile again.
It is so lonely cominghome to an empty house. Even if he was sleeping I would always go to him and jsut sit with him.
In my heart I feel he would love me to take care of another little furry baby, and I will. But the pain in my heart sometines is really unbearble. But I think after the holidays I will adopt again because I think would Dusty of wanted to be in a cage. I know he would hate that.
You are a saint for adopting sick animals. I wish Poot all the health life can bring and your other little baby.
Once again thank you from the bottom of my heart for your kind words.
I wish you all the best.
Joyce
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momma, as others have said, we all know the pain, and will know it again before we are done ourselves
this dilemma over if and when to take another cat under our wing is natural, and usual, and yet so hard
but there is no law which says you have to love another cat as you loved Dusty - if you can give a good and caring home to a cat which really needs one that is enough - if you come to love him or her in time then that is a bonus for both of you
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Triger:
I agree with what you said. I an going after holiday to adopt another baby, and give it a grat home. I hope to love this animal one day as much as Dusty. Animals deserve a happy home.
And yes it would be a wonderful bonus, if I get close to this new baby as I was Dusty
Once again thank you
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Well it is coming towards to xmas and Dusty always played in the boxes and the paper. I am trying to look at it as a happy memory, I hope that happens.
He used to love it. I still see his little face in my head.
I love you Dust forever
Mommy
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My heart still hurts me. I love you little man dust. You live on in my heart and soul
Love mommy
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:hug: :hug: :hug: I think Christmas is going to be hard for quite a few of us this year :'( :hug: :hug: :hug:
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I think there's a little cat out there somewhere waiting to be found, and which Dusty will be guiding his mum towards in the new year :hug:
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Clarenmas:
I also think Christmas will be hard on all of us as well for a very long time. I took some x-mas decorations out and saw Dustys little stocking. My heart just sunk. I will light a candle for you.
Trigger: I hope you are right. I hope he does guide me so I dont feel guilty for adopting. I will also light a candle for you as well.
You both be well
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Trigger: I hope you are right. I hope he does guide me so I dont feel guilty for adopting.
I totally believe that Dusty will lead a new furbabe your way :hug: Max did it for me, and I honestly do believe that Dusty will for you too. You have nothing to feel guilty about, if you have enough space in your heart and home to adopt another cat in need, then I'm sure Dusty will be extremely proud of you :hug: We never forget those who have left us, but by loving another, we can give them an amazing life too :)
And I can speak from experience too, when I first lost Max I couldnt imagine having another cat for a while, but when we learned of Poot, well, as soon as we saw him we new it was destiny that we were brought together.
I'm sure you'll feel the same when you see a furry little face looking your way, honestly :hug: :hug:
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Clarenmax:
Thank you for your kind words. It means so much to me. I know Dusty would love me to take care of another furbabe. I am so glad you found Poot and he helped you. :hug: :hug:
I am lonely without a furbabe. I qm lonely without Dusty. BUT I did take the frst step walking into a store with furbabes. And I held a little 1 year old but my husband asked me to please wait. But if I felt the connection I would of grabbed him. Time will letme know and my little man as well.
Thank you for your kind words again. It means a lot to me that I can talk to people who have gone through what I am going thru. Not that I wish this heartache on anyone.
You and your family have a Happy and Healthy holiday
Joyce :hug: :hug:
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So sorry to hear of your loss, i've only just read this thread. Its heart breaking when you lose a beloved pet, and often people just don't understand your grief,
but many of us on here have been through the same, and are here to support you no matter how you are feeling. Sending comforting hugs :hug: :hug:
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Thank you for your support. Everyone that has written me has been wonderful. :hug: :hug: right back to you.
You have to be a true animal lover to understand the pain. I wish you much healing to you.
Thanks again
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MY XMAS DUSTY MOMMOY LOVES YOU AND MISSES YOU
I AM STILL HEARTBROKEN. I MISS YOUR FACE
LOVE YOU
MOMMY
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Well xmas is gone was not the same. I love you Dusty. I miss you playing in the all the boxes
Forever in my heart
Mommy
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Heading into New Years. Dusty I love you. I pray you are with Momma and Bubba.
It still hurts so bad not having him here. But I have it him in my heart. I am thinking of adopting again. Getting closer to it so another furbabe can have a loving home. Maybe it will help me. I guess we will see.
I dont no. I no everyone on here knows how I feel. So I just need to write on here because you all understand
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having another cat will fill the need to have a cat in your home, but not your feelings of loss for Dusty - they will never leave you
but another cat which really needs you will let you back into the world of cat while you grieve, and I'm sure that will help :hug:
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Trigger:
That is what I am hoping for. Thank you for writing me. It helps me when people respond.
Thank you :hug:
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It is about to be new years and my little dust is not here. It hurts so bad. Coming on a month since he is gone. I really just cant beleive it. I am trying to get myself together. I pray it happens.
Dust I love you little man always
Love mommy
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HAPPY NEW YEAR DUSTY. PLAY WITH MOMMA AND BUBBA AND ALL YOUR NEW FRIENDS
MISS YOU
LOVE
MOMMY
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Big :hug: Momma xxx
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THANK YOU SHERYL. :hug: BACK TO YOU
HAPPY NEW YEAR
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Sending you a big :hug: sweetie.xx
I know what you are going through.
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Pappilon:
Thank you. I am sure you understand. I hope your heart can heal. I am sending you big :hug: xxx
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I'm sure all our Bridge Babes will be watching over us today :hug: xxx
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So sorry to hear about Dusty - i am sorry i missed this thread- i lost my Bungly 3 weeks tomorrow due to cancer in the lIver so i know just how you feel as do most on here. Its been a very bad year for fur babies this year on here.
Dusty sounds a wonderful boy who had a wonderful life with you and you cared enough to do the right thing- i know just how hard that is - i am still grieving myself and certainly couldn''t enjoy Xmas this year - although i still have the other 4 it just wasn''t the same .
I hope Dusty finds you another fur baby to love when you are ready :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug:
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Bunglycat:
Thank you from the bottom of my heart. On jan2 it will be a month. I truly can not beleive that he is not with me. I feel so lonely.. The pain in my heart feels like it will never go away.
I am so sorry about Bungly. I know itis so hard. I understand about x-mas. It did not feel like it to me at all. I am sorry Bungly had to experience that.
I wish you such peace. :hug: :hug:
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Well it is New Years Eve at 9:14 New York time. Even this is not the same anymore. I really do not care rightnow that it is New Years. I wish my boy was here, but wishing does not bring him back.
Dusty I miss you more and more each day. You play hard my little Dust. And no that mommy is always thinking of you!!!!!
Love you always
Mommy
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Well today is 1 month you left me. R.I.P. Dusty!! I miss everything about you!! I forever will love you and you are always in my heart. My heart still hurts for you. I still see your little black face.
Please play with all the furbaes on the bridge.
Love always
Mommy
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I went to look at some furbabes to rescue. I had a puppy and was looking at an adult cat, but I just couldn't do it yet. I want to get another little one. I will try again
Dust I miss you and love you
Mommy
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you'll know when the time is right :hug:
have you considered fostering, meanwhile? - it would give a needy cat a chance of some home life, and it would offer you a chance to do some kitty caring without having to commit yourself
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I would love to foster bu t I get very attached to animals. I probably wouldn't give it back. It would be to hard for me. But great suggestion
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I am like that Momma, I get very attatched hence two ex foster cats still with me....Its worth a try though, that way no pressure! ;) :hug:
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Yes , i think i would be a "failed fosterer " too !!
I even look out at night for cats that occasionally come for food and then worry when i don''t see them -they have homes too !!
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The foster is a wnderful thing to do, but I know myself. I just couldn't do that. I guess if I can keep them. I would have to think about that. But I really dont think it is for me.
When I hear cats outside my window howling I run to my front door to see if everything is ok. And if I can take care of them in some kind of way.
These foster cats come from where? And why are they foster?? I am not familiar with this.
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perhaps it's a UK thing only
fosterers are used by rescues who either don't have a centre, or who have a cat who is unhappy in a rescue centre - the fosterer cares for the cat until it is ready to be rehomed and the costs are met by the rescue
if the fosterer decides she wants to keep the cat, then of course that is fine
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Oh thank you I understand now. But knowing me I wouldn't let it go. Very hard decision.
But thank you once again. I just want to know the furbabe in mine. I don't know if they have that here
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I mis you still my little boy
Love
Mommy
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My husband wanted to get a puppy. So we did a lab husky. He is beautiful. Heres the but I stil miss Dusty so much. I am going to adopt a furbabe in about 2 weeks. It might sound odd but this will be in Dusty's honor.
How do I get close to these animals, when I miss my little man??
Dusty I love you always
Love Mommy
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So sorry to hear about Dusty :(
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When my cat Cleo died I wanted to get some sort of memorial plaque to remember her by. I bought this one, though there are many on the market:
http://cgi.ebay.co.uk/PET-MEMORIAL-DOG-CAT-RABBIT-PERSONALISED-ANGEL-FIGURE_W0QQitemZ300373806652QQcmdZViewItemQQptZUK_Pet_Supplies_Dogs?hash=item45efac8e3c
I know that it may sound like a cliche but time is a great healer and as each day goes by it will get easier to bear.
Take care Joyce :hug: :hug:
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it is a tribute to Dusty that you want to adopt another cat, momma
because of him you found having a cat a wonderful experience, and want to try to have that experience with another
if you hadn't loved him you wouldn't want to risk having another in case you didn't love him or her either
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DUSTY I LOVE YOU AND MISS YOU O MUCH. YOU WILL NEVER BE FORGOTTEN.
LOVE MOMMY
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I LOVE YOU MY BEAUTIFUL BEAUTIFUL BOY
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I know how you feel -even though i have 4 others i still miss Bungly looking down on me from the top of the Sofa every night -she was one of the most loving little cats i have had .