Purrs In Our Hearts - Cat Forum UK
Cat General => General Cat Chat => Topic started by: Daisymac on October 05, 2009, 23:03:02 PM
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When I joined purrs it was such a lovely place and now it has changed, everyone seems so wary of what they say and so wary of helping people, please please can we get back to how we were, I used to love this place and really loved the support and I am sure so many of us on here did but it seems to have changed, so please can we get back to normal and please lets all be happy :Luv2:
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I don't think I've changed much DM :hug:
I think I've been keeping up with most threads and not sure if anything else has happened this afternoon :-:. I think it's been an esp strained time the last week or so and, having been so involved with Teresa's awful recent losses (thru JOR bless his little cotton socks), will no doubt have upset you greatly. I know it's upset me a lot esp with Lottie's loss of Bilbo also. I know it doesn't help if one or two of us have the odd falling out esp at such a sad time but chin up gal. We'll be here a while longer me thinks :)
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I think purrs is still a lovely place and cant see anything that has changed, i certainly havent.
We go through phases of great sadness and there have been to many babes going to the bridge this year and yes occasionally things get tense but thats life sadly.
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I think when we all loose a fur baby we all react in different ways and have other lives going on and sometimes they collide and some folks can't react the way we would like and that makes us all human in our own ways
We also should remember that dirty linen should be cleaned behind closed doors instead of folks coming on and seemingly taking sides which has happened recently on a couple of threads
At the end of the day we will all agree that the cats come first and anything else may not be to our liking and we all post things here to share but don't perhaps hear the comments we would like
I have lost 2 furkids this year and have had the one year anniversary of Gems tragic loss yesterday and know how folks feel when they loose and mourn a much loved baby wether it has had a long life or one cut short despite our best care
I have some strong opinions and sometimes just don't respond to a thread as sometimes my comments are delted in case they offfend whilst others get to stay!
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Purrs just seems the same to me, as nice as it always has been :)
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On Forums it can seem cold at times, I always make sure I use loads of ;D with my text to try and keep it happy!
I know when there is someone or a few people who have sick or even lose their little babes it affects me badly....I feel really down and sad!
I say Purrs is the best place though.....Whatever happens it always gets sorted out....The mods on here are rather good you know, not one sided! :hug: :hug: :hug:
Lets all have a :grouphug:
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I have some strong opinions and sometimes just don't respond to a thread as sometimes my comments are deleted in case they offend
I bet they ain't as opinionated as some of mine that don't see the light of day Liz :evillaugh: esp grammar errors :rofl:
This is fab site. Very warm place to be :grouphug:
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Thanks ladies, yes you are right, it has just been a sad time on here, lets hope things can be happy, on a another note one of my cats Lou Lou Flump is missing, she has been gone a few days now and it is so unlike her, I am making up posters today to put in the local area so fingers crossed and please send some come home vibes :hug:
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I have been a member of a number of different forums over the last five years. They all go through ups and downs.
I think Purrs is a very tight community . I have never felt that I am anything more than a visitor here - an observer looking in. Everyone tries to be welcoming but many of the threads are incomprehensible unless you know the history of each member's furfamily.
Many of the members have very strong views, which is to be expected in a forum linked to cat rescue, and many members are rather sensitive, again not unexpected when each member is the type of person who adores cats. Put these two things together and it is unsurprising that some people get upset, either because someone has posted a strong opinion or because that strong opinion has been deleted.
Adding some come home viibes for Lou Lou Flump
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i dont think Purrs is the same, and I dont think it is due to the sad losses we have had this year (I have lost 3, and had two first anniversaries), we have lost some members, and others who dont post as much, and I think that is most of it. The threads are certainly different, and I dont spend as much time on here as the atmosphere isn't the same, and there aren't as many threads I want to post on.
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Firstly, fingers crossed that LouLou flump gets herself home ASAP :hug:
I still think Purrs is a lovely place to be and I don't think I'll ever beat my addiction to it :evillaugh: Like life itself I think Purrs will always go through phases whereby people are feeling stressed or depressed, happy or excited... We have over 2500 members now so things will never stay the same as new and old members alike come and go.
I have been a member of a number of different forums over the last five years. They all go through ups and downs.
I think Purrs is a very tight community . I have never felt that I am anything more than a visitor here - an observer looking in. Everyone tries to be welcoming but many of the threads are incomprehensible unless you know the history of each member's furfamily.
Aww, sorry you feel like that Moira :hug: What I would say is that every single one of us, even those of us with ridiculously high post counts, started off as a newbie not 'knowing' any of the ins and outs. I do think that Purrs as a whole genuinely welcomes all new members with open arms :)
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I am going to put my foot in it and say that Purrs is not the same and it hasnt been for a good few months, nothing to do with the heated debates which should have been done by pm, nothing to do with the trolls who our wonderful moderators sorted out. My opinion we have excellent moderators, some who are so caring and supportive too.
I can understand how Moira feels because just lately I have felt like a visitor,but for a small handful of people who have supported me and kept me afloat during this awful time. I will add that maybe my brain is not what is should be just now,( I am coping with 3 deaths in one week ) however things here felt so distant and lonely that when I lost Chilli on Sunday I felt it was pointless posting , I felt that most people wouldnt be interested in an 18 month old whose only crime was to be born a feral rather than a pedigree,regardless I loved him dearly and he enjoyed strokes and headbutts just like any other.
Overall I feel the forum has become very clicky, not as cat orientated as it used to be and certainly not the place you can turn to when your heart is breaking.
Claire could Lou Lou Flump have gone off with Jerry , I so hope she turns up :hug: :hug:
I thank the people who took time to support me with the Siralots, you are keeping me going. :hug:
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I don't think that Purrs has changed a huge amount recently, apart from a few threads recently where the mod team have had to wade in and sort things!
I do feel there has been terrible sadness over the last few months though, so many furbabes lost and so many grieving their losses, the pain is clear to see.
What I would say is that without you wonderful people, I would not have coped in the final months/weeks of Max's illness :hug: I posted several heartfelt messages, especially the one 'how do you know when to let your cat go', and the support and advice I received was just amazing. When I posted that I'd let Max go, so many messages and PMs which made me feel so much stronger, just knowing that you were all there for me was such a massive help, and for this I thank you all wholeheartedly :hug:
When I adopted Poot, I also felt you were all sharing my joy, and again this made me soo happy as I had such a wonderful group of people to share my news with :)
I think any forums can be a little bit daunting, but we all start off as newbies, just some of us are on here more than others :shy: I think Purrs is still a great place to be, good advice where needed, lots of cooing over cute pictures, I still love it here :)
Now to add lots of come home vibes, and a special :hug: to T for her loss yesterday xx
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I think the "atmosphere" on Purrs has fluctuated a little for a while, but can't pinpoint why. It's sad, and I hope it gets back it's team spirit a little more soon. :grouphug:
Moira, I'm sorry to hear you feel like a visitor......but really we kind of all are. It's like a drop in centre for cat addicts! :evillaugh:
Daisymac, sending come home vibes for Lou Lou Flump. :)
Teresa, I'm so sorry about Chilli. Please post about him - I don't think it matters if a cat is moggy or pedigree. It still hurts the same amount when you lose them. :hug: :hug:
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I don't think Purrs has changed a great deal - they were certainly there for me again when I had my recent difficulties for which I am extremely grateful. The chatting about non-cat stuff I found invaluable for every day life which we all have to encounter and the advice given was absolutely sound :thanks:
We only get one crack at life - so let's try and give it our best shot :hug:
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I don't think I lot has changed but I do think that Purrs 'feels' different. I don't know why but I suppose it is inevitable with members coming and going bringing new dynamics etc. :shy:
Sending lots of these for Teresa and DaisyMac :hug: :hug: :hug:
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I have learned that a forum is like a business, in that when it starts out, it's very small and everyone knows each other very well. As it grows, more and more people join and the original sense of a small team facing things together is inevitably lost.
As that happens, people tend to gather together in little groups: at best, that's friendship and at worst it's cliqueyness. But it is human nature.
It can therefore be easy to feel excluded from certain interchanges, particuarly if the people 'in the know' are of the same vintage as each other and you aren't.
My own take on this is that I celebrate having forged several friendships that I would never have otherwise made. My support for these people almost certainly reveals itself in my posts but I would hate anyone else to feel that they are excluded from dialogue with me. Assuming anyone else should want to have one! :evillaugh:
We were all new once and I think the only way to get included is to jump in: you'll soon make friends as there are lots of very warm people on here.
That was a bit of a ramble, wasn't it?
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That was a bit of a ramble, wasn't it?
No C, you said exactly what I couldn't put into a coherent reply :shy:
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That was a bit of a ramble, wasn't it?
No C, you said exactly what I couldn't put into a coherent reply :shy:
Haha! People do that for me quite regularly..... :evillaugh:
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Im afraid I agree with Moira and Theresa. I dont always feel that welcome here. I get scared of posting a problem I may have with my cats because I find some members to be so opinionated and un-sympathetic I end up feeling that even though I have 2 rescue cats one of which Ive had for 12 yrs when they said she wouldnt live but from some of the things that are said I feel as though Im being accused of neglect and not caring for my cats as well as others would.
On the other side of that I do post and try to reply to other posts when I can say something relevevant because I feel that Purrs IS a good site and needs to be supported and used otherwise it may be closed and that would be a great loss to rescues, cat owners and general lurkers.
I thank Tan and the mods for all their hard work. It is very hard to keep the peace when you have members from all areas, all ages and all views
I hope what I say comes across as I mean it (see what I mean about being worried :evillaugh:)
I hope Lou Lou flump comes home soon :hug:
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Tab
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I totally agree with that Tab said.
And Lou Lou Flump come home your meowmy needs you.
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I do think it can be very intimidating for newbies but that goes for any forum that is as established as purrs. I have never felt outside looking in but at the same time I have never really felt completely on the inside. I would agree with Tab that on occasion some members can be very sanctimonious when responding to someone asking for advice or just posting about something that is going on with them. I have been made to feel like a terrible novice only doing the worst by my puds on more than one occasion! I try to take it with a pinch of salt.
Unfortunately, I have been part of some of the less than ideal situations but the support I have received during it all has been wonderful and I definitely feel a little bit more on the inside. I was so terrified of the impact it would have on what people thought of me and hated that I was involved in anything of that nature, I still feel guilty about the whole thing. But the positive is that I now feel sort of like I've moved from loitering in the doorway engaging with one or two people to now sitting at the edge of the circle :shy:
As someone else said, the atmosphere has changed but I would put it down to the natural evolution of the site. We seem to have a lot more occasional visitors and newbies at the moment so there will be an adjustment period for that. No doubt we will have a settled period again then another influx of newbs, it's just the circle of life for a forum of such popularity.
Regardless I think for the most part, the advice and support we all receive as we go through the ups and down life throws at us.
I still think this is a wonderful place to be :shy:
Lou Lou Flump, come home baby, Meowmy is worried and misses you.
:hug: to Theresa. I don't always post on all the heartbreaking threads but know that I always lurk, sending vibes and admiring the care and love you give to every pud that crosses your path.
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I've always considered myself a edge of circle member! its how I am in my real life as well - but I've never been made to feel unwelcome and generally find purrs a friendly helpful place - if we were sitting around a (big!!) table in a pub or something we'd find people not to our taste - its the same here, if somebody says something I don't agree with I'm more likely to avoid the thread - hopefully the sadness will lift and we can get back to normal soon - bring on the auction, that always brings out the best in everybody!!
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The auction is not that far away flap flap :shify: :shify:
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Oh yes, we likes the Auction ;D ;D ;D
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bring on the auction, that always brings out the best in everybody!!
It brings out the worst in me :evillaugh: :evillaugh: :evillaugh:
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Oh yes the auction
Better get saving then :rofl:
love
tab
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The more I read this the more I feel an outsider.
I try to offer support to whoever needs it,even if its just one quick post; but I am amazed to find out that someone lurking is sending support, I`m not telepathic.
JS am not going to post about Chilli, his pic was posted numerous times over last year,barely a soul showed interested in him ,but then maybe he was missed in the midst of Blackpool.
As for people coming and going, fine there will always be newbies to fill the gaps, but goodness me are us oldies so disposable.
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Being a newbie myself, i have to say I have found this a very friendly and helpful forum. I do not post very much on any of the forums I am a member of which is only 3 but I always log on and read the posts and think about the people who are having problems or who have lost their beloved puds even if I don't leave a message. :hug:
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T, I for one will would mourn the loss of your feral having so many of them, they are more special as they allow us to enter their lives and be part of the magical feral world, I look at my worst ones all currently curled up on a super kingsize bed with the electric blanket on and know these wonderful babies are safe and they are now becoming more needy as Daddy is away
I have had my first purr of a feral this weekend she lived outside all her life she is 15 to 16 years young and until she came here and that was a special moment and one that will stay a long time
I think we all have the same purpose but do it it different ways and I have a lot of cats others think we are mad but we aren't hoarders by any means, each one wether domestic, pedigree or my darling feral mob are all treated the same way and will all have the dignity they seserve when the time comes - some folks can't grasp the idea of ferals and I don't mean the nice ones who tame down I have 4 who come at you and mean should you invade their space they aren't for the feinthearted or the folks who want cuddly cats I'm lucky I have the cuddles crew, the ones who love me when wearing roast beef, the ferals who love the laser pen and will chase the dot for hours
I also have 3 very cat savy doggies - well they think Jazz is a cat and Sky and Sunny have been well clawed sorry trained in cat etiqutte!
Lou Lou Flump get your furry butt home your Mummy will have lots of treats when you come back like you have been gone for 5 mins :hug:
The sadness wil lift and we will all come together for the Auction - "The Mugs are Mine" :evillaugh:
I think whatever the age the losses are devestating and we all feel for the owners and their kids sometimes I can't post as it is just to much or is to close to the anniversary of the loss of one of the Clan, it doesn't mean we don't care or sympathise sometimes words just don't come out of the end of our fingers :hug:
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Teresa, your heartbreak is palpable. I have sent you a PM :hug:
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T i'm sorry I've missed news of your loss, I don't get on here as often as before and everything seems to move at such a pace I often miss big news :hug: to you and anyone else I have missed
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So sorry to hear about Chilli.
I remember seeing pictures on the paws in website. :hug:
Things change and never stay the same. It's a busy time here for me so I can't post as much as I'd like. And sometimes the loss of such amazing creatures hurts a little too much even never having met them.
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Well I haven't been on here much over the past few months as I don't have internet access at home, but I haven't noticed a big change. The atmosphere on here does fluctuate for various reasons, but it's inevitable that people leave, new people join and that the feel of the place evolves. I think it is still a friendly and supportive site. I've never been on a forum (as an active participant or casual bystander) where the feel of the place hasn't changed over time, and it's inevitable that some people may feel that it just isn't the same as it used to. It's happened on every site I've ever been on. I suppose it's up to all of us to make sure Purrs remains a friendly and welcoming place. But it won't ever be like it used to be because nothing stays the same.
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I feel purrs has changed a little recently but not sure why, Ive noticed a few members have left over disagreements and that does seem sad. I must say that sometimes it can come across as a little bit clicky although I dint think its intentional its just some members have been on this forum since it began and inevitably have known each other a long time. I log on every day and still enjoy catching up and have had some excellent advice of others IE Delsey, I only reply to posts if I feel I can offer some advice. I have noticed alot of people join and seem to dissapear after a few weeks, not sure why. On the whole though it is a good forum and I would be lost without my daily fix ;D
Sending lots of positive vibes for Lou Lou Flump :hug:
Teresa I'm sorry I didn't post :hug:
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Daisy!!! Sending positive vibes for Lou lou Flump to get her butt back home now! :hug: :hug: :hug:
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I've been a member here for quite some time now but barely post because its never felt that welcoming to me. I am on another cat forum and post there very frequently.
Its a shame because the other forum is USA based and I would really like to participate more in a UK-based forum, but there it is.
I lurk on here often. I just don't feel comfortable enough to post on a frequent basis. I've seen people unfairly attacked on here for a number of reasons. It always saddens me, for example, to see people with pedigree cats jumped on - I don't have a pedigree cat but I certainly don't condemn people that do!
Anyway, my two pennies worth ;) Not that it will be worth that much, I suspect.
Sending positive vibes for Lou Lou Flump.
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It's such a shame that people are finding Purrs to be an unpleasant place to be at the moment. I don't know why that is. Purrs has always been so friendly .. ok so there are disagreements, but that is perfectly normal on any site. You just pick yourself up, remember why it is you joined and continue as normal. Have to say I haven't noticed Purrs to be different to normal :scared:
Purrs is by far the friendliest place I've been a member of. Another site I'm a member of is not nice at the moment with a lot of disagreements. Weirdly it is the American (Animal related) sites that have the most arguements and fallouts - and boy do they get nasty :scared: I don't like some attitudes on other UK based sites, I find them to be unbearable, snooty and full of themselves, so I don't post. I've never experienced that here (Yeah, there are some people with strong opinions :innocent: but no-one means to cause offence or upset .. and believe me, on other sites I've seen some pretty nasty verbal insults and opinions).
I'm certainly greatful of Purrs and the members here .. y'all are really great, you know :cuddle:
Those people who don't feel like they can post *ahem* :poke: :thinknot: .. now get posting.
Anyone still upset ... take 3 steps back, grab a cat and give it a huuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuug!
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I couldn't agree more Den ;D
Nobody on here should feel unwelcome, everyone is a newbie to start with, you just need to take the step to get involved ;D Sure some of us post more than others (best not to look at the post counts ahem lol), but that's just because we've been here longer (and can sneak on in work time as well) ;)
There are disagreements everywhere in life, so not a reason not to be involved to my mind - if that was the case you'd never leave the house or talk to anyone else ;)
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Purrs is by far the friendliest place I've been a member of. Another site I'm a member of is not nice at the moment with a lot of disagreements. Weirdly it is the American (Animal related) sites that have the most arguements and fallouts - and boy do they get nasty :scared: I don't like some attitudes on other UK based sites, I find them to be unbearable, snooty and full of themselves, so I don't post.
I find that with a lot of other sites too, I find Purrs the most friendlist site that I use. I am a member of 2 other forums but dont post there as I dont like the way others are on those sites.
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Anyway, my two pennies worth ;) Not that it will be worth that much, I suspect.
It's worth two pennies, same as anyone elses. ;)
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Burrowed out from under some paperwork and read this :(
:hug: :hug: :hug: to all feeling sad, down, left out .....
:thanks: to the many, many people who have offered me friendship wise words, counselling etc since I joined. There have been times when I don't know what I would have done without Purrs :-[ And not just those who are frequent posters - someone who may have only posted once or twice may have posted just what I needed when I needed it most
and far from least, although last ...
COME HOME LOU LOU FLUMP - Mummy and Daddy miss you lots
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I lurk on here often. I just don't feel comfortable enough to post on a frequent basis. I've seen people unfairly attacked on here for a number of reasons.
I hope this very discussion will encourage you - and others who may feel the same way - to join in more :hug:
Everyone should feel comfortable about speaking up and disagreements are fine: you can disagree completely with someone without attacking him or her as a person. I know it can be a fine line as some people feel affronted when their views are challenged, but they shouldn't - debate is healthy.
If members do see spiteful personal attacks on other members, they should report them to the mod team :boxer:.
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Just to say I haven't really noticed much difference but then I'm not on as much as we have been so busy.
Perhaps a lot of the other regular rescue bods are feeling the same way? I know I tend to post when I feel relaxed and time spare (not that I'm feeling that at the moment! :() a shame as I have some lovely kitten piccies still sitting in my camera.....
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I think you might have hit the nail on the head Angie - our lives outside do have impact and times are hard for lots of people at the moment
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Being a newbie myself, i have to say I have found this a very friendly and helpful forum. I do not post very much on any of the forums I am a member of which is only 3 but I always log on and read the posts and think about the people who are having problems or who have lost their beloved puds even if I don't leave a message. :hug:
That's really nice to hear Alison :) I don't really have time for other forums (as my addiction to this one runs too deep :evillaugh:) but I do think from what I've seen of others Purrs really is a friendly place to be overall :)
Not only that but the combined efforts of members has raised several thousand pounds for cat rescue - don't know the exact figure but what with three auctions at roughly 2k each, the Purrs draw giving £1500 to rescues, plus the photo shows, the Purrs shop, Zooplus commision etc that's got to be close to 10k raised for rescues :wow: Edit: Just remembered the professionally printed calendars and diaries featuring our very own cats - we've got to have smashed 10k easily :wow: :wow: :wow:
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Sending hugs to anyone who is feeling upset or not involved :hug:
I think you might have hit the nail on the head Angie - our lives outside do have impact
Thats very true, I'm not posting as much because of fitting in hospital visits to mum, plus my mind seems to have gone to mush lately, I couldnt remember my address the other day :-[
Oh, and Loulou Flump, you better get home soon! :) :hug:
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Yes we have raised a lot, Helen is right and this auction we aim to raise some moreeeeeeeeeeee ;D ;D
Also members donations have helped special cats, not to mention the car relays that have saved cats lives too ;D
And there is Truman, who we all fell for who is outliving any vet forcast with one of our members and so many other things which are hidden or even forgotten.
Then there are our wonderful rescues who do such great work and it goes on and on..........I think that Purrs is a wonderful forum and its up to each and every one of you to take part in our activities and become part of the crowd cos there is no need for anyone to feel left out.
Its you with the finger on the keyboard, nobody will do it for you ;D
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I have to say that I have got 4 pedigree cats as well as my 2 moggies and I have never felt unwelcome because of this fact. I have "lost" 3 cats to the Rainbow Bridge since being a member of Purrs and think I would have gone mad without the support I received. When Charlie had his near fatal accident I didnt know where to turn but received so much reassurance from here that the help was invaluable.
I laugh along with the funny stories and cry for the sad losses.
It saddens me that people dont feel welcome and there willl always be differences of opinion in every walk of life.
Big :hug: :hug: :hug: to anyone feeling down and sad
Please come home Lou Lou xxx
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I ain't changed - still as mouthy and daft as ever - I was very quiet and shy before I came on here. :naughty: :evillaugh: :evillaugh: :rofl: :rofl: :rofl:
Love, hugs and lots of healing vibes to anyone who needs them. :hug:
LONG LIVE PURRS :hug: :hug:
Mary and Bonnie xx
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As one of the mods I'm really saddened to hear that members are not feeling welcome, are scared to post for fear of attack and are generally feeling intimidated by the whole thing. :'(
One of the things that kept me coming back to Purrs in the earlier days was the general acceptance that everyone has their own opinions and views and the fact that NO-ONE was ever made to feel silly, initimidated or foolish for asking a question or posting an opinion. None of us knows EVERYTHING but we all know a little bit and we should all be able to share our "little bit" with each other and hopefully gain a "little bit" with each visit.
If ANY member every feels they ... or anyone else ...is not being treated fairly PLEASE PLEASE report the thread. The moderators are here for a reason and I know I for one will not tolerate any bullying / intimidation etc of any sort.
Sorry meant to say ..... COME ON Lou Lou Flump ..... get your furry butt home cuz mummy is missing you :hug: :hug:
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I've always found this a very kind and supportive place. My only issue is the huge number of threads. I often get lost and confused as to what's happened to who! (I am very easily confused though :rofl:)
I really enjoy reading about other peoples lives as cat slaves. Long may Purrs continue.
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:hug: :hug: :hug: from everyone chez Casa Witty too.
Public forums can be a bit of a minefield at the best of times. When things get bigger (as Purrs has done) it's almost imPUSSable to keep track of absolutely everything that goes on - I like to think that we're still there for each other, though.
Purrs is............ Purrs. :) And I'd be lost without my daily fix. :shy: Anyone for purringo? :shify:
Um, the auction. I'd better get busy making some things. :-[
(sending come home vibes to Loulou)
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Although i dont post so much as others -i have received loads of support on here and its been so welcoming and good for me as i do live on my own and don''t really have anyone too confide in and no-one who is as cat mad as i am .
I have had moggies and presently have pedigrees -all have been rescues - i currently have a moggie "living " in Winstons old cat house - he gets regular meals from me and probably a good few others on here and he does have a home !
He lives with 10 other cats and there are teenagers there too , so maybe he likes to sleep in there for the peace and quiet and also know that he gets fed here too !!!
I have had loads of support with Bunglys illness and Thankyou to everyone for this and when i was at home at xmas with just me and my cats -although that is my own choice i had lovely messges from peeps on here .
Also "come home " Lou Lou Flump -your meowmy is worried and missing you - sending come home soon vibes for you .
It has been a very sad time on here too -there have been so many fur babies gone to the bridge and also ones that have been so very ill -its such a worrying time for a lot of us .
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Its sad to think purrs is classed as 'clicky' because someone doesnt know the ins and outs of every post, i spend a reasonable amount of reading time here and still dont understand every 'in joke' or every post, its not people being in a set crowd its down to how much time you have to spare to read everything!
As sites grow they will change, not always how we wish but thats life isnt it :shy:
Teresa, im sorry to hear about Chilli, ferals are unique lovelies and deserve their limelight. I tried to find his thread but couldnt, im not great with the search engine here tho :doh: like js i would love to hear about him
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As some one who hasnt posted here in a long time, thought I'd take the oportunity to say why.
My experience of forums is that they are ALL clicky to one degree or another. When i have posted here in the past, there wasnt much interest taken in them, I expect that when forums are small and quiet but this is a large forum. I also dont like to see rescues belittle and undermine other rescues. Every one does their best.
I do come on at auction time and try to help raise a wee bit of cash to help out. But thats about it from me as I dont find this a very friendly or welcoming place to be.
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Sorry you feel that way Elaine :(. Can't say I agree but then I'm on here every day. Am hoping one day I'll get time off for good behaviour ;)
Tried a day off once but developed a nervous tick :evillaugh:
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Well I have been here a few months now and have found Purrs a great place to hang out and exchange stories/advice on our furry kids. I have never felt left out or intimidated. I have enjoyed reading through the posts, hearing about everyones latest news, funny pics and goings on. Its true that there some people on here that are opinionated - but you will find that on all forums. It has been mentioned before, knowone knows everything, but I'm certain we can all contribute something!. Come on everyone, group :hug:
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for the last year or so I moderated an Italian cat forum, and from the experience there I must say Purrs is an extremely pacifist, educated, and friendly community. People on the other forum were just as passionate, perhaps a bit too much so claws and furs were ever ready to start flying as soon as someone said something not exactly to their liking. I must say it is also a bit due to the general nature of the Italian folks, but things are too often out of control and especially for me not being a native speaker it became too much for me and I stepped down. So I have now more time to come and visit here, and it is such a lovely relief to see everyone enjoying the site in such harmony.
Of course everyone must realise that with so many people sharing a community there will always be differences of opinion, and we must respect it and agree to disagree. I think among all the forums I have known and frequented Purrs are one of the best about this. :)
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I don't think that people are clicky but I can understand why some people would choose to use that word.
My opinion is that certain people like to go on the same parts of Purrs and get to know the likes and dislikes of each other and then when something is mentioned in another area and you know something about that person the subject sometimes gets sidetracked.
I didn't go on the part where you can speak about things apart from cats for a long time. However, I sometimes take a look and if I want to join in on a topic I will. I found it helpful putting a post on their about my mum having Alzhimer's and another about me having cateracts.
I also sometimes visit the joke section if I need a laugh or I have a good joke to share with someone.
Members also get to know each other more closely by lettting their cats talk on the 'from the cat's mouth' section :rofl: :rofl:
Sometimes people are too busy to put a reply on every post and it might seem like you are being ignored but you aren't. I sometimes don't come on for a few days and the number of posts that have been on in those few days is amazing.
Mary
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I sometimes don't come on for a few days and the number of posts that have been on in those few days is amazing.
Mary
Quite agree, Mary!! When my computer was "dead" I was very lucky to be "kept in touch" my friends who texted me .... but I couldnt keep in touch as I would with everything up and running.
And when I "came back" - I thought I would never catch up .... in just over a week ;)
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I love Purrs , I love Purrs people (yes all of them , even If I haven't managed to speak to ya all yet!) and if I could I'd be on here all the time. I mod on other forums and this is by far the best I come on. Nuff said I thinks!
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Kirst :hug:
thank you :shy:
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I love Purrs , I love Purrs people (yes all of them , even If I haven't managed to speak to ya all yet!) and if I could I'd be on here all the time. I mod on other forums and this is by far the best I come on. Nuff said I thinks!
Awww, that's really nice! :)
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seems to me what we all have in common on Purrs is far more important than any differences we may have from time to time
and at least no-one comes on here spoiling for a fight (or if they do they are soon modded off ;D)
and there's not many forums you can say that about
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Stick 'em up :boxer: :boxer: :box: :box:
:rofl: :rofl: :lick: :catlove:
Mary
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Mary your so.... :bum: :heeee heeee: :grouphug:
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I love that little boxing cat animation. :Luv2:
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thats what ranta does to me at night :innocent:
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Ah but only coz he loves you Gill! :evillaugh:
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Yes I know you are right but getting puched on one side and bitten.....he chases my nose around and then kicked on the other and nipped........sigh
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Franta was just checking that you were his real meowmy and you had'nt turned into a snorey monster! :evillaugh: :hug:
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I hadnt had time to snore this was before I got to sleep and its hard ducking and diving between two birmans.........sigh