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In Loving Memory Cats => Rainbow Bridge - In Loving Memory => Topic started by: pappilon on July 23, 2009, 22:26:19 PM
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My baby is dead :'( :'( :'( I cant believe this is happening. she came downstairs and couldnt walk she started crying in like she was is pain and i tried to talk to her then she tried to get up and her legs was wobbly her breathing was slow i called the duty vet and too her in, he said she is gone to shock i dont understand why her heart was really slow , oh god this is so painfull he took morex-ray of her lungs he said he doesnt know what caused the shock my poor baby we had to put her to sleep she was sick all over he said its the kindest thing cos cats like this usually die in couple of days and its very painfull death i had to do it for her he said its the kindest thing . Phoebe
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Please if some one is on line can you post something i need to talk, my neighbours are all out.
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Thinking of you at this sad time, to lose a loved pet is the hardest thing, but you did the most selfless act and helped your furbaby. She is now out of pain
Run free sweet Phoebe
(((((((((hugs))))))))))Pappilon
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Have Pmed you Pav :hug: :hug:
I am so terrible sorry to hear about Phoebe but I am sure that you have done the kindest thing for her. :hug: :hug: :hug:
She now shares a Bridge Day with Kocka who is having a party to night so guess that DD and Boy will be there to welcome Phoebe :hug:
RIP Pheobe. play hard little one and you are now with your friends again
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Oh, I'm so sorry, I know it's so hard but it is the kindest and bravest thing we can do at times like this :'(
She won't have realised she was being sick. RIP Phoebe
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Pav honey you did the right thing for Phoebe. My heart goes out to you at this sad time xxxx
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Hew gave a sedative in her leg thats when she was sick, are you sure they dont realize when they get sick he tried to do it in her tummy but she was crying then he tried her leg and then gave her the last injection , i just lost Boy i cant deall with this now.
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Pav come into the chat room , I am there :hug: :hug:
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:hug: :hug: :hug: go into chat honey x
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Pav give me a call if you like :hug: I don't have your no but you have mine - ring me xx
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She has gone to sit outside cos she cant talk but I am in the chat room if she wants to come in
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Oh sweetheart, I really don't know what to say :hug: :hug:
Just know we're all here for you, and we will all be grieving with you, when anyone loses a beloved furbaby, we all feel your pain, especially with those who's progress we have followed for a while :hug:
PM me there's anything I can do hunnie xxxxxx
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Hew gave a sedative in her leg thats when she was sick, are you sure they dont realize when they get sick he tried to do it in her tummy but she was crying then he tried her leg and then gave her the last injection , i just lost Boy i cant deall with this now.
:hug: :hug: It happened when Dinah went to the Bridge too, but they feel so sleepy so quickly I'm sure she won't have realised :hug:
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Pav, I'm so sorry :hug: It sounds like you did the right thing for Pheobe, but it doesnt make it any easier I know, its just not fair. :hug:
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She has gone to sit outside cos she cant talk but I am in the chat room if she wants to come in
I dont know Pav, but i really am feeling her heart ache, i lost a young dog last november and the memory of the complete horror, shock and disbelieve that they have gone is still very fresh.
:'( :'( :'( :'(
Losing your pet is the worst thing
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nothing can take the pain away, Pav
you have to suffer so that Phoebe doesn't have to any more - but we all know how very hard it is, and how inadequate words are
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Sorry Pav, I can't imagine how you feel. You tried so hard for your baby but had no choice in the matter. We are here for you - you know that :hug:
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Oh Pav. So very very sorry to hear about Phoebe. You had no choice at all and did the kindest thing possible as quickly as you could. You could do no more. I really grieve for you :'( :hug: :hug: :hug: Phoebe is at rest now. Try to be kind to yourself :hug:
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Oh Pav hun :sad no: You have just done the most loving thing you could of done for her. She knows that hun and your love for her has saved her from alot of pain.
It's gonna be alot of pain for you ,most of us know that awful hurt and are with you every step of the way. :hug:
Hun, She will never leave you, she and Boy will always be with you in your heart. If ya ever wanted to talk to them they will hear you. One day Pav hun when it's our time, we will be with them again, we will be able to cuddle and hold them . Until then, they know, they can see how much we love them , they become our guardian angels and always watch over us.
Only her life on earth has passed but her life soul carries on in you and on the bridge. :hug:
:candle: sweet girl, you rest easy now, play lots with Boy and all our wonderful babes on the bridge till we see you all again.
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So sorry Pav :( :hug: You really did give her the greatest gift :hug:
RIP Phoebe, safe and sound at the Bridge until your Mum is ready to collect you xx
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So sorry Pav :( :hug:
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Pav, I am so so sorry Darling, life is awful sometimes. We are all here for you, whenever you want to talk, just let us know. I will be thinking of you honey.
RIP Phoebe, play hard on the bridge baby xxxxxx
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Golden Memories
They say memories are golden, well, maybe that is true.
I never wanted memories, I only wanted you.
A million times I cried.
If love alone could have saved you, you never would have died.
In life I loved you dearly, in death I love you still.
In my heart you hold a place no one else could fill.
If tears could build a stairway and heartache make a lane.
I'd walk the path to Heaven and bring you back again.
Our family chain is broken, and nothing seems the same.
But as God calls us back one by one, the chain will link again.
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Thankyou :hug: :hug: :hug: I know most of us been there and know of the pain, it never get easier.I asked the vet if he puts her under fluid all night she may feel better but he said they dont have 24 hours facility and she may need oxigen and i could take her to vet24 and they monitor her there, but Phoebe was scared of strangers and i thought the stress of taking her there, also the vet tonight was her own vet he knew how to handle her i didnt want my baby to be scared. After taking the X-rays he brought her back upstairs and she just sat in a corner stearing at the wall thats what she is been doing at home and then the vet said to me this is no life , he said he thinks she is trying to die and he said she is really sick i asked him 2 days ago all the results were ok but he said he thinks its some thing in her brain causing the twitching and its too many things wrong with her, i asked him if she is in pain and he said she has no life in her whats is the point of keeping her like this, he was really nice and understanding he said if it was his pet he would let her go, i didnt want to loose her she was my baby, i dont have any family and when i lost DD i called some friends but they all said the same thing that i lost so many cats whats speciall about this one or they said get a younger cat next time so you dont have to go through this :( They dont understand its not about me its about helping a cat which no one else wanted and thats what i kept telling my self in the surgury that its not about you, you have to let her go , may be i could keep her going few more weeks but i know its selfish. I got her so many new blankets and bed on Sunday in Mayhew opening day she never got to use them, and every where i look its her things.
Thanks Baggy for reassuring me, i just didnt want her to get sick or suffer when she was passing away, and thankyou every one for listening to me i am sorry if i dont make sense i cant see , have to keep wiping my glasses, she looked so beautiful after she was PTS, the vet helped me to clean her face and said she is gone with dignity :'( :'( :'( I am going to log off now and go upstairs and clean everything all her food and water is on my bed and then i am going to sit outside the foxes will come soon.
Thanks Janey and Gillian for your numbers but i cant talk right now, but thankyou. Maybe one day soon. :hug: :hug:
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:hug: so sorry Pav you did the right thing by Phoebe. What people say to you they say the same to me don't get old poorly cats then but I think well if I don't who will so we just have to be strong or we can't do this :hug: when you want to talk I am here any time Pav you know that you're never alone. I'll be thinking of you xx
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That made me cry and you are so kind.
You are right, its about helping a cat who has no one and you have helped many :hug:
I remember when Kocka went to the Bridge and all her things were everywhere and I didnt want to move them. I still have everything in a box upstairs, not brave enough to look at them but I still have her in my heart as I am sure you do with all of yours.
It takes loads of time to get over something like this and I am pleased that your vet was kind and understanding and that Phoebe passed over quietly and calmly, I think its sign of a good vet :hug: :hug:
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Pav , i am so unbelievably sorry about Phoebe ( her and Boy were always included when i ask my bridge babies to send healing vibes down for all the poorly kitties down here ) so soon after Boy too . :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug:
The thing is you let them go with dignity and they didn''t suffer - and thats the kindest last thing you can do for them.
Its the worst feeling in the world and the hardest thing to ever to learn to live without them . :hug: :hug:
I personally have suffered more from losing my cats than any member of my family .
Reading all this thread has set me off too now - my eyes are watering for all the bridge babies .
:RIP: Phoebe -reunited with Boy and all the bridge babies to play with till your mummy comes for you .
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Pav, I'm so sorry, it's a lot of heartache to cope with losing two friends within such a short space of time. :'( I truly believe their spirits will live on though, and remain close to you forever - happy that they finally experienced such love and kindness during their time with you. And you do have family you know - the Purrs family :grouphug:
Good Night Phoebe
God Bless
Jas
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Such sad news :( You're in my thoughts. :hug:
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Pav, I am so sorry to read this, I am in tears for you, it is so hard to lose our babies, but when you lose two so close together it is so much harder, especially when her recent tests weren't so bad. I have had similar comments to you about not getting oldies cos of the pain, but it is offset by the knowledge that they were in a home environment with one on one and people who loved them, rather than sat in a rescue, and some of our cats wouldnt' have had nearly as long if we hadn't taken them - the people who say things like that just dont understand the selflessness of taking these cats in over a young, healthy cat but we are the lucky ones, we get to share our lives with these wonderful cats, for however long. RIP Phoebe, you had a fantastic mum who gave you everything she possibly could
If you want to talk, you have my number xx
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Oh Pav :'( :'( :'( just sending you more :hug: :hug: :hug: You're such a lovely person and I so feel for what you are going through :(
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Pav, you're having such a rough time at the moment. :care: I'm so sorry about Phoebe. I've only just read this, I hope you got someone to talk to last night it's horrible when you need to let something like that out and there's noone about who understands.
RIP Phoebe and know you were loved very much.
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Pav
I truly wish I could find words of comfort to take away your pain :hug:, sadly there just arent any.
If Phoebe and Boy could send you a message I guess it would be one of Thanks for loving and caring for them so very much :hug:
Take care x
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:'( This is heart breaking news.
I'm so sorry my friend. xxxx
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Thinking about you :hug:
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Oh Pav :'(
I am so sorry to hear about Phoebe, sending lots of these :hug: :hug: :hug:
RIP Phoebe
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I am so sorry Pav, have pm'd you :hug: :hug:
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I am so sorry.
I know it's so hard to make the decision for our final act of kindness but one we must do.
Take care.
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Im so sorry this has happened :'(
Its the hardest thing to do ....... even when we know its for the best :(
We are all thinking of you and here when you need us :hug: :hug: :hug:
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I'm so sorry about Phoebe :hug: :hug: :hug:
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Pav has asked me to say that she may not be on for a couple of days but not to worry cos she is OK and sends her thanks for your kind posts.
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So very sorry to hear that Phoebe has gone to the bridge. As hard as it is, it is the final act of kindness we can do for them. RIP little one.
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oh my goodness I cant believe I am reading this :hug:
Pav i didnt see this yesterday i'm so sorry.
You brave and wonderful women, again You have put your baby first. So many people would have kept her going through selfish reasons but you loved Phoebe enough to let her go :hug:
But loosing her now is just too much, my heart goes out to you :hug:
Cant believe You have lost them both so quickly.
I am useless with words Pav but I am here for You.....just like You have been here for Me with Issey.
I am sure most people have already worked out what an amazing women you are, even with all You have been going through You have still been supporting Me with PM's and your kind offer still shocks Me but warms my heart (I wont say what it was as you asked me not to)
Pav Sweetheart, I am just so so sorry :'(
RIP Phoebe xxxxxx
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so, so sorry pav, you did the kindest thing for her, which is all we can do in the end :hug:
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Sorry to read this Pav :( :hug: :hug:
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Oh Pav I am so sorry to read this! :'(
RIP Phoebe, play hard at the Bridge sweetie x
We are all thinking of you Pav! :grouphug:
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Take care Pav. :hug:
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I'm so sorry to read this :hug: :hug: to you.
Play hard on the bridge sweatheart
RIP Phoebe
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So sorry to read this Pav. People who have never loved a cat like we all do just dont understand the pain we go through when we lose our furbabies Much love to you :hug: xx
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Oh honi, i am so so sorry for what you going through. :hug: It really strikes a nerve.
Run free lil one :(
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So sorry to hear this - I have tears stinging my eyes
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The bridge babes looked around their garden and found an empty place,
Then they looked down upon this earth and saw your loving face,
they put their paws around you and lifted you to rest,
their garden must be beautiful; because they always takes the best.
They knew that you were suffering;
they knew you were in pain,
And knew that you would never get well on earth again,
they saw your path was difficult; and closed your tired eyes.
Then whispered to you "Peace be Thine" and gave you wings to fly.
It broke our hearts to lose you, but you did not go alone.
For part of us went with you the day the Bridge called you home.
:RIP: Phoebe
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Oh Pav sweetie I am so so sorry, thinking of you and sending you lots of love xxx you did the most loving thing in letting Phoebe go with dignity and without suffering.
RIP Phoebe - run free at the Bridge sweetheart and play with Boy - forever in your Mummies heart xxx
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Pav, I have only just seen this and my thoughts are with you.
I can only say that the greatest gift of all is to relieve suffering and that's what you did for Phoebe. It is all she would have asked from you in her hour of need.
Much love
xC
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Sorry Pav just caught this,im so sorry to hear youve lost Phoebe :( but you did her the kindest thing you could and let her go with dignity, my thoughts are with you :hug: R.I.P. Phoebe, happy and well on the bridge :Luv:
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I was working for 3 days, so I missed this.
Just want to let you know I feel for you.
Having just lost my oldest piggie, I'm still very sad at times.
The grief just goes away terribly slow.
RIP Phoebe :candle:
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So sorry Pav :(
RIP Phoebe xxx
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Oh Pav , Im so very very sorry. :'( :'( :hug:
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Pav,
I'm so sorry for your loss.
If you were at the Mayhew then you don't live far from me (I'm in Acton W3). If you ever want to talk over a warming cup of tea, just let me know. I admire that you take on the older cats and I hope to have a least half the heart that you have shown to them.
Miriam
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Pav darling, still thinking about You :hug:
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Thankyou everyone, i dont know where to start all the pm's and lovely messages. Thankyou i will come back and reply to every pm and every one, i just need to get through this week. I never brought any of my babies back home i always ask the vet to ask the place after cremation to scatter them in their garden but on Thursday i asked the vet for Phoebe to be cremated on her own and i told him i would like to take her back to Mayhew, i went there on Friday and they agreed for me to take her in, they have a lovely garden and small pond there, there is a small corner with some pets buried its a lovely place. I know Phoebe didn't like other cats but she loved to sit in the garden she wasn't allowed out for the first 10 years of her life so when she came here she spent times in garden she never chased the birds or butterflies and when ever she saw a wasp she ranaway, but she loved it out there so next week i have to collect her and take her to mayhew they said i can bury her myself and i am going to get some plants maybe sweet peas or peony and plant it close to her, then she can rest in peace and i know i have to take each day as it comes , so i just wanted to say thankyou to all you lovely and kind people for being here for me. :hug: Ruth helped me with her pictures yesterday, thankyou sweet heart.
Here is some pictures of her taken a day before she was pts, she didnt look well and some when she was well she had a lovely and silky coat but it started getting dull and matted and that was a sign of her not being well so the vet shaved her all over on Tuesday she still looked beautifull, i think. :(
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You are right Pav , Phoebe looks beautiful :hug:
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:Luv2: Phoebe
Pav :hug:
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Awwww, beautiful photos of a beautiful girl, who will forever be in your heart :hug: :hug:
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She was so pretty Pav.
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With Pavs permission this special thread is moving to Rainbow Bridge :hug:
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Glad to see you up to posting, sweetie. The pictures are lovely :hug:
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Pav, so so pleased to see you posting, we have all been thinking about you. I have no words and all can offer is :hug:
Love Claire xxxx
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Thankyou Ruth, i still posted the wrong pictures :shy: wanted the one in garden but thankx to you now i have every thing in my file and can post them anytime. Bless you for yesterday. :hug: :hug: xx
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Always xxx
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Pav, so so pleased to see you posting, we have all been thinking about you. I have no words and all can offer is :hug:
Love Claire xxxx
Thankyou Claire, that means a lot to me.xx
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anytime xxxxxx
You just make sure you take time to heal, we are all here for you x
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anytime xxxxxx
You just make sure you take time to heal, we are all here for you x
Ditto :hug:
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Yes and pictures you can post when ever you feel like it :hug:
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So sorry :(
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Still thinking of you Pav - take care Hun xxx :hug:
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Thankyou every one :hug: :hug:
The place i sso quiet without Boy and Phoebe :( Not that they ever played or run around but just opening the door and seeing their little faces, and now they both gone :'( :'(
I just wish i could stop crying cos my eyes and head is really hurting now, yesterday was great when Ruth was here i talked and cried and by the time she left i had stoped crying and i thought i am ok now but i woke up at 5 this morning again thinking its time for Phoebe's med and then burst in to tears, so this afternoon i thought if i start posting a nd chat i may feel bette rbut i dont and i know its going to take time to heal but i feel so sad. Sorry for going on and on. :hug:
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we all understand Pav :hug: :hug:
have you thought of writing an account of their lives with you, starting with Boy perhaps
it would have you in floods, but it might help to think about their lives, and not just about the end of their lives
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:hug: :hug: :hug: we all thinking of ya hunny
Thats a good idea of Tigger's to write about them.
With Rio i made a video with a very sad sound track and cried all the time but it helped give me time to spend near my babe as possible. The same for my Ben, my Ochi and Gizzymo. I have larged framed mosaic pictures in my lounge i made to help me be near them at my time of awful hurt.
Pav i still have all their collars under my pillow at night. I just can't let them go. They are a symbol of them being near me my boys :)
But hun it does get easier the pain of missing them , you do start to remember the soo good times with them more than the pain and they start to bring a glow to your heart.
Boy and Phebe aint gone hun they are watchin ya and with ya and one day (oh how wonderful that day will be) we will be able to pick them up and give them a huge cuddle.
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Thanks trigger, i do that all the time but in my head not on paper.
Thankyou Tan, sadly with me i am not strong enough to keep any thing , it just hurt too much :( When i lost DD and Jim i took every thing to the rescue, i did take Boy's thing to mayhew as well but havent had the heart to do Phoebe's toys and beddings but will do this weekend. They are always in my heart and thoughts but its too painful to keep anything.
I know it gets easier and i am so grateful for all the support and kindness i am getting from every one, i really am . Thankyou. :hug:
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I have kept all of Kockas things, I cant look at them but they are there if I want.
I so understand how you feel and I wrote down exactly what i was thinking about Kocka each time I was upset and gradually it became a memory of her with the things I called her and her little tricks and stuff, poems and I have it all. I think it helps to keep their memory alive for the future however painful it is right now.
I never want to forget my little grey girl and she has the same Bridge Day as Phoebe, 4 years on and I still miss her so much despite having the four others.
I think its part of the grieving process which is so hard to go through. I couldnt sleep or do anything my heart was just totally broken.
I first stroked another cat 3-4 days later when I first met Misa and Sasa and that was the first time I felt a bit better but the pain is still with me now.
We are all hear for you and we will give you as much support as we can :hug: :hug:
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I too have kept all the collars of my kitties and special toys of theirs and have all their ashes and they will be put with ours. I still feel grieve and can't look at photos of Schui now and even think of him without getting tearful still but I'm sure the pain will ease in time as it has with all my cats and yours too Pav :hug: but I still think of them all everyday and talk about them all the time too
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Pav, things are bound to be hard with losing the two of them so close together - if your head is hurting due to being upset, make sure you drink enough, I found out when I lost Ginger how you can get dehydrated from crying. Just give yourself time, we are always here for you if you want to talk.
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Take care Pav :hug: RIP Pheobe, god bless.
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Pav, things are bound to be hard with losing the two of them so close together - if your head is hurting due to being upset, make sure you drink enough, I found out when I lost Ginger how you can get dehydrated from crying. Just give yourself time, we are always here for you if you want to talk.
Thanks Desley, i took your advice and started drinking water, i didn't know you get dehydrated from crying. My head feels better tonight, thankyou.x
I went to my vet today to pay the bill, and asked if Phoebe's ashes are back and when they said not yet i was relieved, because i wasn't sure how i am going to deal with it i never had my babies ashes .
Thankx Ruth and Gillian for your posts. xx
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So sorry Pav for your losses and the awful time you are going through .
Phoebe and Boy had the best home any cat could have wished for with you .
I have my Oscar and Bonnies ashes with me in my bedroom with their photos and i talk to them every night and tell them we will be all together forever one day and i really hope thats true as thats all i ever want one day .
Take care :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug:
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So sorry Pav for your losses and the awful time you are going through .
Phoebe and Boy had the best home any cat could have wished for with you .
I have my Oscar and Bonnies ashes with me in my bedroom with their photos and i talk to them every night and tell them we will be all together forever one day and i really hope thats true as thats all i ever want one day .
Take care :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug:
Thankyou so much for your kind words. :hug: :hug:
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I am glad your head feels a bit better and good luck when her ashes come back - it is something I have never done either.
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We always get our cats cremated and for me there are lots of mixed emotions picking up the ashes because it's very emotional and you anticipate that but at the same time you just want them back home with you - where they belong :hug:
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Oh hunnie I am so sorry :hug:
Play hard little one with my Vesti and Sofa x
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:'( Specially for you Phoebe - http://www.purrsinourhearts.co.uk/index.php/topic,26724.msg468923.html#msg468923 :Luv:
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Such a hard thing to do Pav and my heart is with you :hug: :hug:
I buried Kocka in a big wooden box I made after she came home and if I move I am hoping to take her with me cos cant stand the thought of leaving her behind.
Phoebe was beautiful before and after she was ill and through her pictures you can treasure her memory :hug: :hug:
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Aw sweetie :hug: :hug:
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My baby, i cant believe its been 6 months since you left me :'(
I have been thinking of you every day and miss you so much, its painful :(
You will always have a special place in my heart. I just love this picture , my beautiful girl. :Luv:
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Pav I know the pain believe me - try to remember the happy times
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We wish we could have told you,
in words you'd understand,
We wanted you to stay with us.
This wasn't what we'd planned.
We wish somehow to tell you,
How empty we now feel.
A part of us went with you,
A part that time can't heal.
We wish we'd once more hear you,
in your softly, rumbling purr,
to hold you on our laps again
and stroke your long black fur.
We wish we had you back again,
to fill this empty space.
But one day we'll be together
in a far, far better place.
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Thinking of you
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Can't believe its 6mths either Pav :hug:
I like that pic too .... "erm excuse Me Mum, Can a girl not clean herself in private" :evillaugh:
Send You a hug and much love xxx
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:candle: RIP My sweet Phoebe.x
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Beautiful picture of her
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Hope you went to Kockas party Phoebe :hug: :hug: :hug:
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Pav :hug: :hug:
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I am so so sorry for you loss - it is hard to know what to say, thinking of you and your little Princess Phoebe :hug: xxx
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Missing you so much my beautiful grumpy girl. :'(
I know you dont like other cats but look out for Mister, he is young and need looking after :(
RIP my darling Phoebe :hug:x
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