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In Loving Memory Cats => Rainbow Bridge - In Loving Memory => Topic started by: cats_whiskas on July 18, 2009, 10:42:36 AM
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My very special cat Mr Darcy, has been diagnosed with cancer, which has now spread to his lymph nodes. We have a prognosis of 1 - 8 months. I am a broken woman. Does anyone have any advice on living with cats with cancer.
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Here is my most beautiful angel.
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Hi and :welcome: even if it is under such sad circumstances. :(
My only experience has been with one of my lads that had cancer at the tip of his ear and was caught in time.
The only thing that I can say is be guided by your cat and your vet and as hard as it is, try not to let your own feelings get in the way. I do know some people that keep cats and other pets going because they cannot bear the thought of saying goodybye.
Cats do not show pain so do not assume that because Mr Darcy is not showing how uncormfortable he is that all is well. Look for subtle signs, maybe sleeping more, a reluctance to move around, stopping eating and appearing depressed. These are all signs that all is not well.
We can give our beloved pets something that cannot be afforded to us, the rights to go with dignity and peacefully. I always say I would rather take that step a week too soon than a day too late.
Either way, you will find a wealth of support on this site as we have all been thru it one way or another. We cannot tell you what to do, only guide you. :grouphug:
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Dabs, thankyou very much for your kind words, sensible advice and warm welcome. I am just sad to be joining this forum in such sad circumstances. I have long been alurker, but never a poster.
Mr Darcy has had, on his neck, a skin tag, since I got him at 6 weeks old. Recently he scractched it and made it bleed. I didn't think anything of it. However he began to scratch it all the time and I had him booked into the vets. The night before I was due to take him, he was taking a bath with me (sitting on the side and putting his paws in the water) and I noticed that he had what looked like a swollen gland, ever so slightly, on the left side of his face. I thought I would mention that to the vet too.
The vet suggested that as Mr Darcy had a temperature and the wound on his neck was causing problems, he would removed the skin tag, and biopsy the glands, as well as treat him with anti biotics. I am a student nurse and should have realised that this was much worse than it sounded. However I hung onto the belief, naively that it was an infection. After all, Mr Darcy is invincible.He has never been sick, and out of my 4 cats, he is mummy's boy. I have had him for 9 years.
On thursday the vet rang to say that Mr Darcy has cancer and there is no real treatment for the type that he has as it is already in his lymph nodes.
I will never let him suffer. I am just devastated. My boyfriend and I can't stop crying. We are trying not to do this around him as we know that this may alarm him. The last thing I want is for him to sense our anxiety. We have decided that when we have to make that decision, and give him the final dignity in life, he will remain at home and the vet will come to us. I wish I had the words to express how devastated I am. I can't bear to look at him, but all want to do is be with him .
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Hi :welcome: im so sorry to hear about Mr Darcy :( and you will find as Dabs said a wealth of support on here, and all i can say is just take each day as it comes :hug: :hug:
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Sorry to welcome you to Purrs in such sad circumstances :hug: Treasure every moment you have with him :hug:
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i am so sorry to hear this, sadly i have dealt with cancer in cats and it isn't easy, weighing up their quality of life, but you know him so well you will pick up the signs. Has the vet put him on steroids, they are often used with certain kinds of cancer? Fingers crossed Mr Darcy proves the vets estimate wrong
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I too am sorry to welcome you to Purrs in such sad circumstances :hug:
Cats have a big advantage over us: they live in the moment and don't fret about what's ahead. Try to take your cue from Mr Darcy and take everything one day at a time :hug:
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No he hasn't been put on steroids. At the moment he is showing no signs of illness. Would they do this if he became poorly? I know the same vet put my mum's cat on steroids when she had cancer but she only had a few weeks left.
I will put a picture of him up. He is so beautiful.
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Hi,
Also sad to welcome you in these sad circumstances :hug: :hug:.
I too have a cat (Bungly ) that has been diagnosed very recently with Liver cancer , she is only 9 years old too.
Her tummy started to swell and hold fluid , she went to the vets and had it drained approx 6/7 weeks ago and i got the diagnosis then .
He put her on water tablets and steroids , but her tummy is starting to swell again now - i am hoping he will just drain it again ,as she is eating , drinking and playing and happy at the moment.
I am finding it hard to take in myself and sort of not beleiving it .
There is someone else on her that i think has the same sort of cancer your Mr Darcey has and i don''t think Issey is on steroids either - i am sure she will post in here when she sees it .
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How long does Bungly have? Have they given you any indication? I am so sorry to hear that you too, are going through the same thing. :(
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The vet wouldn''t say how long she has - just to take each day as it comes .
I am going back in 2 weeks for him to see her and then maybe he will drain her tummy again - as long as she is eating, drinking and happy he will probably do this - i imagine the prognosis is probably the same as you - i have tried not to think ahead too much :(.
I have 5 cats and she is the youngest and one of the most affectionate and loving ones .
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Cancer, whether in animals or humans is a terrifying, horrid disease! :(
A couple of years ago I took on a 15yr old beautiful girl who after a couple of vet visits, blood test etc was diagnosed with a tumor on her liver....She was given steroids and anti bs which did give her some quality of life for a while...although I only knew this sweet lady for 3 months I could see when she was ready for the Bridge....
Unless the cancer is pretty advanced you cant really put a time limit on things, every cat as every human will cope differently in similar situations...
I wish you and yours long quality times together and positive vibes for keeping healthy~~~~~~ :Luv: :hug:
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Hi and welcome to Purrs...
I am so sorry to hear about Mr Darcy
My Cat Issey has Lymphoma so I know what You are going through :hug:
We did 4wks off Chemo which did make the Lymph nodes go right down but sadly Issey didnt cope with the Chemo very well so I stopped it.
She has a large node in her neck and also in her back leg/groin.
She is having a steroid tablet every day as that keeps the white blood cells down, Cancer is spread through the WBC.
Issey was diagnosed in April....My vet feels the cancer is now spreading quickly and has given her a couple of months :'(
She is only 5yrs old bless her.
xxxx
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Hi and :welcome: to purrs.
I had my cat Boy PTS just over 2 weeks ago, he was diagnosed with lymphoma of intestines in Dec 2007, at that time i was told steroids would give him 6-8 weeks but with chemo he could have months. I was assured that chemo on animals wont make them sick or loose hair as it does in human because its in small dosage, i did agree and Boy was put on steroids and chemo tablets he also had HT and they suspected IBD but couldnt do a full biopsy on him. :( Boy did well on chemo and was with us for 18 months from the time he was diagnosed but in last 3 months he was diagnosed with Vestibular syndrome and the vet thought the tumour has spread in to his head and was pushing against the brain, he had 3 episod since April and each time he was given steroid injections and antibiotics and was fine within the hours but the last one was so bad he couldnt use the tray or eat and i couldnt let him suffer so we decided its best to let him go. :'(
I do agree with others you cant really put a time limit with this, every cat is different and cope different. I also lost 2 previous cats DD and Jim to cancer, DD had pancreatic cancer and Jim Lymphoma of intestine but they both were older cats and in both cats it was too late for treatments :(
Do speak to your vet and see what he says about putting Mr Darcy on steroids. Sending lots of good vibes on Mr Darcy way and :hug: for you.
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I will definately see what can be done. I was just speaking to a firend and saying that it is so different when your patient is human, but you can't explain to an animal why you are making them take tablets and why they are so poorly. I think that is what makes it so heart breaking. He had some anti biotics recently which he hated taking. I think I will leave all medication for as long as I can, before I start making him take it. Simply because I know it stresses him and he intensely dislikes it. While he is well we will stay as we are. But as soon as he needs it, he will have it. For some reason, my vet said that they don't treat this type of carcinoma with chemo and I am not sure why.
I think the hardest part for me is actually having to watch him go through this. It is heart breaking. I actually cannot believe that my one constant in life is going to leave me. I have had Mr Darcy for 9 years and men, friends and houses have come and gone, but he has remained and kept me strong. I suffer from acute depression as well and once, I was suicidal and as I was about to take my own life, he came in the room and looked at me and I knew I couldn't do it. I know it sounds terribly dramatic and don't get me wrong, I am very well at the moment. However what I guess I am trying to excpress, is how close we are and how important he is to me. I have 3 other cats who I adored dearly. However Darcy and I seem bound on aq much deeper level. I was there for him when he needed rescuing as a small kitten and he has been my mainstay through life. How will I manage without him?
I am sorry to go on. But I just believe I have to watch my beautiful man deteriorate. And I don't know where else to go to find people that really understand? And have maybe been through something simlilar.
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:welcome: sorry its for sad reasons you have joined us :hug:
I have had 3 cats with cancer, 2 i lost and 1 is still here :Luv2: Taffy had intestinal lymphoma and we tried steroids but unfortunately they didnt help him, and most recently was Milly who had lymphoma in her liver, this she did have steroids for but i cant say they helped her either :(
Mister Magoo had quite bad SCC on his ears (not from my negligence!) he had them amputated 8 months ago and touch wood all is still ok.
From what i hastily researched when i was offered chemo for Milly is the most aggressive cancers respond much better to chemo than other types which dont warrant using such strong drugs, it may be this reason that your vet isnt suggesting it for Mr Darcy.
Cherish the time you have together, some cats defy all odds and go beyond all expectations :hug:
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Here is my beautiful man :'(
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He os soooooooo handsome :Luv: its hard to believe there is anything wrong ,he looks so well, i wish i could help and take away your pain but all i can do is send lots of these :hug: :hug: :hug:
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Hiya hun, and welcome to Purrs :hug:
I did see this post this morning, but reading it had me in floods again, thank you posting on mine earlier, by the way :hug:
I will never let him suffer. I am just devastated. My boyfriend and I can't stop crying. We are trying not to do this around him as we know that this may alarm him. The last thing I want is for him to sense our anxiety. We have decided that when we have to make that decision, and give him the final dignity in life, he will remain at home and the vet will come to us. I wish I had the words to express how devastated I am. I can't bear to look at him, but all want to do is be with him .
I completely and utterly understand how you feel, I've had Max by my side through thick and thin for 9 years, he is such a part of me that imagining my life without him is completely breaking my heart .
I don't think any of us have the answers, and we too are trying to be as normal as possible around Max, but I think we just have to take each adn every day as it comes. I've never been through this before either :hug: :hug: xxxx
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Thankyou so much for understanding. He is sat right next to me on the desk now. He is definately not himself today. I don't know if I am just noticing more, because we have a diagnosis. I am so relieved I am not the only one going through this. Mr Darcy is somewhat of a celebrity in my life. I have had so many replies on my Facebook, from people, long distant friends, who all remember him and have described him as a "legend". He is such a character. Such a wonderful, regal boy. I am just a broken woman. I really am. How are we to cope with this?
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He is gorgeous. Regarding the steroids, with MAbel I just put a tablet into her food daily, and she didn't even know she was being medicated. Thinking back though, I wasn't given steroids for Blackie, but she was an unhandleable cat, and did make a mess of the vet nurse's arm, so maybe the vet decided treatment wasn't an option for her (I still have a scar from one of her bites, and she has been at teh bridge for 3 years)
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Hi, I know absolutely nothing about cancer
Darcy is absolutely gorgeous - just wanted to wish you luck :hug:
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So sorry to hear about your beautiful Mr Darcy, he's a lovely boy :Luv2: I have lost a few cats to brain tumours one a couple of months back my darling Schui :Luv: and he was like Pav's Boy at the end. Sorry I can't help :hug: but do treasure the precious time together :hug:
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Dont want to sound rude here but is the vet 100% sure its cancer? I was told by 4 different vets that my cat had cancer and there was nothing that could be done, even asked if I wanted him pts while he was out on the GA. I said no I wanted to wait for the biopsy results, a week later they came back an it wasnt cancer at all- just trying to say that the vets can and are wrong sometimes :Crazy:
Mr Darcy looks a lovely boy, and very healthy in that pic :Luv2:
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That pic was taken a few years ago. Yeah the biopsies have shown that it is cancer. :(
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I am so sorry.
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Mr Darcy is just so handsome and I am so sory to hear about his illness :hug: :hug:
Cats are marvelous and sometimes defy all expectations and I definately would not medicate him if this upsets him cos stress will not help and part of his quality of life is to be contented for the rest of his life.
Love him every day for as long as you can :hug: :hug:
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He is definately not himself today. I don't know if I am just noticing more, because we have a diagnosis.
Thats very likely and of course, completely understandable, I was like that when Sam was diagnosed with heart failure (nearly a year ago now) and I kept watching him all the time expecting something to happen just because of the diagnosis! I hope you have lots more time with Mr Darcy, he looks lovely :Luv2: :hug:
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What a handsome man Mr Darcy is! :Luv: :hug:
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Thankyou so much for understanding. He is sat right next to me on the desk now. He is definately not himself today. I don't know if I am just noticing more, because we have a diagnosis. I am so relieved I am not the only one going through this. Mr Darcy is somewhat of a celebrity in my life. I have had so many replies on my Facebook, from people, long distant friends, who all remember him and have described him as a "legend". He is such a character. Such a wonderful, regal boy. I am just a broken woman. I really am. How are we to cope with this?
I deff think we watch them more once we know they are ill :hug:
I dunno how we are going to cope, just typing those words has made Me cry (doesnt take alot atm)
thing is we have no option though...theres no turning back on this :censored: death sentence our cats have been delt !
I would do anything to make Issey live, like You I am a broken women :'(
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Thankyou so much for understanding. He is sat right next to me on the desk now. He is definately not himself today. I don't know if I am just noticing more, because we have a diagnosis. I am so relieved I am not the only one going through this. Mr Darcy is somewhat of a celebrity in my life. I have had so many replies on my Facebook, from people, long distant friends, who all remember him and have described him as a "legend". He is such a character. Such a wonderful, regal boy. I am just a broken woman. I really am. How are we to cope with this?
I deff think we watch them more once we know they are ill :hug:
I dunno how we are going to cope, just typing those words has made Me cry (doesnt take alot atm)
thing is we have no option though...theres no turning back on this :censored: death sentence our cats have been delt !
I would do anything to make Issey live, like You I am a broken women :'(
That makes 3 of us then :'( The support on Purrs in going to prove invaluable over the months to come for a few of us I think :hug:
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Thankyou so much for understanding. He is sat right next to me on the desk now. He is definately not himself today. I don't know if I am just noticing more, because we have a diagnosis. I am so relieved I am not the only one going through this. Mr Darcy is somewhat of a celebrity in my life. I have had so many replies on my Facebook, from people, long distant friends, who all remember him and have described him as a "legend". He is such a character. Such a wonderful, regal boy. I am just a broken woman. I really am. How are we to cope with this?
I deff think we watch them more once we know they are ill :hug:
I dunno how we are going to cope, just typing those words has made Me cry (doesnt take alot atm)
thing is we have no option though...theres no turning back on this :censored: death sentence our cats have been delt !
I would do anything to make Issey live, like You I am a broken women :'(
That makes 3 of us then :'( The support on Purrs in going to prove invaluable over the months to come for a few of us I think :hug:
Oh Clare :hug:
I'd rather none of us were going through it but yes at least we have each other.....No one else really understands what we are and are going to go through
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Also me and Bungly :'(
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Also me and Bungly :'(
Of course hunnie, there's such a lot of us having problems at the moment, its heartbreaking :hug: :hug: :hug:
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Also me and Bungly :'(
Havent forgotten You and Bungly .... :hug:
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I know , its so hard to believe there are so many seriously ill cats we have between us on here .
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Hugs for all our poorly kitties. I am, so glad I found this place. I just wish I hadn't decided to post for the first time, in such circumstances. But I can't tell you what a comfort I have found you all. I am thinking of you and your babies too. Mr darcy is sat here with me, having a wash. How will I stand to sit by and watch my baby die?
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Hugs for all our poorly kitties. I am, so glad I found this place. I just wish I hadn't decided to post for the first time, in such circumstances. But I can't tell you what a comfort I have found you all. I am thinking of you and your babies too. Mr darcy is sat here with me, having a wash. How will I stand to sit by and watch my baby die?
You will make his time special, make every day wonderful for him.
You are going to spend quality time with him, take lots of pictures and give loads of love
And when the time comes You will be with him.....and We will be here for You :hug:
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Hugs for all our poorly kitties. I am, so glad I found this place. I just wish I hadn't decided to post for the first time, in such circumstances. But I can't tell you what a comfort I have found you all. I am thinking of you and your babies too. Mr darcy is sat here with me, having a wash. How will I stand to sit by and watch my baby die?
You will make his time special, make every day wonderful for him.
You are going to spend quality time with him, take lots of pictures and give loads of love
And when the time comes You will be with him.....and We will be here for You :hug:
Thankyou so so much for those wondeful words :hug: :(
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O Charlotte, how sad to meet you here for this reason.
At least you are with a lot of cat lovers that understand your pain. You will get loving support and a lot of advice.
When I sent you the PM at HH, I hadn't read the sad prognosis yet.
I lost my favourite piggie last year of Lymphoma and cried my eyes out. He was not 3 yet.
Cannot say more than enjoy every day Darcy has left.
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christina (aka Lopz)
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so sorry to hear about your Mr Darcy - oh and I lost our first to kidney cancer four years ago, he was diagnosed and pts on the same day so we never had the waiting game you are playing - as you have found there are lots of people here who know how you feel :hug:
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Hi guys, Mr Darcy has been back to the vets again today. He has a swollen and almost hairless left ear now. The lymphatic fluid can't drain properly and is now filling his face and ear and there is nothing we can do about it. If he had a diuretic, this would cause dehydration which would cause implications for his organs. He has had his stitches out from the lump removal and the biopsy. He was so sweet in the vets. He purred loads too, whcih is a self soothing thing i know. But he was so sweet.
He has now been given steroids. Does anyone have any experience of these? He is still wanting to sleep on the outdoor porch on his own. However whilst he is still eating there is nothin gto get to stressed about. The vet said that at present he is in no pain.
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For one rest assured that if your vet has said he isnt in any pain then that is a good thing! :hug:
Dont really know too much about the steroids, could'nt put my hand on my heart and say 100% so I wont, but I do know they can help in different ways....with eating for instance, Im sure someone more informed will let you know! :hug:
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Aw sweetie, if he's not in any pain, and he's happy, then that must be a good thing :hug:
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He has now been given steroids. Does anyone have any experience of these?
My childhood cat Tiggy was on steroids for the last 18 months of her life, they really were a God send for her - without them I think I would have had to make the decision to let her go much sooner. She had CRF and unbeknown to me until very late on a tumour in her intestine. She was going to the vets every month for her steroid jab which was helping with the CRF so it obviously kept the tumour at bay which was why the vets didn't become aware of it until very late on.
Is he having steroid tablets or a jab?
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I have Smartie on 1mg steroids for his Asthma , down to 1/2 around Sept and off it all being well by November - he has had this on and off for a few years now .
Bungly is on 5mg per day for her cancer and 1/2 duiretic (sp) but she has nothing else wrong with her at all -she did have a tumour in her ear before i had her and had just recovered when i took her in ( she had her ear off , tumour removed and ear sewn back on again !!)
She seems to be doing okay on them .
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Issey is on 5mg once a day....it slows down the cancer.
she is doing fine on that dose
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They have prescribed 5mg of Prednisolone?
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Mabel was on the same dose for her cancer.
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Mabel was on the same dose for her cancer.
Did they do her any good? I really don't know what to expect? I have put a cushion out in the porch now for him, where he likes to lie. I wish he would come inside and be in the warm. Argh. I am going to find a suitable cardboard box for him to have in there. why do they do this?
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Sometimes when they are feeling odd they like to be out of harms way....ie under a bed etc so maybe its just that! ;)
Reading through the latest posts it seems like the steroids slow the cancer down so they should (fingers crossed) give him some good quality time! :hug:
Hoping they show some improvement soon for your boy! :wish:
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Thats the same as Bungly is onand she seems fine at the moment except she hates taking them !
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Steroids work quite quickly and have an anti inflammatory action, they also often increase appetite so expect him to start hassling for more portions!
A friends cat got an extra 6 months quality time with steroids and another had 3 years :wow:
Take each day as it comes, you will know when things are affecting him because he will start to act differently :hug:
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They have prescribed 5mg of Prednisolone?
Yep that is what Issey has xx
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He was dancing for treats last night bless him. I love him so much :(
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He was dancing for treats last night bless him. I love him so much :(
I think this is the hardest part about knowing they are ill, when they are playful and demanding food, they seem so well :hug: :hug:
Max was like this yesterday with some fish, I know he's not really supposed to have it with his kidneys, but it was just a tiny bit, he was standing on the back of the sofa really shouting as he knew what was in my hand :Luv2:
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Well the dancing for treats sounds like he may be feeling a bit better in himself! I also believe in give them a little bit (within reason) of what they fancy....my I would get depressed if I suddenly could not have what I love! ;)
Bless you all who are having to go through this, their actions can be so conflicting to the illness sometimes, but the main thing here is that they are still doing their quirky things and that means that in their minds they dont feel ill at all! :Luv: :hug: :hug:
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Love to all the poorly kitties out there x
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Mr Darcy is going downhill rapidly. Things are very bad this evening. Please send me all your vibes for my beautiful boy. I am in pieces. I cannot believe that I am going to have to decide something I never wanted to think about very soon.
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That is very sad and sending lots of gentle strokes to Mr Darcy :hug: :hug: :hug:
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I am so sorry to hear Mr Darcy is going downhill - we are sending mega healing vibes from us here in Lincoln and hope he picks up .
Bungly''s tummy is looking a bit big too , will see what the vet says next week as she may need her tummy fluid draining again .
This is such a terrible thing for our babies to suffer from.
Lots of :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: to you all .
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We are in Lincoln too Bunglycat.
My face is so swollen from cryiing. I literally can't stop. He keeps looking up at me with these beautiful totally shattered eyes. Then he tries to purr. I feel like I am breaking into pieces. What has my baby done to deserve this?
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Oh hunnie, am thinking of you :hug: :hug:
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cats_whiskers - have sent you a pm with my address if you need to talk or can come over to chat.
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:hug: So sorry, you're both in my thoughts xx
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Thinking of you and Mr Darcy :hug: I know how you feeling :( x
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I am so sorry he is going downhill, this is the hardest part of having a terminally ill cat, making sure we get the timing right and it isn't just a blip that they can get over. We are all here for you, an it might be worth giving the vet a quick ring today and seeing if they can give you some advice - I know wiht Mabel we did increase her steroids to see if that helped, maybe your vet will let you do something similar.
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Thinking of Mr Darcy and yourself and as Des says hope they can up the steroids for him! :Luv: :hug: :hug:
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Sending lots of positive vibes for Mr Darcy :Luv: and hope they can sort out something with his steriods, will be thinking of you both and praying for you :hug: :hug:
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Things are bad again this evening. I can't stop crying so I will keep this short as I just feel like an emotional wreck. The steroids, I can't get them down him. He is barely eating and the steroids make him gag so much he is bringing up a little bit of blood. So I am knocking them on the head. It isn't worth the strress for him. I am so worried about this fluid build up in the side of his face it is making his left eye look odd now. But the vet said there is nothing we can do. It is spread into the capilliaries and so not somewhere that we can actually drain.
Sorry for babbling. I am just a mess tonight.
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just love him lots and lots and stay strong for him
we're all here for you :hug:
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I am so sorry to hear he has gone downhill.... :hug:
Havent got anything positive to say but just wanted to say that i know how you are feeling as Issey has taken a turn for the worse too.
xxxxx
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I think you are right to stope the steroids and just wish I could say wonderful things to make him better. Love him for as long as he has :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug:
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Im so sorry my heart goes out to you :hug: :hug:
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I am so sorry, i think you are right not to stress him with tablets.
:hug: :hug: For you and Mr Darcy. x
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So sorry to hear this - i know how hard it is and also how hard it is to get the tablets down them -Bungly has taken to running away from me a bit now (she can hear me take the tablet top off !!!!) she is fine when i sit down , but she is waiting for me when i get up and she is ready to run , she also holds it in her mouth even using a syringe with water she occasionally spits it out - this isn''t easy :'(.
Lots of gentle cuddles to Mr Darcey and you are right to stop the tablets if they are making him so stressed .
Take care - i am not far if you need anything . :hug: :hug:
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Thanks so much everyone. Furbaby - I am here if you need a chat. It is awful to watch them just slowly decline.
He has slept well, but still looks very tired this morning. I just cannot stand this.
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I am sorry to hear this, I was lucky with Mabel that I just dropped a tablet in her food and she ate everything without noticing there was a tablet there. Unfortunately, it does sounds like you are going to have to make a decision very soon, it sounds like his quality of life is being affected, and it is better to let them go with dignity than watch them decline too much.
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I am sorry to hear this, I was lucky with Mabel that I just dropped a tablet in her food and she ate everything without noticing there was a tablet there. Unfortunately, it does sounds like you are going to have to make a decision very soon, it sounds like his quality of life is being affected, and it is better to let them go with dignity than watch them decline too much.
That is what is key to me. Making sure I time this right. I just rang my mum. She went round and checked him and fed him for me earlier. She said he ran over for the food and ate well, which has encouraged me. I have just rung the vet and am waiting to hear back on whether there is anything we can do to relieve the pressure in his ear from the lymphatic fluid. Although I am fairly certain that it is a no.
I just feel so totally useless and desperate.
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How big are the steroid tabs, if you could find a way for him to take them stress free do you think you'd want to continue with them? :hug:
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Lots more love to Mr Darcy :hug:
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Sending Mr Darcy more love and good vibes.
The steroid tablets are not that big, i hid them in webbox or primula cheese for Phoebe and she couldnt taste them , she was a very difficult cat to give tablets too . Maybe you could hide it in Mr Darcy favourite treat . :hug:
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Senidng positive vibes for the steroids to go down~~~~~Thinking of you and Mr Darcy! :wish: :Luv: :hug:
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MR Darcy "went to sleep" today at 11.45. Last night the tumour was causing problems with his brain. It was pressing on the inner ear and he could no longer stand or keeps his eyes still. I spent a last loving night with him and had a visit from my vet this morning. I am too distressed to say anymore. Thankyou for all your kind words. I just want my baby back.
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Im so sorry hes gone to the bridge :hug:
When your ready everyone will be here
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I am so terribly sorry to hear this :hug: :hug: :hug:
I am at the end of the phone if you need anything.
:RIP: Mr Darcey -you were very much loved
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I am so so sorry to hear this news! :(
RIP Mr Darcy, play hard on the Bridge little one and please send your meowmy a rainbow to let her know you are settled! x
Cats Whiskas... :care: :grouphug:
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I am just broken. What do I do.
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At the moment your feelings are too raw hun, Im sure this is so unreal for you and things have not properly gone round your mind yet...
What one person does in grief is not always anothers solution....
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your meowmy is going to miss you very much, Mr Darcy, but she knows you are free now to play happy and healthy on the bridge :RIP:
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Oh I am so sorry,
RIP Mr Darcy, play hard on the bridge baby
Cats Whiskas, if you need us we are all here for you :hug: :hug:
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Thankyou everyone, I can't tell you how much it means to me. I am in pieces. I can't cope.
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Here is what happpened - Basically I have been sleeping down with him the last few nights. Yesterday afternoon mum came in to feed him as Damien and I were both working. She said he was fine and ran over to his food bowl etc. I got in at 5.30 and went to him and he was asleep behind the sofa. He purred to me and gave one of his loving looks and seemed comfortable. I made tea, fed rabbits, washed up etc and at 7.30 went to get him out to feed him and give him some Frusimide which I had picked up from the vets. He did a strange meow to me and when I looked, his eyes were just flicking side to side, constantly and rapidly. He couldn't stand up and I had to get him out. He was very distressed and Damien and I both panicked. I rang vet and Damien rang my mum.
The vet said to give another dose of Frusimide as this may make a difference over the course of the night. I stayed up all night with him, asleep next to me. He couldn't stand or focus. But he lay and slpet somewhat. He wanted to get up a few times in the night. The first time, I held him and took him to his litter tray. He sort of slipped forward, even though I was holding him and I didn't realise. I was trying to move him and didn't realise he was weeing and he wee'd all over my trousers. Bless him, he still wanted to use his tray despite being so ill.
We got up a few times in the night for that and this morning he had his brekkie, al be it only a little bit. I spoke to my vet this morning and he was under no illusion that a decision needed to be made. They sent a vet to me a few hours later and Mr Darcy welcomed them and purred and was a pure gentleman til the very end.
This afternoon I laid with him for about 4 hours. He just looked like he had gone to sleep.
Tonight we have buried him with a letter from me, and his faveourite toys and blabnket. I feel like my best friend has gone. My baby and my soul mate. ~There is so much I want to tell you about him but I just can't at the moment. All I can say is that he has left a terrible hole in my life that will never be filled. 9 years of constant love and support. I ache for my boy.
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:'( So sorry CW but you did the kindest thing :hug:
God bless Mr Darcey, no more pain sweetie xx
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I am terribly sorry to hear this sad news and its never easy but you did the kindest thing for him :hug: :hug:
RIP Mr Darcy, you will always have a paw in your slaves heart
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I am so very sorry for your loss, Cats_whiskas and my thoughts are with you :hug: :hug:
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So ver sorry cats_whiskas
RIP little man xx
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I'm so sorry sweetheart, I'm sitting her crying for you and your baby :hug: :hug: xxxxx
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All I have done is cry. I can't stop. He was so dignified, even til the end. I am going to send my vets a thankyou card. They were so wonderful. The nurse who came out just hugged me and let me sob. I want my baby back so bad. I would give anything.
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Just seen what you wrote and thats so terribley sad. I am pleased the vet came to you and that you have been able to be with Mr Darcy for as long as you were :hug: :hug:
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I am so so sorry - thinking of you at this sad time xxx
RIP Mr Darcy - play hard at the bridge sweetheart xxx
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From all of us on Purrs to you
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So very very sorry :( I feel for you RIP Mr Darcy :hug: :hug:
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So sorry CW - the best explanation I have heard is that in doing this for him, you have taken on his pain :hug:
If you feel that it might help talking to a stranger, The Blue Cross have a bereavement support line. Nothinf can bring your boy back but they may be able to help you cope with the grief better http://www.thebluecross.org.uk/web/site/AboutUs/PetBereavement/PBSSIntro.asp
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So sorry CW - the best explanation I have heard is that in doing this for him, you have taken on his pain :hug:
If you feel that it might help talking to a stranger, The Blue Cross have a bereavement support line. Nothinf can bring your boy back but they may be able to help you cope with the grief better http://www.thebluecross.org.uk/web/site/AboutUs/PetBereavement/PBSSIntro.asp
I feel like a light bulb has gone on...... this is such an amazing analogy. Thankyou so much x
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So sorry, I lost my first beloved cat, Smudge to this form of cancer. :'(
God Bless Mr Darcy...
another star will be shining in the Heavens tonight.
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So sorry, I lost my first beloved cat, Smudge to this form of cancer. :'(
God Bless Mr Darcy...
another star will be shining in the Heavens tonight.
:hug:
Thankyou so much. So sorry to hear you lost Smudge. Did his cancer advance as rapidly as Mr Darcy's?
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So sorry to hear about Mr Darcy :hug:
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I am so sorry, i know what you are going through :hug: :hug:
I lost my Phoebe last thursday and Boy one month ago and its so hard. You loved him so much and let him go with dignity. :hug:
RIP Mr Darcy.xx
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Im so sorry to hear Mr Darcy lost his battle and i know you must be hurting so badly, but you did the kindest most loving thing you could and let him go with dignity :Luv2: and you have all your treasured memories which when the hurt abates a little bit will comfort you, RIP Mr Darcy, xxx :Luv:
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So sorry to hear about Mr Darcy :hug:
RIP Mr Darcy, safe and sound at the Bridge until your Mum & Dad are ready to collect you xx
The Greatest Gift
I always knew this time would come,
From the very instant our eyes first met.
How I loved you then! How I love you now!
I made a promise then, and I will keep that promise now...
You will not suffer from a pain that will not heal;
You will not know the loss of a life remembered, now gone.
It is for me alone to make this decision,
The price for the bright joy and pure laughter
You brought me during the time we shared.
I am the only one who can decide when it is time.
When my hope dies, and my fear rides high,
Just when I need you most, I must let you go.
It is for you alone to tell me when you are ready
For without your guidance, I will not know
When to lay my grief, my guilt, my anger
My sorrow and my selfish heart aside
And give you this last gift, this greatest gift.
Your eyes will speak to mine, and I will know.
The pain of this moment is excruciating.
Tears stream down my face in a river of sorrow.
And my heart drowns in a pool of grief.
For you have spoken and I have listened,
And unlike other decisions I have made
This one brings no relief...no comfort...no peace.
For if there´s one thing you´ve taught me,
If there´s only one thing I´ve learned...
Unconditional love has a condition after all,
I must be willing to let you go, when you speak to me
I must be willing to help you go, if you cannot go alone.
And I must accept my pain so you can be free of yours.
Go easily now, go quickly now,
Do not linger here, it is time for you to leave.
Go find your strength, go find your youth.
Go find the ones who've gone before you.
You are free to leave me now, free to let your spirit soar
Rest easy now, your pain will soon be gone.
I pray I will find comfort in my memories...
In the dark and lonely days ahead.
I cannot say I will not miss you, I cannot say I will not cry.
For only my tears can heal my broken heart.
But, I promise you this; as long as I live,
You will live, alive in my mind, forever in my heart.
So I give you this last gift, all I have left to give,
And this will be my greatest gift...sending you away.
It is the measure of my unconditional love...
For only the greatest love can say,
"Good-bye, go find the bridge, we'll meet again,
Loving you has been the greatest gift of all."
Forever and Always... Until Rainbow bridge....
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Thankyou everyone - Tiigy's Mum, that is beautiful x
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so sorry cw, but what Mark said is so true :hug:
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So much sadness at the moment. :( RIP Mr Darcy.
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our darlings went to the bridge together, I'm in tears now.
Last year I lost my cat on the same day a friend burried hers.
My god why, just why???
What can I say, I feel just as broken as you do...
(http://www.candle.com/images/candles/candles_250x251.jpg)
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NOT MR DARCY ASWELL ?! (just written on the thread for Max)
OMG I'M SO SORRY.....DAM THIS :censored: CANCER
I AM SORRY....PLEASE STAY WITH US AND WE WILL TRY AND COMFORT YOU THE BEST WE CAN.
RIP MR DARCY xxx
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RIP Mr Darcy play hard with my Sofa and Vesti on the bridge x
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RIP Mr Darcy.
So sorry for your loss. :hug:
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So very sorry to hear this
:RIP: Mr. Darcy
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Charlotte please accept me sincere condolences for your loss. I can't begin to imagine what you are feeling at the moment but we are all here for you ... if you need a cyber shoulder to cry on there are plenty of them here and even though we may not all have gone through "loss" we all understand what it means to love and be loved by a furry purrie.
RIP Mr Darcy ... free from pain little man. Your Mummy loved you so much and is missing you so badly .... play hard until you meet up again.
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I am so sorry that Mr Darcy has gone to Rainbow Bridge, a beautiful boy, my thoughts are with you, X
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I just feel like an empty shell, walking round with everything missing :(
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I can relate to that feeling hun, I'm trying to fill my day with normal stuff just to make it go a bit quicker! Going out for a run in a minute, need to clear my head, if feels so muzzy xxxxxxx
Why not try going for a really brisk walk xxx
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It was like a normal saturday morning today, going to the supermarket and the garden center...
Except, I went to the garden center for flowering plants for my darling's grave :'(
I'm sitting here, numb. My husband is away till late, I feel very alone.
Take my dogs out for a walk later, that is always my best cure for grief.
O girls, why do we have to go through all this?
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We go through it because we are caring people if we were not caring people we would not go through it. Try to think of the good times - Mr. Darcy would not want you to be unhappy.
Take care :hug: :hug:
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Yvonne is right but also one has to go through the whole greiving process to come out the other end, and that time can vary in every person. Until you go through each stage greiving is not complete.
Its something that happens naturally and you cant speed it up but you can slow it down by tyrying to forget things.
Its early days for you at present :hug: :hug: :hug:
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Im so sorry hun :hug:
Goodnight Mr Darcy xxx
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Mr Darcy's Story
I really have no appropriate words. At least not ones that could possible convey what an amazing character Mr Darcy was.
In 2000 I was attending a riding school. One afternoon the lady there asked if I would like to see her kittens. I said "no thankyou" as 5 years earlier I had lost a black and white kitten called Jack, that I had hand reared. He was knocked over by a car aged 5 months old.
However I was taken to this large shed and the doors were flung open. I would say, about 40 cats and kittens, shot in every which direction to hide and a wall of stench hit me. I thought, "well thats great, I won't get to see any kittens now". Then I became aware of a loud mewing. I looked down, and at my feet was a tiny 4 week old kitten, clinging to the bottom of my jeans, looking up at me and meowing. The lady told me to pick him up and I refused. The last thing I wanted was to fall in love. The boyfriend I was with at the time, bent and picked the kitten up and eventually I held him too. He had a terrible snotty nose and weepy eyes. I told the lady that he needed to see the vet. It became apparent she wouldn't be doing that. I asked if I could take him and she said that he and his brother were too young to leave their mum.
2 weeks later we went back and by chance I took my cat basket with me. I went to the shed after my riding lesson and found Mr Darcy playing outside in the sunshine. He looked very poorly indeed. I asked the lady where his brother was and she told me that he had died. I said "ooh he must be 8 weeks now, we could take him today". The woman went "oh yes" and agreed. He was in fact, only 6 weeks old. I got the carrier out of the car and popped it on the floor to pay her the princely sum of £15 for him. As I was paying, Mr Darcy just climbed in the open carrier and settled down. My mum always said, he chose me and he was determined he was coming home.
We went straght to the vets and got him sorted and over the next few weeks he came on in leaps and bounds. He would come everywhere with us in the car. We would pop him in and he would go straight to the parcel shelf and settle down for the journey. Sometime he would stand on my knee, in the passenger seat, with his paws on the dash board, looking out the front. I will never forget some of the looks from other motorists, especially sat at traffic lights.
Mr Darcy loved to visit and would get very excited about going to someones house.
Once I got another cat and he had a friend we used to leave him at home and he never really seemed to enjoy journeys again after that. He obviously forgot how much fun he used to find them.
Over the next 9 years, the men and friends came and went and Mr Darcy mopped up the inevitable tears. Anytime there was a new addition to the family, Mr Darcy would take responsibilty. He loved kittens and used to make sure they all endured hearty baths.
I remember moving into my first ever house. I was going to be living alone. I had to go to work and left mum unpacking for me. When I got in that evening, as I pulled up outside I saw Mr Darcy sitting on the windowsill, as if he had always lived their, and instantly I felt at ease. Mr Darcy was there so that was home.
Losing Mr Darcy, so quickly and to such an evil disease has knocked every ounce of stuffing out of me. I don't know how I will come back from this and life will never be the same again.
Mr Darcy is an infamous cat. His extraordinarily clumsy ways and human eyes have made him a favourite with many people. The tributes on my Facebook have overwhelmed me. He was eccentric and extraordinary. There is no other way to describe him.
For all the pain I have felt, if you asked me if I would have taken that scrawny kitten home , given the chance to do it all again, I would say a resounding yes. In a heart beat. Mr Darcy has given me so much in my life. The least I could do was let him go peacefully. I will love him eternally. I alwasy said, I wish he would turn into a man, because he was the most perfect gentleman I have ever met. I love you Darcy. May Flights Of Angels Take You To Your Rest.
Mr Darcy June 2000 - 30/07/2009
by Catswhiskas Today at 6:05 pm
.I really have no appropriate words. At least not ones that could possible convey what an amazing character Mr Darcy was.
In 2000 I was attending a riding school. One afternoon the lady there asked if I would like to see her kittens. I said "no thankyou" as 5 years earlier I had lost a black and white kitten called Jack, that I had hand reared. He was knocked over by a car aged 5 months old.
However I was taken to this large shed and the doors were flung open. I would say, about 40 cats and kittens, shot in every which direction to hide and a wall of stench hit me. I thought, "well thats great, I won't get to see any kittens now". Then I became aware of a loud mewing. I looked down, and at my feet was a tiny 4 week old kitten, clinging to the bottom of my jeans, looking up at me and meowing. The lady told me to pick him up and I refused. The last thing I wanted was to fall in love. The boyfriend I was with at the time, bent and picked the kitten up and eventually I held him too. He had a terrible snotty nose and weepy eyes. I told the lady that he needed to see the vet. It became apparent she wouldn't be doing that. I asked if I could take him and she said that he and his brother were too young to leave their mum.
2 weeks later we went back and by chance I took my cat basket with me. I went to the shed after my riding lesson and found Mr Darcy playing outside in the sunshine. He looked very poorly indeed. I asked the lady where his brother was and she told me that he had died. I said "ooh he must be 8 weeks now, we could take him today". The woman went "oh yes" and agreed. He was in fact, only 6 weeks old. I got the carrier out of the car and popped it on the floor to pay her the princely sum of £15 for him. As I was paying, Mr Darcy just climbed in the open carrier and settled down. My mum always said, he chose me and he was determined he was coming home.
We went straght to the vets and got him sorted and over the next few weeks he came on in leaps and bounds. He would come everywhere with us in the car. We would pop him in and he would go straight to the parcel shelf and settle down for the journey. Sometime he would stand on my knee, in the passenger seat, with his paws on the dash board, looking out the front. I will never forget some of the looks from other motorists, especially sat at traffic lights.
Mr Darcy loved to visit and would get very excited about going to someones house.
Once I got another cat and he had a friend we used to leave him at home and he never really seemed to enjoy journeys again after that. He obviously forgot how much fun he used to find them.
Over the next 9 years, the men and friends came and went and Mr Darcy mopped up the inevitable tears. Anytime there was a new addition to the family, Mr Darcy would take responsibilty. He loved kittens and used to make sure they all endured hearty baths.
I remember moving into my first ever house. I was going to be living alone. I had to go to work and left mum unpacking for me. When I got in that evening, as I pulled up outside I saw Mr Darcy sitting on the windowsill, as if he had always lived their, and instantly I felt at ease. Mr Darcy was there so that was home.
Losing Mr Darcy, so quickly and to such an evil disease has knocked every ounce of stuffing out of me. I don't know how I will come back from this and life will never be the same again.
Mr Darcy is an infamous cat. His extraordinarily clumsy ways and human eyes have made him a favourite with many people. The tributes on my Facebook have overwhelmed me. He was eccentric and extraordinary. There is no other way to describe him.
For all the pain I have felt, if you asked me if I would have taken that scrawny kitten home , given the chance to do it all again, I would say a resounding yes. In a heart beat. Mr Darcy has given me so much in my life. The least I could do was let him go peacefully. I will love him eternally. I alwasy said, I wish he would turn into a man, because he was the most perfect gentleman I have ever met. I love you Darcy. May Flights Of Angels Take You To Your Rest.
(http://i11.photobucket.com/albums/a159/rats_whiskas/Cats/204.jpg)
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What a beautiful tribute to a very very special littleman.
God bless you Mr Darcy xxxx
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RIP Mr. Darcy, such a clever boy to choose such a caring home :hug:
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Thankyou so much Fussy Furball xxxx
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Aw babe, a wonderful tribute for your wonderful little man :hug: xxx
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What a wonderful tribute to him. I am sorry things progressed so quickly, sadly that is the way with cancer at times, both times i have had a cat with cancer it has been a matter of weeks. Sadly this is hte price we pay for loving them and having them in our lives, and it is never as long as we want. RIP little one, and big hugs to you
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that's lovely , and a fitting memorial to your special boy
if we didn't really love our cats their passing would not cause us so much pain, but who would want to forego the love in order to avoid the pain? :hug:
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A lovely tribute to a very special boy :RIP: Mr. Darcey
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:'( Specially for you Mr Darcy - http://www.purrsinourhearts.co.uk/index.php/topic,26724.msg468923.html#msg468923 :Luv:
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That has literally taken my breath away. What a lovely lovely thing to do. xxx Thankyou so so much for thinking of my beautiful boy and the other wonderful kitties who have been called to the great saucer of milk in the sky, xxxxx Thankyou from the bottom of my heart.
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Another day without him :(
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