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Title: I think it might be time to let her go....
Post by: Tiggy's Mum on February 25, 2007, 15:56:07 PM
I think I might have to let my baby go, she has hardly eaten all weekend and is generally miserable.  She makes a swallowing motion like she feels sick although she hasn't actually been sick.  I can't get her to take her tablets in treats like she has done for the past 4 years as she won't eat anything so I tried to give them to her on their own, only managed to give her the anti nausea medication but it doesn't seem to be working.

I have a vets appointment booked for tomorrow afternoon and I think I know what he is going to say.  When she first started on the steroid injections he said how with his own cat the effects lasted for 4 weeks, then 3 weeks and when they only lasted for 2 weeks he had to let his cat go. 

Tiggy's jab has lasted less than two weeks.  I don't think there is anything elese that can be done for her, she looks so weak and tired but I can't bear the thought of having to choose, I keep telling her that if she is tired then she must go, not to wait for me.  I spent all this morning laying next to her and gently stroking her, she started to purr which gave me some hope but I think it was an attempt to comfort herself rather than a happy contented purr.

This is the hardest thing I've ever had to think about, the reality can only be worse  :'(
Title: Re: I think it might be time to let her go....
Post by: JackSpratt on February 25, 2007, 16:01:36 PM
Helen, stay strong. I know personally how hard this decision is (as many people on here do) and you're right, when you have to say that you feel it's time to let go, it's terribly painful. But it's painful for you, not them. They know how much they've been loved and cherished by you and THAT is the thing you have to cling to.

When you go to the vets tomorrow, do what you feel is right.(I know you will. You love Tiggy too much not to.)

I'm sending you HUGE hugs and please contact me if you feel you need to talk.
Title: Re: I think it might be time to let her go....
Post by: Gillian Harvey on February 25, 2007, 16:12:23 PM
Oh Helen, I really feel for you having to make this decision   :'(  I know you'll do whatever's right for Tiggy, so very hard to contemplate though.  Sending  :hug: to you both.
Title: Re: I think it might be time to let her go....
Post by: Millys Mum on February 25, 2007, 16:40:55 PM
Im really sorry to hear this Helen   :hug:
I know how you are feeling having been in the same position last week, my heart goes out to you  :hug:  :hug:
Title: Re: I think it might be time to let her go....
Post by: Team Svartalfheims on February 25, 2007, 16:44:11 PM
Helen, so sorry to hear this. I know you will do whatever you feel is right for Tiggy. We all know how much you adore Tiggy and I think Tiggy is one of the luckiest cats in the world to have a mum like you who cares for her so much.

Take care and I am sending my love to you both. *gentle cuddles for the gorgeous Tiggy* :group:
Title: Re: I think it might be time to let her go....
Post by: ChrisB on February 25, 2007, 16:44:52 PM
Helen, so sorry to hear that Tiggy isn't feeling too well, thinking of you, I know how difficult it is at a time like this.
Title: Re: I think it might be time to let her go....
Post by: Linda (Bengalbabe) on February 25, 2007, 16:54:08 PM
Helen,

So sorry to hear this news.  I know how much you love Tiggy and this must be absolutely heartbreaking for you.  She is a very lucky girl to have you and I know you will do the right thing for Tiggy as you have been doing for the last 4 years whilst she has been unwell.

I am thinking of you.  Big Hugs to you and kisses for my beautiful Tiggy.

Linda x
Title: Re: I think it might be time to let her go....
Post by: Christine (Blip) on February 25, 2007, 17:13:03 PM
Helen

I am so sorry to hear that Tiggy is poorly. Gentle kisses to her.

Please call me any time tomorrow if you would like to talk anything through at all.

Love to both of you

Christine
Title: Re: I think it might be time to let her go....
Post by: Kittybabe (Ruth) on February 25, 2007, 17:25:59 PM
Helen

I am so sorry hun, I wish there was something, anything, any of us could for you so that you didn't need to make such a tough decision. You've worked so hard with Tiggy to keep her as healthy as can be, and I know you love her so if you do have to make that decision it will be what is right for Tiggy.

Thinking of you.

Hugs to you both

Ruth x
Title: Re: I think it might be time to let her go....
Post by: Teresa Pawcats on February 25, 2007, 17:29:23 PM
Helen
Just thinking that if all the cats in the world had half the amount of care you have devoted to the beautiful Tiggy then what a wonderful place it would be.
Tiggy has touched all of our hearts and sadly too many of us know what you are going through.
I wish I could take your pain away  :hug: to you and Tiggy
Tx  
Title: Re: I think it might be time to let her go....
Post by: Desley (booktigger) on February 25, 2007, 17:54:20 PM
I am so sorry that it looks like her time, she is so incredibly lucky to have had a mum like you though, who has done so much to keep her happy and healthy, and I know you will do whatever is right for her tomorrow, not all cats are that lucky. It really isn't an easy position to be in though, we are all here for you if you need to talk, sadly the majority of us know what you are going through. At least by choosing, you will know that she has gone peacefully, and with someone who loves her so much with her, rather than having to go through pain and suffering.
Title: Re: I think it might be time to let her go....
Post by: Mark on February 25, 2007, 18:01:45 PM
Hi Helen,

I know you have become an expert on Tiggy's problem and done everything possible. I know when we are that close, we are tuned in to our babies and know what's best for them. I know how hard it will be if you have to make that decision but I know you will do what's best for her as you love her so much. I hope for yours & Tiggy's sake it's something else but whatever the outcome, you kept her well for as long as you could.

Thinking of you both

Mark.
Title: Re: I think it might be time to let her go....
Post by: Rhona on February 25, 2007, 18:44:59 PM
Thinking of you at this very sad time Helen.  Only you will know when it is the right time to let Tiggy go.  I was in the same situation last summer & letting go was one of the hardest things I have ever done.  Be strong.   Sending you a huge hug x
Title: Re: I think it might be time to let her go....
Post by: ccmacey on February 25, 2007, 18:57:01 PM
OMG Helen, I'm so sorry to read about Tiggy and what you are both going through, I'm crying my eyes out while writing this, its so sad. I hope that if the darling Tiggy has anything left in her she will be happy for the rest of her days, and if you have to make the decision to let her rest then I hope we can all be a comfort to you, but obviously everyone is hoping for the best for Tiggy and I know you will do what is right for her.

So sad Helen, please let us know what happens tomorrow if you can.

Thinking of you at this very difficult time, sending lots of positive thoughts for you and Tiggy.

Love and bets wishes, cc. :'(  :hug:
Title: Re: I think it might be time to let her go....
Post by: Sam (Fussy_Furball) on February 25, 2007, 19:04:07 PM
Helen,

I can't add anything more to what everyone else has said apart from to reiterate that Tiggy is a very very lucky girl to have had such a caring and loving mummy as you.  I have no doubt you will make the right decision for you prescious little girl but we all appreciate that it will be one of the hardest things you ever have to do.

My heart goes out to you hun.  Big hugs to you and lots of love and gentle cuddles to Tiggy.
Title: Re: I think it might be time to let her go....
Post by: saffron on February 25, 2007, 19:10:42 PM
sorry to hear your news,  :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug:
Title: Re: I think it might be time to let her go....
Post by: Gill (sneakiefeline) on February 25, 2007, 19:20:55 PM
Oh Helen, what devastating news. I am so very sorry that her steroids are not working any more. Tiggy is just so gorgeous and I know you love her so much and having to make the right decision is very hard.

Dont know what else to say except strokes to Tiggy and loads of  :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: to you.

Will be thinking of you both tomorrow.
Title: Re: I think it might be time to let her go....
Post by: Yvonne on February 25, 2007, 20:28:57 PM
Hi Helen,

So sorry to hear that Tiggy is unwell but as everybody has said you have given her a wonderful life.  Please keep us posted and let us know how you get on at the Vets tomorrow.  You never know it may not be the end after all you had another scare not so long ago.

Sending positive vibes to you and Tiggy.

 :hug:    :luck:   :hug:   :luck:
Title: Re: I think it might be time to let her go....
Post by: Tan on February 25, 2007, 20:32:06 PM
Oh Hun My love and thoughts are with you. I know exacltly what ya going through like so many of us and it's one of the hardest decisions to make. Like the others have said, you love her soo much and she knows that,  you will make the right one for the best for her. She will always be with you.

We are all here for you and will all be with you in spirit tomorrow.  :group:  :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug:

Title: Re: I think it might be time to let her go....
Post by: Ellie on February 25, 2007, 20:59:03 PM
Oh Helen I am so sorry to hear about the gorgeous Tiggy  :hug:

My heart goes out to you xxxx

I am thinking of you both and send you both lots of love and hugs xxxxxx
Title: Re: I think it might be time to let her go....
Post by: sheryl on February 25, 2007, 21:04:03 PM
Thinking of you Helen such sad news, I know what you are going through, sending lots of love xxx
Title: Re: I think it might be time to let her go....
Post by: Baggy on February 25, 2007, 22:02:24 PM
Helen, I'm so sorry to hear that beautiful Tiggy seems to have taken a turn for the worse, I'm hoping so much for you both that it's a false alarm, but as everyone has said, you'll know what the right thing for Tiggy is.  Lots of strokes to Tiggy and hugs to you.

xx
Title: Re: I think it might be time to let her go....
Post by: Tiggy's Mum on February 25, 2007, 22:06:32 PM
Just wanted to say thanks to everyone for all your kind thoughts....  She still hasn't eaten anything, I'm not going to work tomorrow and will try and get the first appointment in the morning instead of the afternoon one I already have booked in case there is something they can give her to make her feel better, I keep thinking that I have made a decision then she will stretch her paw out in the special way that she does and then I am not so sure  :'(
Title: Re: I think it might be time to let her go....
Post by: Kittybabe (Ruth) on February 25, 2007, 22:11:31 PM
Hugs to you hun, will be keeping a watch tomorrow.  Fingers x'd you get better news than you expect.

xx
Title: Re: I think it might be time to let her go....
Post by: Gill (sneakiefeline) on February 25, 2007, 22:15:56 PM
Goodluck tomorrow  :hug: :hug:
Title: Re: I think it might be time to let her go....
Post by: ccmacey on February 25, 2007, 22:17:45 PM
I second that Gill.

Title: Re: I think it might be time to let her go....
Post by: Tan on February 25, 2007, 22:53:05 PM
We'll all be there with you and Tiggs morrow hun. xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
Title: Re: I think it might be time to let her go....
Post by: Debbie on February 26, 2007, 00:13:17 AM
Helen  :hug:

Just wanted to show my support at this difficult time for you. I have not been in your position but I am sure whatever decision you make, it will be right for Tiggy.  Sending positive thoughts and big hugs for you and the beautiful Tiggy.
Title: Re: I think it might be time to let her go....
Post by: Desley (booktigger) on February 26, 2007, 07:54:54 AM
Will be thinking of you today HElen.
Title: Re: I think it might be time to let her go....
Post by: Ellie on February 26, 2007, 08:11:24 AM
Thinking of you both today  :hug:  xxxx

Title: Re: I think it might be time to let her go....
Post by: Ela on February 26, 2007, 08:15:46 AM
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This is the hardest thing I've ever had to think about, the reality can only be worse

I am so sorry. All I can say making the decision for the final act of kindness heartbreaking but often the right thing to do.
Title: Re: I think it might be time to let her go....
Post by: Tiggy's Mum on February 26, 2007, 08:50:02 AM
I woke up this morning with Tiggy on my pillow purring very gently unprompted, she still hasn't eaten but it has given me a bit of hope....  Appointment is at 09:20, I'm still terrified that I might have to say goodbye but like you have all said I will do what's right for her.
Title: Re: I think it might be time to let her go....
Post by: Dawn F on February 26, 2007, 08:55:00 AM
fingers crossed helen
Title: Re: I think it might be time to let her go....
Post by: Mark on February 26, 2007, 09:06:32 AM
Tiggy & You were the first thing I thought of this morning. Really hoping for the best for you both  :ahh:
Title: Re: I think it might be time to let her go....
Post by: Susanne (urbantigers) on February 26, 2007, 09:19:30 AM
I opened this thread with a heavy heart when I saw who had started it and am reading it with tears in my eyes.  There are no words to describe how much I feel for you, Helen.  I'm hoping she picks up and there is something the vet can do, but if not you know her better than anyone and will know when the time's right to let her go.  You've given her a wonderful life.  I'll be thinking of you today.
Title: Re: I think it might be time to let her go....
Post by: JackSpratt on February 26, 2007, 09:28:59 AM
Thinking of you and Tiggy and hoping something can be done.
Title: Re: I think it might be time to let her go....
Post by: Kittybabe (Ruth) on February 26, 2007, 09:53:14 AM
Oh hun thinking of you constantly this morning. xxx
Title: Re: I think it might be time to let her go....
Post by: CurlyCatz on February 26, 2007, 10:03:51 AM
Oh helen i only just saw this thread.  I do hope i see some positive news when i check back on later. 
I really really hope that Tiggy can ralley from this and the vet can give her some "pick me up" drugs. 
From my own experience with my soots I can feel nothing but complete sadness and empathy for you but am praying the news will be better than you expect.

lots of love and hugs
Lynn X
Title: Re: I think it might be time to let her go....
Post by: Tiggy's Mum on February 26, 2007, 10:11:57 AM
She's gone.... The vet found a lump in her small intestine, she just lay on the table with her head down after he'd felt for it - I looked into her eyes and knew that she couldn't fight any more so I let her go. 

Forever and Always baby xx
Title: Re: I think it might be time to let her go....
Post by: Ela on February 26, 2007, 10:14:33 AM
I am so sorry, as you know I do know exactly how you must be feeling. What a bad month we are all having.

Take care.
Title: Re: I think it might be time to let her go....
Post by: ChrisB on February 26, 2007, 10:15:54 AM
Helen, I am so, so sorry - there is nothing we can say to help right now but you gave Tiggy a wonderful life, full of love.   Thinking of you, Chris, XX
Title: Re: I think it might be time to let her go....
Post by: Michelle (furbabystar) on February 26, 2007, 10:16:54 AM
(((((Helen))))))

I am so so sorry -

^Tiggy^, Sleep now Sweet girl

Lots of Love
Michelle xxx
Title: Re: I think it might be time to let her go....
Post by: Kittybabe (Ruth) on February 26, 2007, 10:20:40 AM
Oh Helen, honey so very sorry, my thoughts are with you.


Rest in peace little girl, so missed and loved by your mummy and us.

xx  :hug:  xx

Title: Re: I think it might be time to let her go....
Post by: JackSpratt on February 26, 2007, 10:23:49 AM
Helen, I was so hoping you wouldn't have to go through this so soon. Believe me, I know how you're feeling.

RIP Tiggy. You were a beautiful girl and you were cherished every moment of your life.

Helen, there's nothing I can say that will make it easier. ((hugs)) I hope you're coping and realise that Tiggy will know you loved her right up until the end.
Title: Re: I think it might be time to let her go....
Post by: CurlyCatz on February 26, 2007, 10:24:40 AM
Helen....So sorry, how awful.

I know there arent any useful words for you just now but take 1 day at a time and we're here as a group or individually if you need us.

RIP Tiggy...you were a wonderful beautiful girl
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Title: Re: I think it might be time to let her go....
Post by: Debbie on February 26, 2007, 10:25:18 AM
Oh Helen  :'(

I am sending you a big hug.  You knew what the right thing to do was for your girl remember that.  She will always be with you as I am sure there are lots of happy memories to treasure.  Words at this time are not much compensation but I know you have lots of friends here to talk to. 

 :hug: Debbie
Title: Re: I think it might be time to let her go....
Post by: Tan on February 26, 2007, 10:25:24 AM
Oh Helen hun I'm crying as i type i'm so sorry.  She will always be with you, always in your heart. She will watch over you on the bridge with no pain and will wait for you. One day you will be with her again. She's your Guardian angel.

My love and hug are with you hun, we are all here for you.  :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :Luv: :group:

RIP Tiggy darling. Have fun on the bridge with all our babes till we all come and cuddle you all again.
xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
Title: Re: I think it might be time to let her go....
Post by: Team Svartalfheims on February 26, 2007, 10:27:44 AM
I am so so sorry Helen. I hope you are comforted by the fact that she went peacefully. You know where we are if you want to talk about anything  :group:

Sleep well Tiggy, you've left a pawprint in the hearts of everyone here. You know how much you were loved and cared for by your Mummy and we all loved you too.  

Lots of love
Lottie xxx
Title: Re: I think it might be time to let her go....
Post by: Yvonne on February 26, 2007, 10:30:47 AM
Oh Helen, so sorry - not the news I wanted.

If it should be I grow frail and weak, 
And pain prevents my peaceful sleep,
Then you must do what must be done,
When this last battle can't be won.

You will be sad, I understand.
Selfishness might stay your hand.
But on this day, more than the rest,
Your love and friendship take the test.

We've had so many happy years ,
That what's to come can hold no fears.
You'd not want me to suffer.
So, When the time comes, please let me go.

Take me where my needs they'll tend.
Only stay with me until the end.
Hold me firm and speak to me.
Until my eyes no longer see.

I know, in time, you, too, will see,
It is a kindness that you do for me.
Although my tail it's last has waved,
From pain and suffering I've been saved.

Do not grieve it should be you.
Who must decide this thing to do.
We've been so close, we two, these years......Don't let your heart hold any tears


I hope you are having the day off today, you need it.

Thinking of you at this awful time  :hug: :hug:

Please take care xxx
Title: Re: I think it might be time to let her go....
Post by: ccmacey on February 26, 2007, 10:35:58 AM
Oh Helen, I'm devastated for you. Ive been thinking about you all night and I'm so sorry it had to come to this. Don't know what else to say. Wish I could be there with you as I'm feeling your pain, so sorry.  :hug:

Sleep well Tiggy, you have left a big hole in your mums heart.
Rest in eternal peace free from pain and suffering, you will be sadly missed.

 :Sad Bye:
Title: Re: I think it might be time to let her go....
Post by: Susanne (urbantigers) on February 26, 2007, 10:36:46 AM
Oh Helen - I'm so sorry  :hug:  Most of us on here have been through the same thing at some point so now how awful you must be feeling.  I feel I knew Tiggy so well through you and have a real lump in my throat right now.  She will be missed by all of us, but that's nothing compared to how you must be feeling.  I hope you can take some comfort in the fact that your care of her over the past few years undoubtably extended her life and that she lived a long and happy life due to you.  Letting her go before she suffered too much was the last thing you were able to do for her.  I'm glad she enjoyed her life right up until the end, especially her tent!

RIP Tiggy  :Luv:

You know we're all here for you, Helen.
Title: Re: I think it might be time to let her go....
Post by: Mark on February 26, 2007, 10:41:54 AM
So sorry Helen. Like other people, I felt like I knew Tiggy. You did the kindest thing and spared her pain and illness.
Title: Re: I think it might be time to let her go....
Post by: Desley (booktigger) on February 26, 2007, 10:48:42 AM
I am so sorry to hear this, she had such a wonderful life with you, and you gave her the greatest thing when it became apparent she couldn't fight any more. RIP little one
Title: Re: I think it might be time to let her go....
Post by: ccmacey on February 26, 2007, 11:25:48 AM
He pulled me up and saved me,
     From the misery and pain.
My body was hurt so badly inside,
     I could never be the same.

My search is really over now,
     I've found happiness within,
All the answers to my empty dreams
    And all that might have been.

I love you and I miss you so,
     and I'll always be nearby.
My body's gone forever,
     But my spirit will never die!

And so, you must  go on now,
     live one day at a time.
Just understand-
     God did not take me from you,
He only took my hand."
Title: Re: I think it might be time to let her go....
Post by: Christine (Blip) on February 26, 2007, 11:32:43 AM
Helen, I am so very sorry for your loss.

Beautiful Tiggy touched all our hearts. She had a wonderful life with you and you spared her suffering when the time came.

Love

Christine
Title: Re: I think it might be time to let her go....
Post by: Totos Mum on February 26, 2007, 11:34:45 AM
You did such a brave and kind thing Helen and my heart goes out to you at this sad time...
Hugs,
Sarah
Title: Re: I think it might be time to let her go....
Post by: Susanne (urbantigers) on February 26, 2007, 11:35:01 AM
Goodbye dear friend, you've set me free
From any pain and misery
Of aching joints and failing heart
I know it's time for us to part
You made that choice to let me go
My time has come, this I know
Long and hard you fought, you tried
Oh dear friend I know you've cried
There are some fights that can't be fought
Old age is one, youth can't be bought
No pills, no cures for passing years
Our eyes do dim as do our ears
No magic wand can 'eer bring back
That precious thing we both do lack
The will to live, to stand and fight
There is no wrong, there is no right
In meadows green I will run
To you I know I was a son
A cat I was, not a child
Now I'm free, I can run wild
That bond between us will always stay
Even though I'm far away
'Til day is done for you I'll wait
Just outside of heavens' gate
My guide has come to lead me home
Where in green fields I'm free to roam
My aches have gone, my ills they mend
In that place, called Rainbow's End




THE VISITOR

In the silent, secret hours
Of a frozen, moonlit night,
Whilst you slumber fitfully, tearfully,
Broken by grief -
The soft, unseen footsteps of a phantom feline
Will tiptoe through your dreams.

When all the world is sleeping
I shall fill your empty heart with gentle memories,
And rest again, warm in the safety of your arms.

And when you awake,
Confused by sleep, half-remembering,
You will feel the parting, velvet imprint
Of my muzzle against your cheek,
And you will know
I am at peace.

Title: Re: I think it might be time to let her go....
Post by: littleKitten_(alex) on February 26, 2007, 11:46:00 AM
I am so sorry to read this. It is an enormous responsibility we have, to sometimes have to make difficult decisions about what is best for our loved ones. I think everyone on here feels for you, and I hope you will be all right, even if it must feel very empty right now.
Title: Re: I think it might be time to let her go....
Post by: clarenmax on February 26, 2007, 11:51:21 AM
Oh Helen, I am so so sorry to hear about your darling girl  :'(

Sleep tight princess, play hard at the Bridge and know how much your mummy will always love you until you see each other again.

I'm sending huge  :hug: your way, and remember we're all here for you if you need us xx

Title: Re: I think it might be time to let her go....
Post by: Rosella moggy on February 26, 2007, 12:11:02 PM
Helen

So very, very sorry to hear about Tiggy.  Like most on here am in tears and know how you feel and wish I could say or do something to ease your hurt but there's nothing except time that can do that and lots of it. RIP Tiggy darling
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Post by: Liz on February 26, 2007, 12:17:05 PM
So sorry for your loss, it is the hardest thing we ever have to do for our furkids.

Always a pawprint in your heart

Liz and the Clan Cats
Title: Re: I think it might be time to let her go....
Post by: Gill (sneakiefeline) on February 26, 2007, 12:27:21 PM
I am so very sorry Helen. You did the right thing but it is a devastatng loss and we are all suffering with you. I felt like I knew Tiggy and she knows that you will love her forever and soon she will send you a rainbow to tell you she is fine on  the bridge.  :hug: :hug: :hug:

RIP beautiful Tiggy, enjoy the wonderful Bridge and say hello to all our friends up there
Title: Re: I think it might be time to let her go....
Post by: Littlebobo on February 26, 2007, 13:42:06 PM
Helen words can not tell you have devastated i am for you i recall your most recent pics she was such a gorgeous little girl.

Be strong - have fun on the bridge Tiggy Mummy adored you so very dearly.xxx

If you need to talk to anyone you know where i am x
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Post by: ccmacey on February 26, 2007, 13:49:20 PM
Yeah I feel like we all knew Tiggy and were all saddened by this. But it will be nothing compared to what Helen is going through right now. I hope she has someone there to comfort her.
Title: Re: I think it might be time to let her go....
Post by: swampmaxmum on February 26, 2007, 14:36:09 PM
Helen, I can't find words.  Tiggy was so loved and so special and she always will be. My heart goes out to you. All our love and support xxx
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Post by: tab on February 26, 2007, 15:09:58 PM
Im so sorry ((((((((((())))))))


RIP Tiggy play well at the bridge

love
Tab
Title: Re: I think it might be time to let her go....
Post by: Ellie on February 26, 2007, 15:34:07 PM
Helen I am so very sorry to here about gorgeous Tiggy  :hug:

She stole all our hearts and was a very special wee lady xxx

Our love and thoughts are with you xxxxxx

RIP Tiggy you are a beautiful wee girl and you have left a very special pawprint on your Mummy's heart xxxxx
Title: Re: I think it might be time to let her go....
Post by: ClaireR on February 26, 2007, 16:08:59 PM
Helen, so sorry to hear about your loss.  It was evident to us all how much you loved Tiggy and how much she loved being with you.

Claire xx
Title: Re: I think it might be time to let her go....
Post by: Millys Mum on February 26, 2007, 16:26:12 PM
Sorry to hear this sad news   :hug:  :hug:
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Post by: gailjackson on February 26, 2007, 16:41:16 PM
Helen, I'm so sorry...we all understand and most us of have been through this....you take care of yourself,
reading your story feels like I've lost my Felix all over again....I know reading everyone's responses helped me loads...
Lots of hugs, Gail Thomas and Snowball xxx
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Post by: Gillian Harvey on February 26, 2007, 16:44:56 PM
Oh Helen, I've only just logged on and was dreading hearing this news - I can only echo what others have said, that Tiggy touched our hearts and that we felt we knew her personally. She is at peace, but now you have to come to terms with it, which, knowing how much you loved her, is going to be hard, but were are all here to support you if you need us.  :hug:
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Post by: Sam (Fussy_Furball) on February 26, 2007, 16:52:31 PM
Helen,

First chance I've had to check on this today ..... I am so sorry.  I can't begin to imaine how you must be feeling.  I'm sure there are no words that will be able to comfort you at the moment but we are all for you when you want us.

(http://i126.photobucket.com/albums/p99/Fussy_furball/February%202007/c05.jpg)

Sending you lots of love and my sincere condolences for the loss of a very special furbabe.

RIP Tiggy
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Post by: Tiggy's Mum on February 26, 2007, 18:52:05 PM
Just wanted to thank everyone for all the messages...   I've had my little girl since I was 10 years old and I'm 30 next year, it just won't be the same without my baby, the house feels so empty without her :'(  She is being individually cremated so she will be coming home next week, I kept looking out for a rainbow today but haven't seen one yet, I asked her to let me know she got there safely.
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Post by: Kittybabe (Ruth) on February 26, 2007, 18:55:28 PM
Honey, I can't imagine the pain you are going through. I so wish I could make the pain go away. We're all here for you, and if you want to chat just give me a all ok? Will PM you my number if you just want a good cry and know we all love and care for you both. xx
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Post by: ccmacey on February 26, 2007, 19:01:10 PM
Helen, you will see that rainbow and you will feel her there.

It rained on the day my Renie passed so everytime it rains now I think she is with me.

Im so sorry it had to be this way, I just wanna give you a big hug.

Thinking of you, as is everyone else. cc   :hug:
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Post by: Linda (Bengalbabe) on February 26, 2007, 19:12:07 PM
Helen, I am absolutely devastated to hear about beautiful Tiggy - my heart goes out to you.   :'(

She was the most loved girl I have ever known and like many others I felt like I knew her and she was part of our extended family.  Take care of yourself Helen.  I am here for you. xxx
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Post by: Sam (Fussy_Furball) on February 26, 2007, 19:28:23 PM
Helen,

I'm sure you haven't given it much thought yet but if you are looking for a nice urn for Tiggy I thought you might like some of these:

http://cgi.ebay.co.uk/PET-URNS_W0QQitemZ170084279378QQihZ007QQcategoryZ88744QQssPageNameZWDVWQQrdZ1QQcmdZViewItem

http://search.ebay.co.uk/search/search.dll?cgiurl=http%3A%2F%2Fcgi.ebay.co.uk%2Fws%2F&fkr=1&from=R8&satitle=pet+urns&category0=
Title: Re: I think it might be time to let her go....
Post by: saffron on February 26, 2007, 20:07:58 PM
Sory for your loss  :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug:
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Post by: Baggy on February 26, 2007, 20:22:28 PM
Helen, I'm so sorry to hear about beautiful Tiggy, mine and my husband's thoughts were with you today.   :'(

I know it's hard to find comfort, but you were a fantastic Mum.

She's probably with the Proot now, running classes on "Pillow Trampling Technique" for all the younger cats.

xx

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Post by: Rhona on February 26, 2007, 21:37:39 PM
So sorry to hear your news Helen.  Such a sad sad time.  RIP dear Tiggy. 
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Post by: Smudgey on February 26, 2007, 21:47:21 PM
 :Sad Bye: Bye Tiggy you will be very sadly missed
Play hard on the bridge baby
So sorry you had to go thru this  :hug: to you Helen  it's such a very sad day xxx

such beautiful poems had me in tears as i guess it did lots of us
Take care Helen love Jackie xx
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Post by: Reynard on February 26, 2007, 22:08:40 PM
Helen, I've only just seen this thread - I'm so sorry to hear about Tiggy, It's got me reaching for the tissues. You gave your girl a wonderful life and although the decision to let her go must have been hard, it was the best thing you could have done for the little sweetheart.

Hugs and purrs,

Witty, Toby & Pearl
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Post by: Rosella moggy on February 26, 2007, 22:52:19 PM
Hi Helen

I had my lovely Dingle for almost 21 years from a young kitten. When she passed away 20 Oct 1997, I felt her tangible presence around the house. For about 6 months, I just glimpsed her out of the corner of my eye. I learned not to turn my head to look and found great comfort in that for the first few months which was of course the most painful time. Hope you find a similar way of getting through this.
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Post by: Beccles on February 27, 2007, 11:28:21 AM
I'm so unbelievably sorry, Helen - I've just arrived on this thread, got home from hospital yesterday.

I'm crying for you and for Tiggy. She had the most wonderful life with you, you were a fantastic mum to her.

I really hope that you're OK, I'm sure you know that there are dozens and dozens of us out here thinking of you and wishing you well - the next few weeks are going to be hard ones.

Many, many hugs.
Title: Re: I think it might be time to let her go....
Post by: Tiggy's Mum on February 27, 2007, 12:29:33 PM
Just wanted to thank everyone for all the support, I'm finding it quite hard at the moment and am walking round like a loony with her collar in my hand.  When her brother Benji died I was angry and kept saying it wasn't fair that he had been taken, this time all I can say is I'm sorry as it was me who chose to let her go, I hope she understands that I did it because I love her so much and din't want her to suffer...

She's probably with the Proot now, running classes on "Pillow Trampling Technique" for all the younger cats.  xx

This made me smile, quite an achievment!
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Post by: JackSpratt on February 27, 2007, 12:54:08 PM
Helen, there is absolutely NO way Tiggy would've thought you would do anything other than what's best for her. I've said it before and I meant it, your love for her came through in every post you made about her.
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Post by: Rosella moggy on February 27, 2007, 12:58:46 PM
Well said JackSpratt
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Post by: Beccles on February 27, 2007, 13:05:45 PM
Thirded. Tiggy has had so much unconditional love and care throughout her long, wonderful life... she will never have any doubt of your love and care and intentions. She's safe and sound now and will be forever so. It's you we've got to look after now, Helen.
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Post by: Desley (booktigger) on February 27, 2007, 13:06:10 PM
Helen, you truly have nothing to be sorry about, you fought so many battles with her and when it came to the one you knew she couldn't beat, you listened to her. That is something to be proud of, you loved her enough to put your feelings aside and do what was best for her, and this truly was. You would only have had reason to be sorry if you had let her linger on and suffer, and you didn't. She knows how much you loved her and that you did this for her.
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Post by: Christine (Blip) on February 27, 2007, 13:24:40 PM
Desley is right Helen, you did the best for Tiggy as you always have throughout her long and happy life.

Thinking of you at this time...

x Christine
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Post by: Gill (sneakiefeline) on February 27, 2007, 13:29:49 PM
I agree with the others, you made a terribly hard decision because you loved her so much.
 
The next few days, weeks and even months will be hard but although it is painful, cherish the memeories, let Tiggy stay with you in your heart forever. :hug: :hug: :hug:
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Post by: clarenmax on February 27, 2007, 13:46:52 PM
I agree with everyone else Helen, Tiggy knew it was time to go, and you put your feelings aside to do what was best for her.   

Tiggy knows that this was your final act of love and kindness for her, and I know she'll be watching down from Rainbow Bridge and be upset that her mummy is so upset about what she had to do.  She'll be with you forever and I'm sure she'll let you know that shortly, whether it be a rainbow, or some other little sign that only she could do  :hug:
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Post by: Tiggy's Mum on February 27, 2007, 14:50:41 PM
Thank you to those lovely people who sent me the beautiful flowers, it was a lovely and unexpected surprise. They are on my windowsill and each time I look at them I will try to  remember the good times I had with Tiggy without feeling sad  :)



Title: Re: I think it might be time to let her go....
Post by: Sue P (Paddysmum) on February 27, 2007, 21:22:55 PM
Helen - sweetheart.  Have just caught this thread.  Am so so sorry. My heart goes out to you.
Title: Re: I think it might be time to let her go....
Post by: Tan on February 28, 2007, 10:51:51 AM
How ya doin hun?  :Luv: :Luv: :hug:
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Post by: sheryl on February 28, 2007, 20:26:24 PM
So very, very sorry Helen, thinking of you at this sad time xxx

RIP Tiggy - play hard at the bridge, forever in your Mummies heart xxx
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Post by: gia on February 28, 2007, 20:50:06 PM
I am so very, very sorry.

It's clear that the two of you have enjoyed a lovely relationship.

You did the right thing.

Gia
xxx
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Post by: Tiggy's Mum on March 01, 2007, 18:24:37 PM
I have done her a tribute page on the Rainbow Bridge section, it's very long but there are photo's too..... If anyone want's to read it it's here - http://www.chaptanservices.com/purrs/index.php?topic=2341.msg37230#msg37230
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Post by: Kittybabe (Ruth) on March 01, 2007, 18:38:20 PM
Its a truly lovely tribute to your little girl.  :hug:
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Post by: Gillian Harvey on March 01, 2007, 19:17:09 PM
That is a lovely tribute Helen, I must admit I was hardly able to read to the last part  :'(  - must be something in my eye! It was lovely to hear her story - and I laughed at the little 'cone-head' trotting down the street, and had a hilarious vision of her diving out the window and then clinging on to the roof tiles like some cartoon cat  ;D

What lovely memories you have, and I hope it has helped to write about them - I think its a good way to get through the grief somehow. There will come a time when you can remember her without it hurting so much.  :hug:

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Post by: shecat on March 01, 2007, 19:19:23 PM
Its beautiful Helen  :hug:
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Post by: Sue P (Paddysmum) on March 02, 2007, 07:12:41 AM
Helen, what a wonderful and loving tribute to Tiggy.  I've shed tears for you both.      :hug:
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Post by: Ela on March 02, 2007, 07:38:34 AM
A wonderful tribute.
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Post by: clarenmax on March 02, 2007, 09:07:32 AM
That's a lovely tribute Helen, and gorgeous pics too  :hug:
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Post by: Tan on March 02, 2007, 11:43:39 AM
Oh Helen your tribute to a fantastic, amazing girl was soo lovely.  It was upsetting to read but soo wonderful as well, tiggs is wonderful and always will be. A love that will be treasured forever by both of you.

Play well on the bridge sweetheart.

 :catluv: :catluv: :blow kiss:
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Post by: deniseb90 on March 02, 2007, 20:16:51 PM
What a gorgoeous tribute Helen - your Tiggy was a very lucky girl to have found you. 

Dx
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Post by: forever_missing_my_boys(Lisa) on March 03, 2007, 20:49:41 PM
Im so sorry my heart goes out to u at this sad time .

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