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In Loving Memory Cats => Rainbow Bridge - In Loving Memory => Topic started by: Debsymiller (Rufus' mum) on February 12, 2009, 12:48:46 PM
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I don't have the energy to write details, just trying to get through the day at work as I was already here when I found out. He was killed on the road having wandered a way and OH found him this morning. We were up all night searching for him as he always comes home so we knew something was wrong but wasn't confirmed til this morning.
2 cats in 3 months, I can not believe my special boy has gone. I feel like I'm going to curl up and die this hurts so much.
I just need some kind words to get me through til 3.15 then I can go home.
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omg I am so sorry, as somebody who has lost a much loved cat to the road I really do feel for you :hug: :hug: :hug:
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Oh Hun, My heart goes out to you :hug:
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:'( i'm so very sorry to read this.
thinking of you :hug:
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So sorry to hear this, what a terrible thing to happen :hug:
Why cant you go home now?
RIP Rufus
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I think Debs is a teacher Gill
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I'm so sorry sweetheart :hug: :hug:
Can't you get whoever's in charge to let you go home now? You're grieving and in shock, you shouldn't have to be at work hunnie :hug: :hug:
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Oh no Hunnie I am so so sorry and am sitting here crying for you and the beautiful Rufus - thinking of you :hug: :hug: :hug:
RIP sweet Rufus - another furbaby taken too young xxx
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oh Debs! :'(
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I'm so sorry for you and your family
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I am so sorry for your loss, Debs.
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Oh no :'(
I'm so sorry for your loss :hug:
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So soirry for your loss its never easy we lost 2 in 3 months so can sympathise with you
If I was you I would just get up and leave - I did it a number of years ago when our darling Haggis died in an RTA
I hope you can get home soon and cuddle the remaining lights in your life as they will be as confused as you :hug:
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Debs, am so sorry, sweetheart. Play hard at the bridge Rufus.
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Debs I am so sorry :hug: :hug: :hug:
Play hard at the bridge little one
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oh i'm so sorry to hear about your baby :'(
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Debs so sorry to hear about Rufus. My thoughts are with you at this terrible time x
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Oh sweetheart I am so sorry, I know there is nothing I can say to take the pain away but we are all here for you.
You know I lost 2 of my cats in the same month recently and the support I recieved here helped so please know everyone is here for you whatever ok :hug:
I know my Sylvester and Sofa will be playing with Rufus on the Rainbow Bridge sweetie.
I will light a candle for him when I am home from work.
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NO!!!
This is awful! I REALLY share your pain. It's the most awful thing ever. All I can say is hang in there, and take your time to grieve. Rufus was a very much loved, special boy. He knows that too. My Jameson has welcomed him at the Bridge and I suspect they are already running riot.
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Oh my goodness, how awful for you. My thoughts are with you, your OH and your other babes. Playhard at the bridge little man. :hug:
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I'm so sorry for your loss Debs, my heart goes out to your whole family, both human and furry.
Rufus, send your mum a sign that you're safe at the bridge, all our bridge babes will look after you.
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I'm so, so sorry.
I've been there - nearly six years ago our boy Vlad was hit by a car and killed (although he actually died overnight at the vets).
It's small comfort, but the thing I was always most grateful for was that we found him - we knew what had happened. So many owners never get to know.
Now one of Vlad's successors has gone to the bridge too....
RIP little man.
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I'm so sorry for your loss Debs :'( :hug:
Hang in there hun :hug: :hug:
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Debs I'm so so sorry to hear about Rufus. Hope work wasn't too horrible today sending :hug:
R.I.P Rufus.
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I am so sorry Debs, you must be in shock. I hope you managed to get home early. RIP Rufus :hug: :hug: :hug:
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So sorry Debs :( :hug: :hug:
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so sad - it never gets easier
Ron's little Daisy will keep Rufus company at Rainbow Bridge
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So sorry Debs :hug: like many others here, I've been through this too and it is devastating. We are all here for you. :hug:
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Thank you all. I got home a little while ago. The kids were so lovely to me today and I kept it together til hometime but am an absolute wreck now. I can't believe he's not here to greet me, he never leaves my side when I'm home. I love all my babies but Rufus and I had a bond I have never experienced before he truly is my best friend. OH is still at work but we're both off for a week after tomorrow so will be able to support each other.
We have spoken several times on the phone today. He found him as he was leaving for work this morning. He has gone to the vets to be cremated and the vet called Brad back after they examined him and said it was a blow to the head so would have been very quick, which is at least a little bit of a blessing. They think it's likely to have been a car and I have to believe that as anything else doesn't bare thinking about. Brad found him and wrapped him in a blanket but thinks it definately happened last night. I knew in my gut it was bad news as he always comes in at the same time. We searched for him so many times last night and I went out several times with the temptations through the night as I couldn't sleep worrying about where he was. We just couldn't find him but it's likely we just couldn't see him in the dark.
We live in a pretty quiet place but he obviously walked further than either of us thought he did... probably on the trail for mischief as always.
I can't wait for OH to be home from work. He was really trying to hold it together but he's been through so much having to deal with all this so finally cracked on the phone earlier. He just kept saying 'sorry' when even though it's not in any way his fault, he knows how much this will hurt me. We always joke that Rufus is my 'other man!'
I can't ever imagine anything feeling worse than this and have no idea how I will ever manage without him. I was being all soppy the other day and I told my gorgeous boy the other day that I wished that we would both die on the same day so I would never go through the pain of losing him... and then just a few days later, he is gone. I really do hope the bridge is real and there is a heaven cause I cannot bare to think that my amazing little man's spirit is no more.
I just can't believe that someone could just hit him and drive off. I know it is better that we know what's happened and having been through this with a fmaily cat it will at least give me some closure in time but I just can't stop picturing it in my mind.
At least when I have lost babes in the past they have been old or ill. Even with Layla, although she was young, she became free of all the pain... this just seems so unnecessary. He was 8 months old- what had he ever done to deserve this???
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I wish I could say something that would help :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug:
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Oh Debs I'm so sorry :hug: :hug:
RIP Rufus :'(
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Oh Debs im so sorry to hear your sad news :'( i wish i could say something to make it all better,my thoughts will be with you and OH :hug: :hug:R.I.P. Rufus till you all meet again :Luv:
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So very sorry to hear this - I know the pain believe me, we lost our Spike last year to an RTA. Just take each day at a time, be kind to yourself. Rufus would not want you to be unhappy for too long.
If we could bring you back again,
For one more hour or day,
We’d express all our unspoken love;
We’d have countless things to say.
If we could bring you back again,
We’d say we treasured you,
And that your presence in our lives
Meant more than we ever knew.
If we could bring you back again,
To tell you what we should,
You’d know how much we miss you now,
And if we could, we would.
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My heart is reaching out to you,
For what you’re going through;
I’m thinking of you frequently
And praying for you, too.
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:RIP: Rufus - send your family a sign to let them know that you are safe
:candle: :RIP: :candle: :RIP: :candle: :RIP:
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I'm so sorry :'(
:RIP: Rufus, safe at the Bridge now
My thoughts are with you both
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So sorry to hear this :( RIP Rufus, taken too soon... Safe and sound at the Bridge until your Mum and Dad are ready to collect you xx
Remember Our Love
I was chosen that day
I'm learning to fly
the world took me away,
but please don't you cry
And I chose you today
to try and be strong
so please don't you cry
and don't say that I'm gone
When you're feeling alone
just remember our love,
I'm up near the stars
looking down from above.
Remember our love
In a moment you'll see
that I'm still here beside you
when you're thinking of me.
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Im so sorry :hug:
love
Tab
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Debs i am so so sorry, we are all here for you. :hug: :hug:
RIP little Rufus . :'(
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So sorry to hear this :'(
RIP Rufus xx
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all cats are special but occasionally one comes along that has something a bit extra and it sounds like your Rufus was one of those. i know what you mean about Rufus being your best mate. my Ovis was (killed by next doors dog aged 6) and so was my little Blizzard (also aged 8 months). i looked for Blizzard until 3am and was up again at 6am to find him on the path a couple of doors down. for ages i was grateful that whoever had hit him had at least put him on the pavement and that with a broken neck it must have been quick. but it always seemed a bit suss that he hadnt been there at 3 but was there at 6. i later found out that the dog had got him too and they'd waited until my lights went off to position him in the street so it looked like an RTA. so all the feelings that it was quick and a blessing went away and i had to grieve all over again. my darling Ovis truly was a soul-mate, i really believe that and losing him broke my heart, it really did. if anybody had dared say to me "its only a cat" they would've got a punch in the mouth(or 2). i find that even now (5 years on) i can't think about him without crying. it's so bad that i just don't think about him, it's too painful but not thinking about him feels like a betrayal. i can honestly say that the 11 days he lived after the attack were the longest of my life and his death is the most traumatic thing i've ever experienced, far worse than any human loss i have suffered. i have one photo of Ovis and it's hard to look it. i don't have any of Blizzard (lost in a fire) but Blizzard is the reason i wont have another white cat :'(
i truly feel for you. every day i wonder why i joined this forum, theres always something that makes me cry, every day. but i'd rather suffer the pain of losing them then never to have had them :hug:
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I'm so sorry you lost your little one.
I have the same bond with Lirael and I dread the day she leaves my side.
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Oh Debs I am so very very sorry. I too have been in the same position and my heart is breaking for you right now. :hug: :'(
RIP Rufus , play heard at the brige little man.
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So sorry Debs - I wish I could do or say something that would help but I can't :( :hug:
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So sorry for you losing your lovely Rufus :( :hug:
I lost my Biggles like this so know a little of what you are going through :hug:
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Oh sweetheart :hug:
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thinking of you sweetheart, i am so sorry for your sad sad loss, big cuddles to you hun xxx :hug: :hug: :hug:
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So sorry to read about this :( :hug:
RIP gorgeous Rufus :Luv:
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I am so, so sorry love, have tears in my eyes and really feel for you - poor little man. :'(
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Jas
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I am so very sorry to hear this, RIP little one
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Oh im so sorry, thinking of you and your family :hug: :hug:
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I am so, so sorry :( :'(
Sleep well baby
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Debs, and Family,
Im so sorry to read this thread about Baby Rufus (RIP).
Purrs is a fab place to talk about our babies, so please find some comfort in knowing that we are all here for you both.
RIP Rufus,
Sleep Well,
Play Hard x :'(
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Thinking of you this morning hunnie
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So sorry to read you sad news.
Our thougts are with you and your family.
Play hard at the Bridge Rufus.
Sincere condolences
Leigh, Alfie and Frankie :hug: :hug:
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Thinking of you Hun and sending you big cyber :hug: :hug: :hug:
Nothing anyone says at the moment will make you feel any better or the pain hurt any less but we are all here for you and thinking of you xxx
RIP sweet Rufus xxx
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OMG I am so so sorry - :'( :'( :'( - the road is such a bad place to loose a Furkid. Rip Rufus xxxxxxx sleep tight & play hard on Rainbow Bridge
Mega :hug: :hug:
I lost my Zak to the road so know what you are feeling.(Zak is my profile photo)
Sorry to digress - I am listening to my MP3 player - and Zak & I had a song - Kylie 'I believe in you' I changed, you to Zak and I'd pick him up and dance with him. Just as i started to write this message - 'our' song came on - do you think Zak is there :'(
4 years on I still miss him dreadfully.
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Oh Deb's Im so so sorry :(
Truly awful :hug:
RIP Rufus, send your mummy a rainbow, sweet dreams little man xxx
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At least when I have lost babes in the past they have been old or ill. Even with Layla, although she was young, she became free of all the pain... this just seems so unnecessary. He was 8 months old- what had he ever done to deserve this???
This is so true. Having only ever lost cats to age/illness in the past, it came as a real shock how much more painful it felt to lose a young healthy cat when Aslan was killed in an RTA in Sept 2006. I am so very sorry for your loss :hug:
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I keeping popping back here, am constantly thinking of you sweetie x
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Thanks guys. It does help to have others to support who understand. Today was easier at work and the kids did make me smile. They know I am upset but it is too raw to tell them what about yet as they will want to ask questions. It would be in a supportive way bt I am not yet at the place where I can talk about him without crying as yet. I know that time will come but it's not yet.
I just feel so sad, deep in my heart. He really was my special boy and I love him so much. I just want him back. I know it can't happen but that's all I want.
My auntie sent me an e mail today to send her condolances. She is a spiritualist healer and wanted to let me know that he is well after his passing and that she has seen him playing in green fields. I don't really know what my religious beliefs are, I still haven't figured that out but can only hope that her words are true.
Again, thank you for your thoughts and kind words. :hug:
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I do understand how you feel and am sure it will be raw for a long time :hug: :hug:
There are lots of green fields up on the Bridge and no religeon needed ;D
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I'm so very sorry and am sending you big hugs and love and deepest condolences. I hope that your auntie's lovely image is some comfort for you :hug:
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I do understand how you feel and am sure it will be raw for a long time :hug: :hug:
There are lots of green fields up on the Bridge and no religeon needed ;D
I echo this, Gill.
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I am so sorry :'(
:hug: :hug: for you and your family.
RIP baby Rufus.
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I know I've already posted here, but I just want to say again that I know what you're going through, and only time will make the pain fade... if only ever so slightly. I lost Jameson in November and not a day goes by without thinking of him, wishing he was still here with me.
It's so unfair - we should NOT lose our cats to the road.
Hugs your way, and if you need to talk, just PM me.
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How sad....My thoughts are with you! :hug: :hug: :hug:
RIP Rufus x
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Oh Debs, Im soo sorry hun :'( I know exactly what ya going through after loosing Rio & Gizzy within 2 months of each other on the road. My thoughts are with you and i ams ending over a huge hug. Rufus is in a place where there is only happiness. He will always be with you, always be in your head and your heart, you can talk to him and he will hear you. One day hun we will be able to cuddle our babes again. :hug: :hug:
Rest easy Rufus sweetheart. Have fun playing till ya mum can collect you. :blow kiss:
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Thank you all. Today is OH and I's anniversary so trying to have a nice 'together' day. My CP comittee all sent me flowers this morning which was such a nice thought and really did put a smile on my face which was well received between all the tears of the last couple of days.
I know you guys understand what I am going through at the moment and that in itself helps although nothing can really make it better. 4 months ago, I could never have imagined not having Layla or Rufus in my life- I just can't believe they are gone- my poor princess and tiger boy. Both gave me so much happiness and if I had to go through all of this again, I would just to have had them in my life.
Again, thank you for all your support.
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Oh Debs I have only just seen this
I am so so sorry :hug:
I have lost 3 to the road ...Star, Marmite and My Storm so I know what you are going through.
If you can try and take some comfort from what your vet has said, Rufus wouldnt have known anything about it hun...here one minute the next running at the Bridge.
Sending You lots of love and gentle hugs xxxxx
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My precious babies, the day after Rufus arrived. Him and Layla liked each other from day one so I hope they are together again xxx
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oh Debs they ARE together again :hug:
Rufus is a handsome devil, the girlie puddys at the Bridge will be all over him xx
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I know what you mean about the special bond - there are some cats that affect you more deeply than most people.
It's a month on Monday since Ed died, and there hasn't been a day that I haven't missed him horribly, and there hasn't been a day I haven't cried. If anybody told me he was just a cat I'm not certain what I'd do. But it wouldn't be good.
After Vlad's RTA (he was left for dead by the driver - a neighbour saw it and took him in), I seriously wanted to knee cap him (the driver). It was probably be good that it was a neighbour who saw it instead of me, because I'm not sure I'd have been responsible for my actions. No forget that, I am sure, and I'd have probably ended up in jail. That feeling of anger only partly went away last year (he was killed in 2003). I don't think it ever will completely. He'd been a long term stray - not quite feral, but getting there - he'd had such a hard, sad, lonely little life before we found him in the back garden and tamed him.... One friend once told me he needed to "toughen up" - said 'friend' hasn't been to the house since.
The closure thing won't help in the short term - that's for the years to come - it won't help for now, but not much will, as I'm sure you know.
I wish most days that Vlad hadn't died (he was 6) , and I wish more than once a day that Eddie-puss hadn't got sick and died (he was 8), but I know that some day I'll look back and think there was a plan of some sort - if Vlad hadn't died I'd never have met Edward (George and Ed were successors to Vlad).
The only brightness in the whole miserable thing is that some time in the future we'll be able to give another poor homeless cat a chance.
I'd still give my right arm to have the old ones back, but that's not possible, so I cling onto the future mogs we can help. It's the only thing that seems to help me.
I too hope that the bridge is real. I told Ed to find Vlad, and that Vlad would look after him. There's no way his lovely wee spirit could just stop. It can't.
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I've only now seen this. I don't know what to say. I am so so sorry for your loss :'( :hug: :hug:
:candle: RIP Rufus boy
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I miss you so much my beautiful boy. Always in my thoughts, always in my heart- I miss your cuddles, I miss your little paws on my shoulder giving me kisses on my cheek and I miss all the energy and love you brought with you.
It's taken me 2 months to be able to write to you and while I still cry for you everyday and want you back more than anything on Earth but I know you must be having fun, causing trouble somewhere- Poor Layla's probably telling you off for jumping on here back as we speak! :evillaugh:
I can't believe it was 2 months ago to the day that I saw you last as you came rushing over to me when I was feeding the bunnies, as always to show me your unconditinal love. That moment will always be in my heart. Anyway, just wanted to say I love you, you will always be my best friend and nothing will ever change that and I will will remember you always as you will always be in my heart.
Love always, my little stripey pants xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
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What a beautiful tribute to a gorfous little man :hug: :hug:
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I miss you so much my beautiful boy. Always in my thoughts, always in my heart- I miss your cuddles, I miss your little paws on my shoulder giving me kisses on my cheek and I miss all the energy and love you brought with you.
It's taken me 2 months to be able to write to you and while I still cry for you everyday and want you back more than anything on Earth but I know you must be having fun, causing trouble somewhere- Poor Layla's probably telling you off for jumping on here back as we speak! :evillaugh:
I can't believe it was 2 months ago to the day that I saw you last as you came rushing over to me when I was feeding the bunnies, as always to show me your unconditinal love. That moment will always be in my heart. Anyway, just wanted to say I love you, you will always be my best friend and nothing will ever change that and I will will remember you always as you will always be in my heart.
Love always, my little stripey pants xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
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Hey baby boy
I just wanted to say I love and miss you so terribly much. I hope you're having fun and getting into mischief at the bridge but as I sit here and think of you, I just wanted to say I love you xxx
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Can't believe it's a year since I last saw my special boy. It was a year tomorrow that we knew what had happened to him but he hadn't been home for the night, making it a year today since we were together last. I miss him so much and still can't get my head around why he was so unfortunate. My rational mind tells me it was just unlucky but my heart feels like it was such a waste of a beautiful young life.
I hope you are causing havok on the bridge baby- mummy misses you so much and I wish more than anything you could be here but I guess i just have to hope you are somehow still making someone smile.
Love you so much Rufy-Smooks xxxxxxx
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Aw hun, sending you lots of :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: