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Title: To put some sad minds at rest
Post by: Teresa Pawcats on October 20, 2008, 19:34:03 PM
Sadly a Joke that was posted on here to raise awareness to the Purrs Calendar seems to have caused trouble, I have just received a PM from a person (she knows who she is) who informs me that other people have been discussing my mixing Minimopsical with 2 kittens. Minimopsical as regular Purrs people know shares her life with Pedro who has serious bowel problems,both are blood tested both neutered and both fully vaccinated.

I would just like to remind everybody that at Paws Inn we believe in maintaining strict isolation facilities amongst our rescues and NEVER mix litters as little lives are too precious to put at risk. Unhomeable or long term residents who have been blood tested and are fully vaccinated are allowed to mix within our household.


The picture in question is of Tinkerbelle with her newborn kittens.Tinkerbelle is Minimopsicals double and if anyone thinks I am making it up feel free to visit and check for yourselves.
I find it rather cowardly that people hide and gossip via pms instead of voicing their concerns.
Title: Re: To put some sad minds at rest
Post by: Teresa Pawcats on October 20, 2008, 19:36:38 PM
PIC of Tinkerbelle pregnant
PIC of Tinkerbelle with newborn babies
Title: Re: To put some sad minds at rest
Post by: hOrZa on October 20, 2008, 19:38:24 PM
I guessed that myself as I remember from when Tinkerbelle was posted how they looked alike :)


and yes if anyone has complaints out with them no gossiping behind the scene's :(
Title: Re: To put some sad minds at rest
Post by: Christine (Blip) on October 20, 2008, 19:47:25 PM
Our very own Helen (Tiggy's Mum) started a joke thread here: http://www.purrsinourhearts.co.uk/index.php/topic,18977.msg321950.html#msg321950

Helen was seeking to raise awareness of the 2008 Purrs calendar (in aid of Lost Cats Brighton) by making a joke about Tinkerbelle's similarity to Minimopsical.

It is more than a shame if Helen's little jest has caused unpleasantness and gossip, which I for one deplore.
Title: Re: To put some sad minds at rest
Post by: ems on October 20, 2008, 19:49:45 PM
Oh what a shame  :-[

I can't believe people would not know it was a great joke started in good faith  :(


Title: Re: To put some sad minds at rest
Post by: Tiggy's Mum on October 20, 2008, 19:50:32 PM
Very sad  :( The thread was started with Teresa's approval, she is only too aware how the funds from the calendar will help Ron continue doing the great work.
Title: Re: To put some sad minds at rest
Post by: Liz on October 20, 2008, 19:50:41 PM
T you shouldn't feel the need to justify yourself

Paws Inn looks a wonderful place to live and folks should remember that you won't put Minimopsical or pedro at risk no matter how cute a kitten is as we found to our cost with poor Gem and the bill for testing our mob is enough to make most folks skin curl and keep a third world country fed for several months!

In fact its the kind of place I am coming back to in my next life!
Title: Re: To put some sad minds at rest
Post by: Gillian Harvey on October 20, 2008, 19:53:23 PM
Good grief! thought we all knew immediately it wasnt Minimop - specially as it was Helen posting LOL! Sorry you've had to justify yourself Teresa, it shouldnt have been necessary.  :hug:
Title: Re: To put some sad minds at rest
Post by: Team Svartalfheims on October 20, 2008, 19:54:06 PM
To the Newbie who was gossiping:

I, and many others on here, have had the privilege of visiting Paws Inn and the level of love and care the residents are shown and the seriousness with which T takes their health and hygiene can only be applauded as it is of the highest level.
Title: Re: To put some sad minds at rest
Post by: ems on October 20, 2008, 19:54:53 PM
To the Newbie who was gossiping:

I, and many others on here, have had the privilege of visiting Paws Inn and the level of love and care the residents are shown and the seriousness with which T takes their health and hygiene can only be applauded as it is of the highest level.

Couldn't agree more Lottie  :hug:
Title: Re: To put some sad minds at rest
Post by: Kittybabe (Ruth) on October 20, 2008, 19:56:35 PM
Teresa, no one, especially those of us fortunate enough to have visted the Inn would ever have justification in commenting on the standards of care.  

It is very opportunistic of the person in question to seek a moment to cause discord. It is not wanted, nor warranted on this forum.
Title: Re: To put some sad minds at rest
Post by: Tiggy's Mum on October 20, 2008, 19:56:58 PM
Also the the 'joke' thread had a link to the original Tinkerbelle thread which started off as her being a pregnant stray  :shy:
Title: Re: To put some sad minds at rest
Post by: Millys Mum on October 20, 2008, 19:58:26 PM
To the Newbie who was gossiping:

A newbie wouldnt care would they?!

Guess this is what happens when people dont read all the threads or they would have seen tinkerbelles rescue story.

Liz - good luck for all your results  :hug:
Title: Re: To put some sad minds at rest
Post by: Christine (Blip) on October 20, 2008, 19:59:23 PM
If there are any newbies reading, I can assure them that I - and many others - have visited Paws Inn and seen for ourselves the immaculate hygiene and standards of care there.

Your would-be detractors insult only themselves, Teresa.
Title: Re: To put some sad minds at rest
Post by: Team Svartalfheims on October 20, 2008, 20:01:23 PM
I'd just assumed it was a newbie who'd been gossiping as all us regulars know that T doesn't let all the residents mix together.
Title: Re: To put some sad minds at rest
Post by: clarenmax on October 20, 2008, 20:05:40 PM
I find it very sad that something started as a bit of fun to promote Ron's cause and the auction can get blown out of proportion like this.

I've not had the pleasure if visiting Paw's Inn personally, but there are many who I hold in high esteem on this forum, and T is one of them due to the unwavering support she provides for these babes in need, and there is no way she would put any at risk.

I greatly dislike 'tittle tattle', especially on forums where its done behind someones back and they dont get the chance to set the record straight :(
Title: Re: To put some sad minds at rest
Post by: blackcat on October 20, 2008, 20:06:24 PM
sadly there will always be small minded and malicious people who have little else to do but to gossip. Equally sadly, they rarely have the moral fibre to go to the source to verify their rumour-mongering but will happily relay it as fact. I have nothing but contempt for such people. >:(

Given Helen's track record of ridiculous and witty attention-grabbing headlines I am amazed anyone would be gullible enough and nasty-minded enough to assume it was anything other than what it patently was - a means of drawing attention to a worthwhile fund-raising event ....
Title: Re: To put some sad minds at rest
Post by: sheryl on October 20, 2008, 20:08:47 PM
Teresa Hun you dont need to justify yourself.  xxx

The people gossiping obviously lead sad lives with nothing better to do and I wont apologise if this comment casues any offence because your gossiping (you know who you are) offends me!  Purely for the fact that 99.9% of people who come on here do so to visit a friendly community and importantly to help cats/kittens.  Teresa (along with many of the other rescues) do so much and should be praised not gossiped about.
Title: Re: To put some sad minds at rest
Post by: Susanne (urbantigers) on October 20, 2008, 20:10:34 PM
What a shame that something started with such good intentions has been mis-read and mis-interpretated.  I certainly have no doubts whatsover about the standards at Paws Inn regarding mixing cats.
Title: Re: To put some sad minds at rest
Post by: Tiggy's Mum on October 20, 2008, 20:11:42 PM
Given Helen's track record of ridiculous and witty attention-grabbing headlines I am amazed anyone would be gullible enough and nasty-minded enough to assume it was anything other than what it patently was - a means of drawing attention to a worthwhile fund-raising event ....

Err, thanks - I think  :evillaugh:  As I said the 'joke' thread actually contains a link to the thread which detailed the birth of Tinkerbelle's babies and the very same photographs.  It's beyond me how anybody made the assumptions they did given that fact.



Title: Re: To put some sad minds at rest
Post by: Mark on October 20, 2008, 20:22:46 PM
Sorry but this is just crazy  :Crazy:

I wish people would just speak their minds rather than tittle-tattle  :censored:
Title: Re: To put some sad minds at rest
Post by: tigerbaby on October 20, 2008, 20:35:04 PM
I missed that thread but agree with what everyone has already said. I am now curious to find out who the gossiper is!!
Title: Re: To put some sad minds at rest
Post by: Gwen on October 20, 2008, 20:37:38 PM
It was obviously a joke and seriously some people need to lighten up >:(
Title: Re: To put some sad minds at rest
Post by: Janeyk on October 20, 2008, 20:43:26 PM


I greatly dislike 'tittle tattle', especially on forums where its done behind someones back and they dont get the chance to set the record straight :(

Me too
Title: Re: To put some sad minds at rest
Post by: Sam (Fussy_Furball) on October 20, 2008, 20:54:34 PM
I can't believe anyone is dim enough not to have known Helen's thread was obviously a joke.  Helen never ceases to amaze me on how she is able to keep coming up with some of the funniest, clever and eye catching JOKE threads I have ever read.

But I have never been under the illusion they are anything more than brilliant marketing campaigns.

It just goes to show real wordsmiths are able to use their "voices" for good and entertainment while the smaller minded minority only have the skills to be able to gossip and hide.  Such a shame  :(

T I'm sorryyou feel you need to justify yourself but I understand why you have done it. Gone on ya hun all I can say is just rise above it you know you have done nothing wrong and so do we  :hug:
Title: Re: To put some sad minds at rest
Post by: Den on October 20, 2008, 21:01:28 PM
This isn't going to stop Helen posting all these very funny threads is it  :scared:

Teresa I'm so sorry you are the victim of a gossip  :hug:
Title: Re: To put some sad minds at rest
Post by: Teresa Pawcats on October 20, 2008, 21:22:45 PM
I would just like to praise Helen for all the effort she puts in to promoting Purrs fundraisers, I certainly enjoy all her sensational stories and more to the point thanks to Helens stories Ron will be able to help more little ones,

so please

Order your Purrs calendar,superbly produced by Tan,including members beautiful felines to help Rons Lostcats Brighton.[/size20]
Title: Re: To put some sad minds at rest
Post by: Tiggy's Mum on October 20, 2008, 21:38:54 PM
I would just like to praise Helen for all the effort she puts in to promoting Purrs fundraisers, I certainly enjoy all her sensational stories and more to the point thanks to Helens stories Ron will be able to help more little ones,

Stories?  Well I know the Minimopsical story was a hoax but Riley was stuck up a 40ft tree, Lu was stuck down a rabbit hole and I did win 100k  :-:


so please

Order your Purrs calendar,superbly produced by Tan,including members beautiful felines to help Rons Lostcats Brighton.

Here's the linky  ;D

http://www.purrsinourhearts.co.uk/index.php/topic,18912.msg320589.html#msg320589
Title: Re: To put some sad minds at rest
Post by: Sam (Fussy_Furball) on October 20, 2008, 21:46:38 PM
Helen you are incorrigible  :rofl:
Title: Re: To put some sad minds at rest
Post by: Teresa Pawcats on October 20, 2008, 21:52:08 PM
Helen The question is
If Lukey really was stuck up a 40ft tree and Riley was stuck down a rabbit hole,where would you put the £100k while you decided which boy to rescue first?  :rofl: :rofl: :rofl:
Title: Re: To put some sad minds at rest
Post by: Tiggy's Mum on October 20, 2008, 22:05:05 PM
Now that's just ridiculous Teresa, like they'd both be stuck at the same time  :innocent:  *shakes head icon goes here*
Title: Re: To put some sad minds at rest
Post by: AliCat on October 21, 2008, 00:37:05 AM
I hate to confess, but I had to read it twice before I realised that Minimopsical didn't actually give birth... I really need to start dying my hair blonde.  :rofl:
Title: Re: To put some sad minds at rest
Post by: Gill (sneakiefeline) on October 21, 2008, 01:12:48 AM
Only just come on today ...it says yesterday  :rofl:......and seen this thread.

Very sad story.  Helens posts are now infamous  ;D

I dread tto think what she will come up for the auction  :rofl: :rofl:

have to say Tinkerbell is so like Minimopsical its incredible and the two kittens gorgeous  ;D
Title: Re: To put some sad minds at rest
Post by: moiramassey on October 21, 2008, 07:58:49 AM
As someone who definitely feels like a 'newbie' on here I would like to say that I think that having gossip flying about in PMs is very destructive and it is good that members are so vigilant.

However.....

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A newbie wouldn't care would they?!

Wow.

When I first joined this forum I posted was welcomed (which was very nice), then gave up for a bit. It was too hard to 'get into' the posts, which were full of in-jokes and 'of course we all know' references. Then I met someone face-to-face who said that this was, really, the most active cat forum so I gave it another go.

I think it is very reasonable to expect newcomers (or anyone!) to not gossip or stir. However, reading some of the posts in this thread made me wonder if I (as a Newbie) were really welcome.
Title: Re: To put some sad minds at rest
Post by: Kittybabe (Ruth) on October 21, 2008, 08:43:00 AM
Moira, it's natural to feel that way, however, new and recently new members are always welcome to join in. It's a two way street so if a newer member doesn't understand or get the reference, there is never any harm in asking for an explanation.

There will be inferences of friendship that newer members will feel excluded from (initially). However, that doesn't last long (at least I hope not) as newer members are soon part of the furniture like the rest of the reprobates on here  ;)  :evillaugh:

I think MM's comment was meant to say that newer members would have no motivation to stir.

Helen: if you won 100K, then I want some pls. I mean.. seriously, how can you not share? :naughty:
Title: Re: To put some sad minds at rest
Post by: Ela on October 21, 2008, 08:45:47 AM
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T you shouldn't feel the need to justify yourself

I would agree, although I actually have not seen the topic concerned. Sadly there are always going to be people who are quick to assume and criticize without knowing the full facts. But as long as you know the truth  it should  not be a problem although I know it hurts. Off course when you know the truth you do always want to justify so I do understand the reason for your post.
Title: Re: To put some sad minds at rest
Post by: Ela on October 21, 2008, 08:50:26 AM
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However, reading some of the posts in this thread made me wonder if I (as a Newbie) were really welcome.

Of course new blood is always welcome. I would also think that in reality it could have been any member who  jumped to the wrong conclusion. Of course Teresa will  possibly know and she is will not tell.
Title: Re: To put some sad minds at rest
Post by: Jasmine on October 21, 2008, 08:54:44 AM
Me too

And what exactly has my cat got to do with all this... they'll be saying he's the father of the kittens next!
 :rofl:
Title: Re: To put some sad minds at rest
Post by: Teresa Pawcats on October 21, 2008, 09:02:56 AM
As someone who definitely feels like a 'newbie' on here I would like to say that I think that having gossip flying about in PMs is very destructive and it is good that members are so vigilant.

However.....

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A newbie wouldn't care would they?!

Wow.

When I first joined this forum I posted was welcomed (which was very nice), then gave up for a bit. It was too hard to 'get into' the posts, which were full of in-jokes and 'of course we all know' references. Then I met someone face-to-face who said that this was, really, the most active cat forum so I gave it another go.

I think it is very reasonable to expect newcomers (or anyone!) to not gossip or stir. However, reading some of the posts in this thread made me wonder if I (as a Newbie) were really welcome.

You are most certainly welcome and a very valuable member of this community, this forum is like an extended family and we are all here to support one another in times of sadness and of course smile together during good times.

The pm was not from a Newbie but someone who has been around a long time and really should have known better, whilst PM is the way to go if you have a grievance in this case it was mentioned that other people thought similar so the quickest way of making sure that people knew I hadn`t done something both stupid and dangerous was to post publically.

Sending you a  :hug: Moiramassey

Ela I do not think it would be beneficial to the Purrs community to name the person involved but I will admit to sending a copy of said pm to a moderator.
Title: Re: To put some sad minds at rest
Post by: Dawn F on October 21, 2008, 09:04:34 AM
I can't believe anyone would have the cheek to question T and her methods - bet they don't get up at 5am to clean litter trays  :hug: to you T
Title: Re: To put some sad minds at rest
Post by: Janeyk on October 21, 2008, 09:04:35 AM
Me too

And what exactly has my cat got to do with all this... they'll be saying he's the father of the kittens next!
 :rofl:

eh?  :-:
Title: Re: To put some sad minds at rest
Post by: Ela on October 21, 2008, 09:12:05 AM
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Ela I do not think it would be beneficial to the Purrs community to name the person involved but I will admit to sending a copy of said pm to a moderator.

Please don't think I was for one minute suggesting they were named. I personally don't  believe in name and shame and never have. I feel there are better ways of sorting out a problem. Then often  that person can go on and be a valued member. Of course for all I know they may already be one.
Title: Re: To put some sad minds at rest
Post by: Leanne on October 21, 2008, 09:33:44 AM
I think its very sad this has happened and there was behind the scenes bitching.

I'm not on Purs oftern but even I know Minimopsical story!
Title: Re: To put some sad minds at rest
Post by: JackSpratt on October 21, 2008, 10:05:08 AM
S'alright Teresa - most of us knew it was Tinkerbelle. ;) Actually, I had to read the prank thread twice - but I was half asleep when I read it.

Helen, keep it up! You should be a tabloid journalist.  :evillaugh:
Title: Re: To put some sad minds at rest
Post by: Christine (Blip) on October 21, 2008, 10:22:52 AM
reading some of the posts in this thread made me wonder if I (as a Newbie) were really welcome.

I too read MM's comment as meaning a newbie would have no axe to grind.

Of course you are welcome, Moira,  :hug: as are all newbies: that's how our community thrives.  As with any relationships, people refer back to shared experiences but you'll very quickly find people who share your interests, sense of humour, outlook...  ;D

Title: Re: To put some sad minds at rest
Post by: Maddiesmum on October 21, 2008, 10:39:35 AM
With respect and an understanding of why the thread was started, isn't it just as bad as the gossiping off the forum?
Title: Re: To put some sad minds at rest
Post by: Teresa Pawcats on October 21, 2008, 13:12:11 PM
With respect and an understanding of why the thread was started, isn't it just as bad as the gossiping off the forum?

I prefer to call it being open, honest and above board. :)
Title: Re: To put some sad minds at rest
Post by: J (Indoorcatsuk) on October 21, 2008, 16:34:10 PM
Whoever did it must feel a bit of a ninny really.
Like other posters have said, I don't know how anyone who has posted here for any time could think that Teresa could be capable of irresponsible behaviour.
Maybe whoever it was was having a very off day, the internet can be a strange and curious creature and sometimes people get the wrong idea and take things too literally, even when it is obvious to others that it is a joke.

I can understand why Teresa felt the need to start this thread, I think it is better to have these things out in the open without any need to name the person it clears things up quickly, and clears any worries that others may have thought the same, as was the implication in whatever PMs flew about.
Title: Re: To put some sad minds at rest
Post by: blackcat on October 21, 2008, 18:38:16 PM
With respect and an understanding of why the thread was started, isn't it just as bad as the gossiping off the forum?

I have to say I agree with T here. If someone was libelling me I would want to know about it thanks, not have them whispering behind my back. T knows the people involved. We don't. However we do know how we feel about the behaviour T has described and I think it is very healthy for us to express our contempt for that sort of behaviour in a way that allows the person responsible to know our views, without it turning into a personalised witch-hunt (which was what the PMs were doing). So, I support T bringing this to our attention and also the healthy nature of the discussion. I do, however, have some reservations about those who have reached conclusions about who may or may not be responsible, as that sort of speculation is inappropriate.
Title: Re: To put some sad minds at rest
Post by: Corporal Smokey on October 21, 2008, 18:42:54 PM
IMHO the pming is one this but the tittle-tattly "Others think the same thing" is like being back at primary school!

I hope this thread leads people to the other and therefore to the support of Ron's great cause!
Title: Re: To put some sad minds at rest
Post by: Kirst on October 21, 2008, 21:56:11 PM
What have I missed?? I cant believe anyone is silly enough to question the level of care given at Paws Inn or Teresas motives! >:(
Title: Re: To put some sad minds at rest
Post by: carl (billy and baggys dad) on October 21, 2008, 21:59:03 PM
Have a look at my Bilbo and Baggins thread - them pics are testament to the care at Paws Inn.

Title: Re: To put some sad minds at rest
Post by: Linda (Bengalbabe) on October 21, 2008, 22:12:53 PM
Sorry to hear this T, I dont post here as often as i'd like now but you are an absolute star and a role model to all.  You have my full support as always x
Title: Re: To put some sad minds at rest
Post by: Jasmine on October 21, 2008, 22:52:19 PM
Me too

And what exactly has my cat got to do with all this... they'll be saying he's the father of the kittens next!
 :rofl:

eh?  :-:

'Metoo' is my cat's name. :)
He's featured on the Purrs calendar.
A bit like the late Colonel Beau (but without the ears!)
Title: Re: To put some sad minds at rest
Post by: Janeyk on October 21, 2008, 23:29:35 PM
ah! brilliant - been trying to work that out for ages  :doh: I did wonder whether they were called Tittle and Tattle  :-[
Title: Re: To put some sad minds at rest
Post by: Millys Mum on October 22, 2008, 18:01:03 PM
reading some of the posts in this thread made me wonder if I (as a Newbie) were really welcome.

I too read MM's comment as meaning a newbie would have no axe to grind.

That is what i meant, sorry Moira  :hug:
Its well known certain members have stirred things before with a lot of upset, new members would have no reason to spreads rumours through PMs about Teresas husbandry, trying to put mud on things.  >:(
Its gone rather pearshaped now anyway so i hope they feel like a big idiot  :rofl: