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Cat General => General Cat Chat => Topic started by: purrdy on August 21, 2008, 10:47:42 AM

Title: pet cremation
Post by: purrdy on August 21, 2008, 10:47:42 AM
when you have a private cremation for your pet do you ONLY get back your pet ?
the guy told me he does all cremations on a stainless steel tray to ensure you only get back your pet
but some other people have told me otherwise  :(
if i was being mislead in some way it would break my heart
the whole reason im paying for a private cremation is to ensure we get our boys ashes back and only his
any comments please write back thanks
Title: Re: pet cremation
Post by: Kittybabe (Ruth) on August 21, 2008, 10:59:32 AM
Hi Purrdy and  :welcome: to Purrs.

I'm so sorry your first post is such a sad one  :hug:

The rule of thumb is that unless you ask for an individual/private cremation then it might involve other pets.  If you pay for an individual cremation then you should expect it is only your pet.

Was this someone that was recommended by your vet?
Title: Re: pet cremation
Post by: purrdy on August 21, 2008, 11:05:30 AM
yes recommened by my vet and the company are in yellow pages and have there own website etc
im due to get his ashes in the morning the guy is bringing them to our house :( not sure how ill cope yet and havent made up my mind wheather i should keep them ,bury them or scatter them :(
Title: Re: pet cremation
Post by: Tiggy's Mum on August 21, 2008, 11:23:23 AM
Hi &  :welcome: to Purrs, sorry it's under such sad circumstances  :hug:

If you have your pet individually cremated you will only get his ashes back, the joint cremations don't give the ashes back so if you are having his ashes back it will definitely be just him  :hug:
Title: Re: pet cremation
Post by: Mark on August 21, 2008, 11:37:59 AM
Sorry Purrdy  :hug:

I don't know where you live but maybe people on here have experience of the company. There is a company here in Kent called Cherry Tree that is highly recommended and I have heard of others that are very good - one in Wales I have heard of.

As for the ashes, you may want to keep them but other people find it upsetting or morbid to do that. There are other altenatives such as lovely carved cats that are sealed. You can even have some of the ashes made into a diamond but it's quite expensive. Another company makes them into glass http://www.ashesintoglass.co.uk/pets.html One issue some people have is that they only use a small amount of the ashes for this.

These are the carved containers http://www.rainbowbridgepets.co.uk/catalog/rbp_prd_carved_cat_ash_casket.aspx?pid=30951 - some can be morbid or tacky but I think these are tasteful.
Title: Re: pet cremation
Post by: madpants on August 21, 2008, 12:07:41 PM
Sorry to hear you've lost a loved one Purdy  :hug:

We're all here to suport you and alot of us have been through the same difficult times, therefore know what you're going through

Sending you a big comforting  :hug: hug
Title: Re: pet cremation
Post by: MrsR on August 21, 2008, 13:00:12 PM
Oh sweetie I am sorry  :hug:
Title: Re: pet cremation
Post by: Marcia on August 21, 2008, 13:04:06 PM
i'm so sorry  :'( we have our pets individually cremated through our vets, costly but worth it  :(
Title: Re: pet cremation
Post by: Gillian Harvey on August 21, 2008, 15:14:50 PM
the whole reason im paying for a private cremation is to ensure we get our boys ashes back and only his
any comments please write back thanks

Yes, as others have said, an individual/private cremation means it will be your boy's ashes - the return of the ashes is such an emotional time, I'm so sorry for your loss  :hug:
Title: Re: pet cremation
Post by: clarenmax on August 21, 2008, 15:23:26 PM
I can't add any more than has been said already, just wanted to say sorry for your loss  :hug:
Title: Re: pet cremation
Post by: Gail Bengal Slave on August 21, 2008, 15:50:38 PM
Sorry for your loss  :hug:

I have my Beau & Zak's ashes and the only time they will move is when they come with me.
Title: Re: pet cremation
Post by: Jennifer on August 21, 2008, 16:59:23 PM
I used a company in Hampshire - Dignity Pet Crematorium (http://www.dignitypetcrem.co.uk/) - for my cat (it's a bit gross - she was buried in a metal suitcase because we lived in rented and then dug up and moved with us to our next house, and then finally six years after her death her bones were cremated and placed in a lovely wooden sleeping cat shaped container) - but they treated us with extreme respect and I trusted and liked them enough to go back when my chinchilla died. It's completely worth spending the money just to know that your pet has been given the right amount of respect, and they're very gentle and caring to us grieving owners as well. I'm definitely going back to that specific crematorium when my pets pass on.
Title: Re: pet cremation
Post by: Liz on August 21, 2008, 20:15:21 PM
All ours have been cremated and are now on a shelf in our bedroom

We have used 2 places, one in Ayrshire who were wonderful and our latest up here in Aberdeenshire it is like a human crematorium and the man who owns and runs it doers individual cremation and yes it costs a little more but at least you get your own baby back :hug:
Title: Re: pet cremation
Post by: Maddiesmum on August 21, 2008, 20:22:59 PM
I'm so sorry for your loss.  You know what?  I always feel better when the ashes come home.  Here forever.
Title: Re: pet cremation
Post by: Kirst on August 21, 2008, 21:02:29 PM
So sorry for your loss. :hug:

We had Oscarf individually cremated and hes now guarding the bottom of the garden , where he always used to sit.
Title: Re: pet cremation
Post by: swampmaxmum on August 21, 2008, 21:31:31 PM
I'm so sorry for your loss, Purrdy.  When you get your boy's ashes back, you could wait a while to see what you really feel is best, to keep them or scatter them. When your grief is less raw you'll be better able to decide how you would best like to remember your little boy.  :hug:
Title: Re: pet cremation
Post by: purrdy on August 23, 2008, 12:06:52 PM
Thank you all fr the kind replys  :hug: