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In Loving Memory Cats => Rainbow Bridge - In Loving Memory => Topic started by: JackSpratt on June 07, 2008, 13:41:40 PM
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It's taken me a couple of days to type this, because it still doesn't seem real. I come downstairs expecting you to be curled up on "your" futon. When you aren't the room seems bare.
I can't express in words how losing you has made me feel. I'm feeling numb almost, and empty.
You were such an amazing little personality. You always made the people that met you smile. You were gentle and affectionate and I never once saw any sign of that selfishness that you see in most cats.
It was a humbling experience to have you in my life - and an honour. You helped me through some rough times, and gave me a reason to see good in a situation.
You'll be missed by us all, and no amount of words can say how much. I wish I could give you the dignity in this post you deserve, but I don't think I'll ever be able to get across how truly wonderful you were.
I read a poem about a week before you went and it made me cry. I knew you were ill and we'd be losing you - I just didn't know how soon. I'm posting the poem now, because I hope beyond hope it's true.
Do not stand at my grave and weep,
I am not there, I do not sleep.
I am in a thousand winds that blow,
I am the softly falling snow.
I am the gentle showers of rain,
I am the fields of ripening grain.
I am in the morning hush,
I am in the graceful rush
Of beautiful birds in circling flight,
I am the starshine of the night.
I am in the flowers that bloom,
I am in a quiet room.
I am in the birds that sing,
I am in each lovely thing.
Do not stand at my grave and cry,
I am not there. I do not die.
We love you, Toby. Never forget how much.
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Aw JS what a beautiful written piece for LJ! The pain you are feeling just shows what a love you have lost..... :care:
RIP Darling LJ X....have fun at the bridge and dont forget to send meowmy a rainbow when you are settled!
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JS so very very sorry for your loss.
RIP Toby .... your mummy and daddy loved you so much you have a left a huge hole in their hearts. Play hard at the bridge you gorgeous special boy.
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I am so sorry for your loss, JS.
xChristine
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Oh JS sooo sorry hun :'( Sending over my love and thoughts to you all. :hug:
Toby rest easy darlin you will always be with us. :Luv: :Luv: :Luv:
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I'm so very sorry.
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If you need anything please let me know.
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So very sorry JS, Toby is beautiful. RIP sweet Toby. JS your tribute is beautiful
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Just caught up with this and sending some special :hug: to you.
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RIP Toby. You are a beautiful boy.
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You have written such a beautiful epitaph to such a incredible little chap.
Be at peace LJ :hug:
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Sorry JS - I just found out - I am so sorry :hug:
It's hard to know what to say at times like this but you know you are with likeminded people :hug:
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I'm so sorry JS. RIP Sweet little man, you brought much joy to those who loved you and those of us who had the fortunate to know of you.
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Oh JS - just seen this
I am so sorry Hun xxx
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JS so sorry for your loss, your words are very moving and making me cry as I type this
Toby has some company at the Bridge this week seems to have been a sad week for a lot of us
Always a pawprint in your heart :hug:
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What a lovely tribute to him, I dont remember seeing his pic before, I didn't know he was so gorgeous. i am sure he will have met up with Parsley now, and they will be catching up. RIP little one.
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So sorry for your loss :hug:
RIP LJ, I felt I knew you so well. Say hi to Kocka for me and I am sure she will help you find your way around the Bridge.
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He was gorgeous outside and in. I'm going to miss him so much and I know my partner feels the same.
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:RIP: Sweet heart. :( :'( :'(
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So sorry Jack :hug:
RIP Toby, let your mummy and daddy know you arrived safely. x
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So sorry to hear about Toby, JS. Play hard at the Bridge little one :hug: :hug:
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Sorry to hear the sad news about LJ, he'll be safe and sound at the Bridge by now waiting for you until you are ready to come and collect him :hug:
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Sending you a huge :hug:.
Sorry to hear of your loss hun, LJ will be safe and sound on the Bridge by now xxxx
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So very sorry to hear this :RIP: LJ
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so sorry to hear about Toby, they make such big pawprints on our heart, play hard at the Bridge Toby xxx
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Thanks for the condolences. It seems odd when I come into the front room in a morning, because there was always a little ginger ball on the futon snoozing. We're missing him a lot and my older two have been fairly clingy.
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Oh Jack , Ive just seen this and im soooo sorry. :hug:
LJ , play hard at the bridge :RIP:
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so sorry JS, its incredible how someone so small can leave such a huge gap in your life, I love that poem by the way, we had it at my dads funeral, I think it has lovely sentiments
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Hi JS, I'm sorry I didn't see this sooner, sorry for your loss of Toby.
This is lovely tribute, he sounds like such a lovely little man and his picture is so gorgeous :hug:
Sending big hugs and best wishes to you and yours xxxxx
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Thank you Kirst, Dawn and Cheese.
I went to town today and picked up a planter for Tobes memorial tree - it's a vivid bright blue and is lovely. His little orange tree should be here next week.
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In two days it will be a month since we had to let Toby go. I still think about him every day and miss him very much.
Love you, Tobes.
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My goodness Jack its went by quick
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Just wanted to see Toby's picture again. What a lovely little lad. I can't help thinking how him and Parsley will be watching the antics of young Astryd and shaking their heads in rueful amusement at the antics of this latest addition to their family. :hug:
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Hopefully so, Sue. Just been listening to a song called 1000 miles which ended up making me cry because it made me think of Tobes and how much I'd like to be able to give him a cuddle.
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You can give him a cuddle, sweetheart. He'll know. :hug:
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Hi JS. I try and steer clear of Rainbow Bridge for obvious reasons but wanted to pop in and send a :hug:
Special ones like Toby leave a very big gap that always seems impossible to fill. Hopefully things are getting a little easier now esp with the young wipper snapper running you ragged. Obviously Toby will never be forgotten but he would be so pleased that you found space to offer Astryd all the love and attention she needs to thrive. Just like you did for the gorgeous Toby :( RIP baby.
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I Can't believe it is a month already.
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Time goes so quick and I felt I knew LJ so well, so I can understand how sad you fell.
Hope he has sent you a Rainbow.
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I haven't seen one actually. Has been a couple of cases of unexplained drippy taps though (Tobes had a tap obsession) - I decided it might be him letting me know he's still about. Odd how the thought process works.
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Yes that could be it :hug:
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So sorry to hear of your loss. :(
I know how hard it is to come to terms with a furry that is no longer where you expect them to be in your home and how bare a house can seem without them. :'(
RIP LJ xx
Jack :hug:
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He is extremely missed Dee. Never demanding, terribly unassuming and had an aura of calm. Just sitting with him made me relax. I guess he's still here to a degree.
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Of course he's still with you JS. He sent Astryd to keep an eye on you during the transition of getting used to life without him. :hug: :hug:
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Still not used to it, Sue. I find myself waiting for him to trot through when I turn a tap on - he was a terror for trying to drink from the tap when I was brushing my teeth!
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It is so hard to get used to life without a loved one, be they human or non-human. When I lost Carrie after 19 years, I was devastated and it took me months to come to terms with the loss. She was such an integral part of my life for so long and I'd only just accepted the loss of Penny, another much loved cat after 16 years. :'(
It does take a while to come to terms with a bereavement but one thing that kept me going is the knowledge that there will always be animals that need a home and while ever I can help as many as I can, I'll keep going for them. :)
I, and everyone else here understands what your going through Jack and I hope it gets easier for you soon. :grouphug:
Dee x
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Thanks C&Ps. I have a Carrie too, she's about 18 this year - I've had her in my life for 13 years.
Tobes was extremely special. I'm not a weeping wreck, but from time to time it hits me and I have a cry.
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Aww, Carrie was so special to me and I know your Carrie is just as special to you as well. :Luv2:
Having a good old weep when the realisation hits is painful but necessary, and the feeling of loss will ease in time. :hug:
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Talking to my Mum today about Tobes and how I still miss the feeling of calm he exuded. Whenever I was wound up all I had to do was literally sit next to Toby and stroke him. He worked wonders that little ginger guy. :Luv:
She talked to me a little about Oscar who she lost recently too. (He has a thread in here, he was a gent.) We're both finding it hard to let go.
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Just needed to say I missed you, Tobes. Probably always will do. You and Parsley take care of each other. :hug:
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Toby and Parsley - wanted to send you a lot of Christmas fusses. I miss you both and hope that you enjoy your Christmas together at the Bridge. You are both tremendously special; Parsley with your chin nipping kisses and wonderfully serious little face and Toby, my laid back, loving little ginger angel.
There aren't the words to say how I feel that I don't get to have you both with me at this time of year, but I wanted to acknowledge how much you are missed by us all.
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Have a great Christmas Toby and Parsley :hug:
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I miss you, Tobes.
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It's horrible how it hits you waves, isn't it? I can usually look at pictures and hold it together, but yesterday ended up crying quite a lot. Thank you for the hugs.
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It's horrible how it hits you waves, isn't it? I can usually look at pictures and hold it together, but yesterday ended up crying quite a lot.
Yeah, I know what you mean :'( and although I still have Misty and will miss Him just as sorely when His time comes :'(
their characters were totally differen't, Hamish was so laid back and couthy and Sooo funny at times plus He spoke back to you
when you spoke to Him, Misty has none of those Traits :( I think that is why I still Miss My Hamish so bad at times :'(
I fully understand what you mean
god, I'm welling up again :'(
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Yes definately in waves and something really unconnected can start it off :hug: :hug: :hug:
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There was definitely something exceptional about my little ginger guy. I started to talk about him to my partner earlier today, but it upset him too much so it's good for me to remember Tobes on here. I know you lot won't think I'm odd for missing him as much as I do.
Don't get me wrong, I miss Parsley too. But I'd known Tobes from being literally days old and the connection for me was immediate. And the way he bonded with my partner made me so happy. I can't put into words how I feel, but I would imagine you've all felt it at some point.
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Nearly a year now, Little Big Man. Am still missing you so much - hope you and Parsley are keeping each other company.
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Am sure Tobes and Parsley will be keeping watchful eyes over you JS :hug:
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Im sure they are JS! :grouphug:
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A year yesterday since we lost you, my little Ginger Guy. I still miss you and think of you every day. Lit a couple of candles for you and Parsley last night; hope you both saw.
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They saw. :hug:
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I'm so sorry hon :hug:
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I am sure that they are watching over you :hug:
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I hope so. I still cry when I look at pictures of either of them; not for them, but because I miss being able to cuddle them so much.
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Thanks - Tobys tree started to grow new leaves this week.
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Thanks Janey. Some days it really gets me down, but other days I'm happy that I got any time with such a wonderful little personality.
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I'm not sure what happened last night Tobes, but I definitely turned the kitchen tap off only to find it running to a "drinkable level." I took it to mean you were about so I said hello. Miss you Ginger Boy.
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Sprattley is probably already with you now Little Ginger Man. Don't let him bop you on the head too much.
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I think I heard a soft "bop" :hug:
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Letting you know I'm missing you too, Ginger Avenger. Hope you've found the best spot to curl up on. :hug:
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Every spot on RB is the best spot to curl up on! :hug: :hug:
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Merry Christmas Little Ginger Avenger. Missing you and thinking how much you'd have enjoyed the "posh" cat meat bought for Christmas Day tea. Love always.
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Hey Ginger Boy. Just wanted to say I'm missing you and sending love always.
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Sending all my Bridge Babes a message to make sure you all know you're loved. Hope you're doing OK, Little Big Man.
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Miss you, Ginger Avenger. Love always. x
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Sending love to you Tobester. Merry Christmas. x
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Toby, sweetheart - I'm so sorry, I missed posting on the date that it was three years since we lost you. We talk of you often and it's always with such love and fondness.
Hoping you Parsley, Carrie and Jack are all looking after each other my Ginger Avenger. xxxx
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Lots of huggles JS :hug: :hug: