Purrs In Our Hearts - Cat Forum UK
Cat Rescue & Rehoming => Rescue & Rehoming General => Topic started by: Hippykitty on April 20, 2008, 18:41:56 PM
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I have had a promising enquiry about Fred and Victoria from a woman who lives alone, works for just a few hours a week and would like two cats. I asked various questions over the phone and told her more about the ex-feral nature of these two. She's coming to see them on monday afternoon. My only query is that these are young cats and she is 61. If they are lucky and live long lives, they could still be around when she is well into her 70's. For some people, who are still healthy and active, this wouldn't be a problem, but I'm just a bit concerned about what would happen to F and V if she becomes ill, and perhaps requires care. Do others regard this as a problem?
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Not really.
We have it down as a point on our adoption form for people to consider what would happen etc. It saves us having to target specific people as tbh you could let a 30 yo adopt them ans they could b killed the next day.
If you can tactfully raise the subject then do so - but then 60 isn't that old :rofl:
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being only 7 years off 60 I would be more than a little offended if you broached this with me! I think 60 is actually a fairly young age. I say this despite the fact that my dad died aged 67. My mother is still going strong at 82 so a cat is unlikely to have outlived her at that age. If you are concerned, suggest she makes arrangements for the cats if she goes into care before they cross to the rainbow bridge .... I am sure you are able to assess how compus mentis the woman is, and what sort of family support she has ...
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I dont think her age is a problem, after all you could rehome Victoria and Fred to a younger couple and they go and have babies and decide they cant keep the cats any more or a younger person might immigrate and leave them behind. What i am trying to say is no guarantee if some one younger is more suitable cos of the age. Well thats my opinion. Good luck with them , they are both gorgeous. :hug:
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Thinking an adopter is too old at 61 wouldn't even enter ours heads. :shy:
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Ours neither - the person who runs the rescue is older than that!!
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We have rehomed a 16yrs old cat to a 92 year old, but if anything happens the cat will be cared for by the son. At the moment this dear old lady is happy as Larry and it brough a tear to our eyes seeing this old cat on her lap.. She was fine in herself.
I wouldnt rehomed kittens to senior people. but adult cats no problem. And 62 isnt old is it?
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My mum got her cat at the age of 67 - I think "young retired" people are some of the best pet owners. I homechecked a lady in her late 60's a while ago and she was telling me that the french doors were open all day for her previous cat and closed at dusk when they had their tea and watched TV together until they went to bed :Luv2:
What a great life for a cat :Luv2:
I don't think it's a good idea for kittens or skittish cats to be homed to very elderly people as accidents could happen. Our local RSPCA branch has recently started homing senior cars to retired people where they pay the vet bills etc.
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can't you ask about holiday care arrangements - at least you'll know then if she has family or someone who could step in
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I can only echo what others have said, and do not see 61 as being old at all to be honest.... both my parents are of retirement age, and if they were able to have pets, I know they'd be brilliant as they have much more time, (and money as any mortgage has long since been paid off lol) to devote to the care and wellbeing of a furkid ;D
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My Nana lives with 2 curly hair labrador's. They're huge dogs and she takes them for walks every day.
She's 88.
61 is nothing these days. As long as she makes arrangements within her will etc for the cats then there shouldn't be a problem.
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I would be seething if someone asked me that as 60 is young now and I think younger people who are about to start families much more of a risk.
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how did it go HK?
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Sorry if I offended anyone, just thinking ahead and looking at the bleak side. :-[
I met her today. If I'd designed the perfect slave for Fred and Victoria, it would have been her. Sam and Polly liked her. She instantly recognised that Polly's ear had been cut and asked if she had had cancer of the ear, so I knew that she wasn't a novice where felines are concerned. Not many people realise that when they first meet Polly. We chatted downstairs for a while, before she met Fred and Vic, P and S were plaguing her for fuss.
She was calm and quietly spoken with V and F. I could tell that Fred in particular was starting to relax; his eyes went sleepy and he did that silly half-closed eyes expression cats have when they are happy. She liked the cats, has had several before and has grown up children who don't live at home, and no other pets.
I got the impression that she really likes cats and wants them very much as companions. She only works four hours a day but was worried about the cats getting lonely so preferred to have two. I thought: most people work much longer hours and wouldn't give that a thought!
She told me that she'd fostered children in the past and had found it hard to hand them back. We were chatting about how much I'd miss V and F but be glad to see them in a good home.
I got on well with her and thought she was a very kind woman with the cats' interests at heart. She was a young 61! I asked her what would happen to the cats if for some reason she could no longer look after them (I mentioned holidays and stuff). She said that her daughter would take care of them.
I'll be doing a homecheck with my friend Rebekah on saturday morning. I really hope there isn't some glaringly obvious reason why she can't have Victoria and Fred.
Fingers crossed! :clap:
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Aww, good luck for Saturday.
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Excellent, she sounds like a perfect slave ;D Hope all goes well with the homecheck :)
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Oh dear! I've just had a phone call from her saying that she doesn't feel she can go ahead with it. I'm very disappointed by this. She gave the reason that she felt that Fred would be too much. I find this puzzling. While she was here he just sat in the window with Victoria and didn't do much. On the phone she said that she "couldn't cope with him boxing" which puzzled me. I asked what she meant, and she told me that she didn't like the way he pushed Victoria out of the way when they were eating some munchies. He was only playing, he just nudged her enthusiastically. He was hungry!
Stupid woman.
I'm becoming a really bad judge of character. I gave my ex-boyfriend the benefit of the doubt, now this woman. I must toughen up and give people a harder time.
Oh well. I can sleep in on saturday, and still have the handsome Fred and loving Victoria. :sigh:
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Aw what a shame....but atleast she did let you know via the phone....(she was too old anyway! :stir: :evillaugh: :naughty:)
Enjoy your sleep in on Saturday and Im sure the purrfect meowmy will turn up soon! :hug:
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Can I just echo what people have said and tell you I know EXACTLY how you feel.
Lucy and Bruce (the two ex-feral timids) had someone meet them and she was sooooo promising, but then suddenly changed her mind and it was heartbreaking. All they need is someone to give them a chance and see what beautiful, loving cats they will make.
We had a rubbish week last week and had a couple of other people let us down. I don't know whether they think that we do this for fun, or get paid to visit, talk to them, arrange visits etc and then just turn round and say they've gone elsewhere - grrrrrrrrrrr
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sorry this hasn't worked out HK
can't believe nobody wants Lucy, she is the double of my star and everyone knows she is beautiful!
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What a shame :(
I'm sure their perfect forever homes are not too far away :hug:
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Ahhh poor Fred and Victoria ... but remember HK ... it's her loss! These two WILL find their forever home and in the meantime they are happy and healthy and loved with you.
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So sad cos she sounded perfect and wonder what really changed her mind :(
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Huh? :-: Strange reason to turn them down....
My guys are a bit boisterous at meal times so am trying each cat in a separate room to see if that helps.
Keli's already got her spot and wolfs down whatevers put in front of her, but the boys are more contemplative and will tend towards faddiness and returning again and again so need places that Keli won't go....not hard to do ;D
No not a good excuse IMO, yes it would be nice if they would all eat in the same spot, but i'd rather they all had full bellies than restrict them to how I wanted things ;)
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Sorry to hear this HK, sadly it is something you have to get used to, people seem to have no comprehension of things - but they obviously aren't the right people, and the right home will turn up, just a case of being patient.
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Blimey, what a terrible reason. I'm so sorry things didn't work out, HK. And to be honest, I'm not a brilliant judge of character either - I rely a lot on my partners judgement as he seems to have really good gut instinct whereas I just seem to try and see the best in people.
Hope a perfect home for Fred and Victoria turns up soon - until then at least you get their company! ;)
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sorry to hear this home fell through HK and it sounded so promising too. I'm very sure though that their perfect forever home will turn up soon. Don't give up hope.. it will come along.
:hug:
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I filmed a new vid of them yesterday. Needs lots of editing: I've got nearly two hours' worth! Will make a you tub vid of them for sites to link to. I've taken some great pics from the vid too. Will upload pics here later. They are so gorgeous, I'd love to keep them myself, but I know Samantha wouldn't tolerate Fred, and I wonder whether I could really afford four cats......
Stupid woman! I'm glad they're not going to someone who is put off by something so trivial. Imagine if they'd done something like scratched her sofa or deposited a furball on her carpet! :evillaugh:
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something always turns up for each of the little angels... it just takes some longer than others! ;)