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Title: Tigger has gone
Post by: chris91011 on January 30, 2008, 14:46:08 PM
Tigger was pts at 12.50 today.
when i got up this morning there was blood on the floor in the hall way and up the radiator and up the front of the vacuum, so i rang the vet and took him in today, i told him about the blood and how he has been for the last week--going out, coming back exhausted and sleeping all day, he said he could go a bit longer! but he would go worse, he said it was entirely up to me to let him go or not, so i said it was just prolonging it and it was going to come anyway, he said it would come sooner than later, so i said let him go now, he then said it would be best while he still had his dignity, so he gave him an injection just to relax him [a sedative] and left me in the room with him, he said he would just fall asleep, well---the blood poured from his nose, there was pools of it! when the vet came back he said it was amazing that happened, he said the tumour had probably ruptered a blood vessal, he then gave him the injection to pts, i was in floods of tears, the vet said--it's upsetting now but in time you will realise you have done him a kindness, he also said it was good that he had his mum to cuddle him at the end, i had to stay with him, i know i said i would'nt but when it came, i had too!

God Bless Tiggs, RIP "his mums boy" [i always called him that] i will never forget you, you will be in my heart forever.

Chris.
Title: Re: Tigger has gone
Post by: JackSpratt on January 30, 2008, 14:51:36 PM
I'm so sorry Chris.

RIP, Tigger.

If It Should Be...

   If it should be that I grow weak,
   And pain should keep me from my sleep,
   Then you must do what must be done,
   For this last battle cannot be won.

   You will be sad, I understand,
   Don't let your grief then stay your hand,
   For this day more than all the rest,
   Your love for me must stand the test.
         
   We've had so many happy years,
   What is to come can hold no fears,
   You'd not want me to suffer so,
   The time has come, please let me go.
         
   Take me where my needs they'll tend,
   And please stay with me til the end,
   I know in time that you will see
   The kindness that you did for me.
         
   Although my tail its last has waved,
   From pain and suffering I've been saved.
   Please do not grieve, it must be you
   Who has this painful thing to do.
   We've been so close, we two, these years,
   Don't let your heart hold back its tears.


~~Author unknown~~
Title: Re: Tigger has gone
Post by: CurlyCatz on January 30, 2008, 14:57:11 PM
Sorry to hear of your traumatic experience chris, that must have been very distressing for you but unfortunately not totally uncommon for a major blood vessel to go like that with tumours.

 :hug: to you & rip tigger  :hug:
Title: Re: Tigger has gone
Post by: chris91011 on January 30, 2008, 14:58:51 PM
i did kiss him goodbye before i left.
Title: Re: Tigger has gone
Post by: Dawn F on January 30, 2008, 15:01:58 PM
I'm so sorry, hugs
Title: Re: Tigger has gone
Post by: Maddiesmum on January 30, 2008, 15:11:10 PM
Oh no I am so very sorry for the pain you are going through but know that you helped Tigger at the end when he needed you to be strong for him.   :hug: RIP Tigger, go play with my Dragan
Title: Re: Tigger has gone
Post by: LesleyW on January 30, 2008, 15:19:10 PM
So sorry Chris, RIP Tigger, have fun at the Bridge, free from pain now.  :hug: :hug: to you Chris xx
Title: Re: Tigger has gone
Post by: Millys Mum on January 30, 2008, 17:36:57 PM
 :hug: :hug: :hug:

Sorry to hear about Tigger  :hug:
Title: Re: Tigger has gone
Post by: Garfield&Gypsy on January 30, 2008, 18:00:21 PM
 :Sad Bye:

RIP Tigger, Sorry to hear about your loss, the important thing is you made the best decision for the situation, and although the pain is raw now you'll soon smile again remebering the good times you shared.

I didn't leave the room when Jet was PTS we wanted to be there for her till the end, and know that she wasn't in pain anymore.

Play hard at the bridge little one.
Title: Re: Tigger has gone
Post by: Kats inc on January 30, 2008, 18:03:39 PM
Sweet dreams Tigger  :Luv2:
Title: Re: Tigger has gone
Post by: Mark on January 30, 2008, 18:11:36 PM
Sorry Chris  :hug:

RIP Tigger  :(
Title: Re: Tigger has gone
Post by: Yvonne on January 30, 2008, 18:16:35 PM
So sorry to hear this

 :RIP:   Tigger
Title: Re: Tigger has gone
Post by: Gill (sneakiefeline) on January 30, 2008, 18:19:43 PM
I am so sorry  :hug: :hug:

RIP Tiggs, you left a pawprint in your meowmys heart and will never be forgotten
Title: Re: Tigger has gone
Post by: gibraltarcat on January 30, 2008, 18:51:14 PM
 :hug: :hug: :hug: Chris, I'm so very sorry.

RIP little man
Title: Re: Tigger has gone
Post by: pappilon on January 30, 2008, 18:51:28 PM
I am so sorry.  :hug: :hug:

RIP Tiger and sweet dreams. :'(
Title: Re: Tigger has gone
Post by: CarolM (Wendolene) on January 30, 2008, 18:58:10 PM
I'm so sorry Chris but I'm glad you were able to be with him at the end and give him a kiss.  I know your heart must be breaking but he's at peace now  :hug:
Title: Re: Tigger has gone
Post by: Bazsmum on January 30, 2008, 18:59:29 PM
RIP Tigger..... :(

>Chris... :hug: :hug: :hug:
Title: Re: Tigger has gone
Post by: Jasmine on January 30, 2008, 19:02:32 PM
So sorry for your loss Chris  :hug:

God Bless Tigger

Jas
 X
Title: Re: Tigger has gone
Post by: Tiggy's Mum on January 30, 2008, 20:03:57 PM
Sorry to hear this  :hug:  RIP Tigger, safe and sound at the Bridge until your Mum is ready to collect you xx

The Greatest Gift

I always knew this time would come,
From the very instant our eyes first met.
How I loved you then! How I love you now!
I made a promise then, and I will keep that promise now...
You will not suffer from a pain that will not heal;
You will not know the loss of a life remembered, now gone.

It is for me alone to make this decision,
The price for the bright joy and pure laughter
You brought me during the time we shared.
I am the only one who can decide when it is time.
When my hope dies, and my fear rides high,
Just when I need you most, I must let you go.

It is for you alone to tell me when you are ready
For without your guidance, I will not know
When to lay my grief, my guilt, my anger
My sorrow and my selfish heart aside
And give you this last gift, this greatest gift.
Your eyes will speak to mine, and I will know.

The pain of this moment is excruciating.
Tears stream down my face in a river of sorrow.
And my heart drowns in a pool of grief.
For you have spoken and I have listened,
And unlike other decisions I have made
This one brings no relief...no comfort...no peace.

For if there´s one thing you´ve taught me,
If there´s only one thing I´ve learned...
Unconditional love has a condition after all,
I must be willing to let you go, when you speak to me
I must be willing to help you go, if you cannot go alone.
And I must accept my pain so you can be free of yours.

Go easily now, go quickly now,
Do not linger here, it is time for you to leave.
Go find your strength, go find your youth.
Go find the ones who've gone before you.
You are free to leave me now, free to let your spirit soar
Rest easy now, your pain will soon be gone.

I pray I will find comfort in my memories...
In the dark and lonely days ahead.
I cannot say I will not miss you, I cannot say I will not cry.
For only my tears can heal my broken heart.
But, I promise you this; as long as I live,
You will live, alive in my mind, forever in my heart.

So I give you this last gift, all I have left to give,
And this will be my greatest gift...sending you away.
It is the measure of my unconditional love...
For only the greatest love can say,
"Good-bye, go find the bridge, we'll meet again,
Loving you has been the greatest gift of all."

Forever and Always... Until Rainbow bridge....

Title: Re: Tigger has gone
Post by: sheryl on January 30, 2008, 20:35:58 PM
So Sorry Chris - thinking of you  :hug:

RIP Tigger, Play hard at the Bridge sweetheart - forever in your Mummies heart xx
Title: Re: Tigger has gone
Post by: clarenmax on January 30, 2008, 20:39:26 PM
I'm so sorry  :hug: :hug:

RIP little one, play hard on the Bridge sweetheart, and send your mummy a rainbow when your new friends have showed you how xxx
Title: Re: Tigger has gone
Post by: ginge66 on January 30, 2008, 20:45:48 PM
So sorry, thinking of you at this sad time :hug: :hug:
Title: Re: Tigger has gone
Post by: chris91011 on January 30, 2008, 21:20:47 PM
Thank you all for your kind messages, they have really comforted me, i feel really calm and peacefull at the moment, but just before i became very cold and started shivering uncontrollaby and i broke down again, it keeps coming over me, i have been here before when my dog died 6yrs ago but it never gets any easier does it?

I think Meg is wondering what has happened today, she was asleep in front of the fire before and she just turned around and looked at me and came over and got on my knee [that's what Tigger used to do] i know it will get easier but you think it never will.

Chris.
Title: Re: Tigger has gone
Post by: Sam (Fussy_Furball) on January 30, 2008, 21:49:54 PM
Chris I'm so sorry to hear the sad news about Tigger ... please accept my sincere condolences.

RIP little man ... you will always be in your mummy's heart and will never be forgotten.  Play hard at the bridge darling.



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Title: Re: Tigger has gone
Post by: ccmacey on January 30, 2008, 21:52:44 PM
Aww so sorry

RIP Tigger, send your mummy a rainbow x
Title: Re: Tigger has gone
Post by: Desley (booktigger) on January 30, 2008, 22:26:31 PM
I am so very sorry to hear this, but you truly did do the best thing for him, you were strong enough to give him that final act of love and kindness, and he will be truly grateful for it. I am sorry to hear of hte complications though. Sadly, it doesn't matter how many times you go through this, it doens't get easier, in fact I am finding it harder. I think it is normal to feel peaceful and calm afterwards, it is like we know our beloveds are no longer in pain or suffering, and that helps a lot. RIP little one.
Title: Re: Tigger has gone
Post by: Maddiesmum on January 30, 2008, 22:29:13 PM
No it never gets any easier.  I was thinking today about it.  I have always said I would never have any more animals after Dragan because I can't stand anymore pain when we lose them BUT if you balance the pain and grief against the years of love and happiness they bring it is so worth it.  Look after yourself  :hug:
Title: Re: Tigger has gone
Post by: swampmaxmum on January 31, 2008, 11:41:12 AM
I'm so very sorry Chris. RIP little Tigger. A big hug to you  :hug:
Title: Re: Tigger has gone
Post by: dolcetta46 on January 31, 2008, 12:13:40 PM
 :'( :'( :'(  There will however be never a real goodbye, he will stay near you even if you don't see him, don't make him feel sad crying, remember him and all the happy times with a smile... someday you will be together once again :hug: :hug:
Title: Re: Tigger has gone
Post by: Gwen on January 31, 2008, 13:00:02 PM
RI{ Tigger :(

Nothing more to add to what others have said but please remember you did give  Tigger the greatest gift in the end :hug:
Title: Re: Tigger has gone
Post by: Gail Bengal Slave on January 31, 2008, 16:20:03 PM
Chris you did do the right thing, and you were brave for doing it. I have been there myself. It is sole destroying, but you know deep down, it is the right thing.

RIP Tigger little man, go play and run free, smell those flowers and chase those butterflies. Beau & Zak will keep you company till  your Mummy come to collect you.

 :hug:Chris x

Title: Re: Tigger has gone
Post by: Ralph's mum (angie) on January 31, 2008, 16:27:18 PM
Chris you were very brave, you did what Tigger would have wanted you to do  :hug:

 :RIP: Tigger Nite Nite xx
Title: Re: Tigger has gone
Post by: chris91011 on January 31, 2008, 19:54:17 PM
My first day without Tigger-----oh it's awfull, i was dreading getting up this morning and i did'nt sleep to good last night,
every time i go up stairs i am expecting to see him curled up on the landing were the central heating pipes run under the floor boards, he loved it there cos it was warm, every time i look out of the window i am expecting to see him sitting on the fence in the back garden, going to bed at night he would be waiting on the bottom stair ready to run up in front of me, i have been here before when my dog passed away, and it's the same feelings all over again, at first all i could think of was how she went, in time it got easier and i did'nt think of that but of the times when she was young,fit and well, now and again i think of how she passed but not as often.

when i go out i don't want to come back cos he's not here, but i have to----Meg is still here! and my son of course!!

oh poor Meg---she was waiting by the living room door this morning----waiting for him to come in so she could pounce on him!!  she kept looking, but he never came!  but she's ok, she is eating and she comes on my knee more, she's got no one to play with now or torment!! i'm going to buy her a toy to play with tomorrow, she must be wondering were he has gone, so sad.

it's so nice to come on here and pour out my feelings to people who understand :thanks:

Chris.
Title: Re: Tigger has gone
Post by: Maddiesmum on January 31, 2008, 20:05:12 PM
 :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug:
It's awful isn't it, so painful.  It will get better as you know yourself but it's terrible. 
Title: Re: Tigger has gone
Post by: chris91011 on February 01, 2008, 16:30:00 PM
missing Tigger today, i keep filling up, i miss him so much! i miss our cuddles!
i know i still have Meg, she is different tho! no cuddles! i went to make a fuss of her before and she grabbed my hand!!
Title: Re: Tigger has gone
Post by: Sabrina (Auferstehen) on February 01, 2008, 16:42:31 PM
 :hug:

I lost my Little Girl a year today and I still miss her very much. It gets a little easier over time.

I do have 5 other cats in the house so I get cuddles on a rota....
Title: Re: Tigger has gone
Post by: CarolM (Wendolene) on February 01, 2008, 16:59:28 PM
Quote from: chris91011 on February 01, 2008, 16:30:00 PM
missing Tigger today, i keep filling up, i miss him so much! i miss our cuddles!
i know i still have Meg, she is different tho! no cuddles! i went to make a fuss of her before and she grabbed my hand!!

I know that feeling so well.  Losing a cat is just like losing any family member - they all have their own distinct personalities that are irreplaceable.  When my Tiny went to the bridge I still had Korky and although I love him to bits its in a totally different way.  Tiny was in-your-face, under your feet, very vocal and always up for a cuddle.  Korky is very quiet and placid and although he loves his cuddles its on his terms.

Meg is probably confused by Tigger's disappearance and she may actually be a bit suspicious of the extra attention she is getting.  Sending you a virtual cuddle  :hug:
Title: Re: Tigger has gone
Post by: gibraltarcat on February 01, 2008, 19:28:06 PM
Thinking of you, Chris  :hug: :hug: :hug:
Title: Re: Tigger has gone
Post by: chris91011 on February 01, 2008, 19:29:29 PM
CarolM,
your Tiny sounds just like my Tigger and Korky like Meg, and just like you--i love Meg to bits but in a different way, with Tigger you could pick him up and cuddle him and hug him, if you do that to Meg she sqweels and she will lash out sometimes, she's always been like that, bit of a loner really, but Tigger was always there for me, he would meow and jump on my knee and we would have a cuddle, Meg will jump on my knee and you can stroke her, but not for to long! you have to watch her body language, don't hug her!!!

Tigger became very affectionate and loveable when my dog died 6yrs ago, he was a bit like Meg when i think back but not as bad!! i loved him to bits and more!!!!
Title: Re: Tigger has gone
Post by: chris91011 on February 02, 2008, 19:59:50 PM
poor Meg, she has gone very quiet, do you think it may be hitting her now that Tigger has gone?
she looks lonely and lost :'( i bought her a little bed today--the igloo type, she used to get into Tigger's carrier and settle down and sleep, so i thought an igloo type bed would be right for her, and she's been in it nearly all day just coming out for her food, but she has'nt been as lively as she was when Tigger was here, she's got no one to play with or torment! she's been in the garden today for a few minuets, she does'nt venture any further.

Chris.

still missing him!!
Title: Re: Tigger has gone
Post by: blackcat on February 02, 2008, 20:01:23 PM
pets do mourn for each other, but she will be fine in a few days. Just respect her need to be quiet and she will be fine. :hug:
Title: Re: Tigger has gone
Post by: Bazsmum on February 02, 2008, 20:04:11 PM
Time really is the greatest of healer's........ :grouphug:
Title: Re: Tigger has gone
Post by: Desley (booktigger) on February 02, 2008, 21:36:05 PM
Aww, poor you and Meg - I Would try and interact with Meg rather than leave her, and this may sound weird, but I would have a chat with her and explain things to her, it does seem to work. It truly doesn't matter how many cats you have in the house, it feels empty when one goes, as they are all so different.
Title: Re: Tigger has gone
Post by: blackcat on February 02, 2008, 21:40:27 PM
I have to say that when I lose an animal I try to make sure the others see the body, up to and including bringing it home from the vet for them to see it. It does seem to help them understand why their good buddy is no longer around. Feeling bad for you both ... :hug:
Title: Re: Tigger has gone
Post by: Maddiesmum on February 02, 2008, 21:56:54 PM
Poor little Meg.  I am sure she will be missing Tigger and unlike us cannot understand why he has just disappeared.  With a little extra TLC and reassurance I am sure she will cope.  Dragan had never had a day in his life without pet company until Sept 2006 when my Guinness was put to sleep.  He struggled a bit at first but he did get used to it.  Good luck   :hug:for Meg
Title: Re: Tigger has gone
Post by: chris91011 on February 02, 2008, 22:17:32 PM
i bought some fish for her today [her and Tigger's favourite meal] and later when she jumped up on my knee i said to her 'Tigger was very poorly and has gone to heaven, you're missing him are'nt you?', i am going to wake her up now and give her some of her fish,cos she's been in her bed all night!!

and me! i'm coping, but every now and again i think 'he's gone! he's not here anymore!' then it starts all over again.
Title: Re: Tigger has gone
Post by: Maddiesmum on February 02, 2008, 22:31:46 PM
I know that feeling so well Chris.  I have bawled my eyes out today.  When my pets go I make a memory book for them with all their photos, little anecdotes, all the messages from the forums, their fur etc.  When I was doing Dragan's today I re-read Pepsi's (my dog), Guinness and Madison's and ended up crying.

It will get better for us both one day  :hug:
Title: Re: Tigger has gone
Post by: chris91011 on February 02, 2008, 22:49:38 PM
i have just fed Meg, i did'nt have to wake her, she heard me put the fish in her dish, she gobbled it down! i stroked her and talked to her, i would like to pick her up and give her a big cuddle but i know she wont have any of that!
i could pick Tigger up and cuddle and hug him and i miss that, she's gone back in her bed now!   what a life eh! to lay in bed and have your food brought to you!!!
Title: Re: Tigger has gone
Post by: Stuart on February 02, 2008, 23:50:30 PM
My Thoughts are with You Chris  :hug: :hug:

:RIP: Tigger

They will not go quietly, these cats who've shared our lives.
In subtle ways they let us know their spirit still survives.
Old habits still make us think we hear a meow at the door.
Or step back when we drop a tasty morsel on the floor.
Our feet still go around the place the food dish used to be,
And, sometimes, coming home at night,we miss them terribly.
And although time may bring new friends and a new food dish to fill,
That one place in our hearts belongs to them. . . and always will.
- Linda Barnes
Title: Re: Tigger has gone
Post by: chris91011 on February 03, 2008, 22:53:30 PM
Hi Everyone,
i'm feeling a little better today---well after crying most of the day! i just kept breaking down! Meg has been up and about more too! it's taken me ages getting on here tonight, i think it's Tigger's way of saying to me "now come on, enough is enough, i'm ok now!" anyway here are some pics of Meg in her new bed, she loves it!
(http://i181.photobucket.com/albums/x184/chrisno2_bucket/000_0640.jpg)

(http://i181.photobucket.com/albums/x184/chrisno2_bucket/000_0639.jpg)

ok, we'll see what tomorrow brings, think i'm all cried out now! but he is in my mind all the time.
Chris.
Title: Re: Tigger has gone
Post by: Maddiesmum on February 04, 2008, 06:02:06 AM
Glad  you are feeling better today.  Meg looks sweet in her bed.  Nice and cosy for her to snuggle in
Title: Re: Tigger has gone
Post by: chris91011 on February 04, 2008, 14:42:24 PM
Meg is a horrer!! she's back to her normal viscious self!!
i picked her up this morning and she turned on me! scratched my hand! i put her down and she attacked my leg!
it's nothing new with her, she's always been like that, but i thought maybe now she is on her own she would be different, but "no"! it made me cry again, i thought"Tigger's gone and she goes and does that to me!"
so i'm not speaking to her at the moment--lol.

Chris.
Title: Re: Tigger has gone
Post by: Tiggy's Mum on February 04, 2008, 14:49:44 PM
 :hug:  I'm sure she loves you in her own special way :grouphug:
Title: Re: Tigger has gone
Post by: Maddiesmum on February 04, 2008, 17:22:07 PM
Little madam