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Cat Health & Behaviour => Health & Behaviour General => Topic started by: Maddiesmum on January 26, 2008, 17:17:38 PM

Title: Dragan has gone
Post by: Maddiesmum on January 26, 2008, 17:17:38 PM
I just had to have him put to sleep.  I am devastated, gutted, in pieces, broken hearted.  He deteriorated to a point where the nerves in his spine went and he couldnt' walk.  He just lay on the table in the vets.  Discussed his options and there weren't any  really.  The vet Abbey was lovely and he died peacefully wrapped in a fleece in my arms - I didn't even feel him go.  Bless him he gave me a final headbutt before he died and put his paw on my arm.
Title: Re: Dragan has gone
Post by: blackcat on January 26, 2008, 17:19:10 PM
 :grouphug: poor you. What a terrible decision to have to make. You know that it was the right one, but it is still sooooo hard.  :hug: :hug: :hug:
Title: Re: Dragan has gone
Post by: Christine (Blip) on January 26, 2008, 17:23:51 PM
I am so sorry.  My thoughts are with you.

xC
Title: Re: Dragan has gone
Post by: Bazsmum on January 26, 2008, 17:40:22 PM
OMG!!! I am in shock for you....... :'(  :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug:

RIP Dragan.....X
Title: Re: Dragan has gone
Post by: Garfield&Gypsy on January 26, 2008, 17:44:16 PM
 :RIP: Dragan

I know how you feel, sending you big hugs.
:grouphug:

You know when the time is right, it IS the hardest decision one we have to make for our furries.
Be comforted that you know that you did everything you could and he will thank you for that.
Title: Re: Dragan has gone
Post by: Maddiesmum on January 26, 2008, 17:50:17 PM
Thank you all of you.  The vet thinks he had an adverse reaction to Fortekor.  My heart broke to see him this morning.
Title: Re: Dragan has gone
Post by: Sam (Fussy_Furball) on January 26, 2008, 17:51:05 PM
OMG I'm so sorry  :hug:

RIP Dragan ... play hard at the bridge little man until it's time for mummy to come and collect you.
Title: Re: Dragan has gone
Post by: Susanne (urbantigers) on January 26, 2008, 17:58:24 PM
Oh no :(  So sorry to hear about Dragan  :hug: :hug:

Have fun at the bridge little one until meowmy comes for you  :RIP:
Title: Re: Dragan has gone
Post by: pappilon on January 26, 2008, 17:59:36 PM
Chrissie,i am so sorry,poor Dragon and you. :'( :'(

I am in shock.., but you were there for him when he needed you and i know what you are going through. :hug:


 :RIP:  sweet and brave Dragon. :hug: :hug:
Title: Re: Dragan has gone
Post by: Tiggy's Mum on January 26, 2008, 18:14:31 PM
So sorry to hear about Dragan, he'll be safe and sound at the Bridge by now waiting for you until you are ready to collect him  :hug: It may not feel like it now but you did the kindest, bravest thing for him  :hug:

The Greatest Gift


I always knew this time would come,
From the very instant our eyes first met.
How I loved you then! How I love you now!
I made a promise then, and I will keep that promise now...
You will not suffer from a pain that will not heal;
You will not know the loss of a life remembered, now gone.

It is for me alone to make this decision,
The price for the bright joy and pure laughter
You brought me during the time we shared.
I am the only one who can decide when it is time.
When my hope dies, and my fear rides high,
Just when I need you most, I must let you go.

It is for you alone to tell me when you are ready
For without your guidance, I will not know
When to lay my grief, my guilt, my anger
My sorrow and my selfish heart aside
And give you this last gift, this greatest gift.
Your eyes will speak to mine, and I will know.

The pain of this moment is excruciating.
Tears stream down my face in a river of sorrow.
And my heart drowns in a pool of grief.
For you have spoken and I have listened,
And unlike other decisions I have made
This one brings no relief...no comfort...no peace.

For if there´s one thing you´ve taught me,
If there´s only one thing I´ve learned...
Unconditional love has a condition after all,
I must be willing to let you go, when you speak to me
I must be willing to help you go, if you cannot go alone.
And I must accept my pain so you can be free of yours.

Go easily now, go quickly now,
Do not linger here, it is time for you to leave.
Go find your strength, go find your youth.
Go find the ones who've gone before you.
You are free to leave me now, free to let your spirit soar
Rest easy now, your pain will soon be gone.

I pray I will find comfort in my memories...
In the dark and lonely days ahead.
I cannot say I will not miss you, I cannot say I will not cry.
For only my tears can heal my broken heart.
But, I promise you this; as long as I live,
You will live, alive in my mind, forever in my heart.

So I give you this last gift, all I have left to give,
And this will be my greatest gift...sending you away.
It is the measure of my unconditional love...
For only the greatest love can say,
"Good-bye, go find the bridge, we'll meet again,
Loving you has been the greatest gift of all."

Forever and Always... Until Rainbow bridge....

Title: Re: Dragan has gone
Post by: gibraltarcat on January 26, 2008, 18:30:20 PM
I'm so very sorry :hug: :hug: xx
Title: Re: Dragan has gone
Post by: Mark on January 26, 2008, 20:05:38 PM
Sorry Chrissie  :hug:
Title: Re: Dragan has gone
Post by: Kittybabe (Ruth) on January 26, 2008, 20:09:49 PM
Oh I'm so sorry.

RIP Dragan  :hug:
Title: Re: Dragan has gone
Post by: Millys Mum on January 26, 2008, 20:14:20 PM
 :hug: :hug:
Title: Re: Dragan has gone
Post by: clarenmax on January 26, 2008, 20:25:41 PM
Oh hun, I'm so verry sorry  :hug: :hug:

RIP little one  :'(
Title: Re: Dragan has gone
Post by: smudgepickles on January 26, 2008, 21:05:06 PM
R.I.P. little special one. Play hard at the bridge until your lovely Mummy is ready to collect you  :hug: :hug: :hug:


Your in my thoughts Crissie  :hug: :hug: :hug:

x
Title: Re: Dragan has gone
Post by: Desley (booktigger) on January 26, 2008, 21:24:33 PM
I am so shocked to read this, I am so truly sorry, it is such a hard decision to have to make, and is the price we have to pay for having them in our lives. He was lucky to have such a wonderful owner who did the best by him though, and he will be grateful you were strong enough to do that for him. RIP little one.
Title: Re: Dragan has gone
Post by: unseeliechylde on January 26, 2008, 21:27:01 PM
Goodbye special boy, and watch over your mommy from the bridge - she misses you so much. :'( Play hard, little furry angel, and know that you have left your pawprints on many hearts. :care: :RIP:
Title: Re: Dragan has gone
Post by: Yvonne on January 26, 2008, 21:45:38 PM
I am so sorry that you had to make this awful decision but at least the end was peaceful.    :hug:

 :RIP:   Dragan
Title: Re: Dragan has gone
Post by: JackSpratt on January 26, 2008, 21:52:10 PM
I'm so sorry. :(

RIP, Dragan. :RIP:
Title: Re: Dragan has gone
Post by: Dawn (DiddyDawn) on January 26, 2008, 22:18:50 PM
So sorry hun  :'(

 :RIP: RIP Dragan, sweet dreams, xxxxxxxxxxx
Title: Re: Dragan has gone
Post by: chris91011 on January 26, 2008, 23:37:37 PM
oh, i am so so sorry, i know it's a very hard descission and one i will have to make in the coming weeks or months,
i am thinking of you, RIP Dragon you were so well loved.

Someone gave this to me many years ago when my mum had her dog pts, then when my dog died from a heart attack 6yrs ago i would read it over and over again, it would make me cry, but it helped and brought all the grief out--

If it should be

If it should be that I grow weak,
And pain should keep me from my sleep,
Then you should do what must be done,
For this last battle can't be won.

You will be sad-i understand,
Don't let grief then stay your hand,
For this day more than all the rest,
Your love for me must stand the test.

We've had so many happy years,
What is to come can hold no fears,
You'd not want me to suffer so,
The time has come,please let me go.

Take me were my needs they'll tend,
And please stay with me until the end,
Hold me firm and speak to me,
Until my eyes no longer see.

I know in time that you will see,
The kindness that you do for me,
Although my tail its last has waved,
From pain and suffering I have been saved.

Please do not grieve it must be you,
Who has this painful thing to do,
We've been so close we two these years,
Don't let your heart hold back it's tears.

 :hug:to you and take care.
Chris

Title: Re: Dragan has gone
Post by: Gill (sneakiefeline) on January 27, 2008, 00:31:56 AM
I am so terribly sorry to hear this sad news, thinking of you  :hug: :hug:

RIP Dragan, you will always be loved and remembered.
Title: Re: Dragan has gone
Post by: swampmaxmum on January 27, 2008, 10:31:15 AM
I'm so very sorry to hear this. He was so very loved and I know how terribly you will miss him. RIP little Dragan. A big hug to you.
Title: Re: Dragan has gone
Post by: Pinkbear (Julie) on January 27, 2008, 11:06:24 AM
I'm so sorry for your loss. It is never easy...  :'(
Title: Re: Dragan has gone
Post by: LesleyW on January 27, 2008, 11:38:14 AM
So sorry, RIP Dragan  :RIP:
Title: Re: Dragan has gone
Post by: fluffybunny on January 27, 2008, 11:42:26 AM
So sorry to hear this - big hugs to you xxx

RIP Dragan.
Title: Re: Dragan has gone
Post by: Gwen on January 27, 2008, 12:35:34 PM
RIP little one :'(

 :hug:
Title: Re: Dragan has gone
Post by: MillyMollyMandy on January 27, 2008, 13:43:30 PM
So very sorry.
Title: Re: Dragan has gone
Post by: puddypaws on January 27, 2008, 13:54:57 PM
Thinking of you  :hug: :hug: :hug:  Play hard at the Bridge Dragan
Title: Re: Dragan has gone
Post by: Michelle (furbabystar) on January 27, 2008, 14:46:09 PM
No !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Oh i am so so sorry (((HUG))) I am truly shocked to hear this.

RIP Dragan, Have fun at the Bridge, My Bridge babies will look after you xxx
Title: Re: Dragan has gone
Post by: pappilon on January 27, 2008, 16:49:41 PM
Thinking of you today :hug:

How are you feeling? :hug: :hug:
Title: Re: Dragan has gone
Post by: Maddiesmum on January 27, 2008, 16:54:40 PM
Thank you Pav.  I am mostly all cried out, went to bed last night with bulging red eyes and a mega headache.  It was difficult this morning when he wasn't around and I didn't need to get his breakfast and his meds sorted and I have forgotten he is gone a couple of times.  My tears are more in waves today. 

I should get his ashes home on Tuesday which will be another sad day but it will be good to bring him home.

This is the first time in almost my whole life that I haven't had a furbaby to fuss over.  It's not nice.

I will ring you definitely during the week, just a bit too emotional right now.

Hope BOY is fine today
Title: Re: Dragan has gone
Post by: Gwen on January 27, 2008, 16:56:09 PM
 :hug:
Title: Re: Dragan has gone
Post by: Teresa Pawcats on January 27, 2008, 18:00:11 PM
I am so very sorry
Take care
 :hug:
Title: Re: Dragan has gone
Post by: pappilon on January 27, 2008, 18:09:22 PM
     :hug: :hug: :hug: x
Title: Re: Dragan has gone
Post by: Gillian Harvey on January 27, 2008, 19:27:54 PM
Oh no - I've only just caught up with this as I didnt log on yesterday - I'm so very sorry that Dragan has gone. Its horrible that fleeting moment when you forget they've gone and then it all comes rushing in doesnt it? Take care of yourself  :hug:

:RIP:  Dragan 
Title: Re: Dragan has gone
Post by: Rosella moggy on January 27, 2008, 20:35:38 PM
Nothing helps at a time like this. I remember, as others will, how much it hurts. 

So very, very sorry for your loss  :hug:
Title: Re: Dragan has gone
Post by: lucy on January 27, 2008, 21:38:45 PM
So sorry  :hug:
Title: Re: Dragan has gone
Post by: Maddiesmum on January 28, 2008, 08:13:34 AM
Thank you all so very much for your lovely messages of support they are really helping me deal with this.  I have lost furbabies before but the pain has never been this extreme.  I am really struggling this morning and have wept buckets.  I went onto a pet loss grief support site (I have been there before) and there is a little song "Precious Little Friend" written by a woman about saying goodbye to her dog.  That made me weep buckets, sobbed even.  But my little man is worth my tears.
Title: Re: Dragan has gone
Post by: swampmaxmum on January 28, 2008, 10:23:17 AM
 :hug:  :hug: to you today. xxx
Title: Re: Dragan has gone
Post by: Dawn F on January 28, 2008, 10:43:17 AM
so sorry - hugsx
Title: Re: Dragan has gone
Post by: ClaireR on January 28, 2008, 12:28:55 PM
Sending you hugs.

Take care.

xxxxxx
Title: Re: Dragan has gone
Post by: PennyLineker on January 28, 2008, 13:21:17 PM
I am so sorry to hear of your loss and send you my heartfelt best wishes.

xxxx
Title: Re: Dragan has gone
Post by: Desley (booktigger) on January 28, 2008, 14:19:48 PM
I am sorry things are so hard for you, I think it will be harder cos you dont have another furbabe to fuss and get some comfort from. We are all here for you.
Title: Re: Dragan has gone
Post by: PennyLineker on January 28, 2008, 14:58:29 PM
Years ago, when we had to put our pet to sleep, i found this poem very comforting.  I hope you get some comfort from it too.

If it should be I grow frail and weak
And pain prevents my peaceful sleep.
Then you must do what must be done
When this last battle can't be won.
You will be sad, I understand.
Selfishness might stay your hand.
But on this day, more than the rest,
Your love and friendship take the test.
We've had so many happy years
That what's to come can hold no fears.
You'd not want me to suffer. So,
When the time comes, please let me go.
Take me where my needs they'll tend.
Only stay with me until the end.
Hold me firm and speak to me.
Until my eyes no longer see.
I know, in time, you, too, will see
It is a kindness that you do for me.
Although my tail it's last has waved,
From pain and suffering I've been saved.
Do not grieve it should be you.
Who must decide this thing to do.
We've been so close, we two, these years......
Don't let your heart hold any tears.  

Thinking of you xx
Title: Re: Dragan has gone
Post by: Ralph's mum (angie) on January 28, 2008, 16:12:07 PM
 :hug: Sorry to hear this Chrissy  :hug:
Title: Re: Dragan has gone
Post by: Schmew on January 28, 2008, 20:19:28 PM
So sorry to hear about Dragan

Hope you're doing ok :hug:

x
Title: Re: Dragan has gone
Post by: Baggy on January 28, 2008, 22:48:34 PM
So sorry to hear about your clever and brave Dragan  :hug:
Title: Re: Dragan has gone
Post by: Maddiesmum on January 29, 2008, 13:33:49 PM
Thank you all again for the lovely posts.  I have brought his ashes home today.  They are in the sweetest little casket you ever saw with a flower on the top.  I have put them in his furry house for the last time.  I also got a lovely condolence card and a different version of Rainbow Bridge that I never saw before.
Title: Re: Dragan has gone
Post by: clarenmax on January 29, 2008, 13:35:41 PM
 :hug: :hug:
Title: Re: Dragan has gone
Post by: alisonandarchie on January 29, 2008, 16:34:22 PM
Sorry to hear the news about the lovely Dragon :hug:
Title: Re: Dragan has gone
Post by: Maddiesmum on February 08, 2008, 19:59:07 PM
Am really really missing him right now - even though Charlie has moved in.
Title: Re: Dragan has gone
Post by: Gill (sneakiefeline) on February 08, 2008, 20:02:20 PM
Poor you and yes that happens  :hug: :hug:

Sometimes the days just seem to be full of sorrow and memories, I used to write down what I was thinking about and sometimes there was no consoling me.

It will ease but not for a long time, you will never forget Dragan but give Charlie a stroke, cos Dragan sent him  :hug:
Title: Re: Dragan has gone
Post by: alisonandarchie on February 08, 2008, 20:06:19 PM
Thinking about you :hug:
Title: Re: Dragan has gone
Post by: dolcetta46 on February 08, 2008, 20:09:19 PM
Yes I also think Charlie is a gift sent from Dragan... he is taking good care of you from up above ;) :hug: