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Turnbulll:
I suppose you'd probably think that rehoming my children would also be a better idea as they are actually the reason that I end of not giving them much attention, my husband doesn't take up my time like they do.
My dogs aren't up for consideration, they are happy to spend time with me the children and my husband. They have the downstairs back area of the house and the cats have the front downstairs and up. The reason I posted this question on a site where people are passionate about cats is that I thought the opinions would be more valid, ie taking the cats happiness into consideration and not just saying Yeh get rid as alot of other people might. That reply came across really judgy I should have known better. Ill forget the whole idea, I'll be judged whether I give them a better home or make them suffer mine so I can't win. I suppose if it was that bad with us they wouldn't have kept coming home the last 12 years.

Sue P (Paddysmum):
I'm so sorry you find yourself in this position.  It's clear from your post that you care about your family, human and 4 pawed members.  However, it's also clear this conflict is putting you under considerable pressure and that won't be helping the situation.

My gut feeling is that rehoming your husband would be the best option, but given that's also probably not going to happen, finding stable and loving homes for the dogs and Dougal might be the most appropriate solution.  Being frank, your cats and dogs have little say about the circumstances in which they live, so you have to put their welfare and needs above your own.  That will be hard, because you do love them, but you also recognise you aren't really doing your best by them.  I would suggest getting in touch with somewhere like The Dogs Trust and your regional Cats Protection offices, explaining your situation and asking if they can help you find permanent loving homes for them, rather than trying to rehome direct yourself. 

I hope that Angus is okay and isn't seriously hurt.  It must be agony for you, especially given the time of year, and my heart goes out to you, as it sounds like you have your hands full, and a hefty dose of guilt over not being able to do everything for everyone.  I hope it works out for you all. 

Turnbulll:
Hi all

I just wanted to ask people's honest thoughts on my situation. I have 2 cats Angus and Dougal. Angus has been missing for a week now and I fear he's been run over. I found his collar near our house with a bit of blood on it, I'm on a country lane with thorn bushes all along it, I've been out searching on numerous occasions as best I can but no sight of him. I feel so guilty for ever letting him out, he's been run over before but when I kept him in afterwards all he did was sit at the window miaowing to get out. I have 2 young kids, 3 dogs which the cats hate and I work full time so I really struggle to give them any attention which was why I let them back out. They love going out and it was all I could offer. I've considered rehoming them many times over the years, they're scared of my husband and he won't make an effort with them, so they stay away from us in the house and just aren't really part of the family. They're such lovely cats and deserve a better home life than I seem to be able to offer, I always vow to do better and fail so I don't see that changing. I've kept them in selfishness and fear of being judged, apart from the fact I do love them so I'm wondering what everyone's thoughts are about their life with us. Should I consider rehoming them? That's if Angus turns up OK. If I'd rehomed them earlier he might never have been run over at all. Should I keep Dougal inside now with Angus missing? He has more road sense at least. When he's in he doesn't leave the utility room that his bed is in, that's no life. He hisses at my husband and sometimes poops himself if hubby goes near him. What do I do? I don't actually want him to go and pray we'll find Angus. Sorry for the long post 😢

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