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In Loving Memory Cats => Rainbow Bridge - In Loving Memory => Topic started by: an4rew on February 04, 2015, 17:38:44 PM
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Hi,
I had to put my Rossi to sleep on 27.12.14
He had been in heart failure but got worse over the last 3 months with difficulty breathing and at the end he could not sleep lying down and stopped eating.
When i woke up that morning he was just standing there staring at me, like we both knew it was time.
The Vet was extremely good and i am grateful that he went quickly and painlessly. We all stayed in the room while he took his final breath, i sensed some relief there.
We have him buried in our back garden, exactly where he would sit and protect his garden from any other predators.
He was about 14yrs old and my best friend over the years, always there for me.
I could not look at any pictures of him until now, i have attached one.
Reading other peoples memorials has comforted me greatly in this painful time.
Thanks to anyone for reading.
Andrew.
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Hello Andrew. Welcome to Purrs. :hug:
Thanks for sharing your memories of Rossi - it's a very painful time in the aftermath of losing a loved one, and it's very clear you and Rossi had a very special bond. In time, you will be able to pull out the great memories without feeling quite so much heartache.
You can share any of your thoughts, memories and photos here and be in very good company. All of us know what its like to be wearing your shoes right now, and our hearts and thoughts go out to you.
Rossi was a very handsome cat. Beautiful. Am very very partial to our red tigers. :Luv2:
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So sorry for your loss Andrew :hug: :hug: :hug:
Rossi was gorgeous :Luv: RIP beautiful boy.
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:welcome: to purrs Andrew. I'm so sorry for your loss, Rossi was a handsome boy.
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So sorry for your loss :hug: :hug:
Rossi was gorgeous and what a tail.
RIP Rossi you will always be a Purr in yout humans heart
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so sorry to hear this, it is always difficult but I'm sure all the good times will outweigh how you feel now in time
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So sorry your lovely friend has gone. Though the time was right for him its hard to bear for those of us left behind.
Take care of yourself.
RIP lovely Rossi. :Luv2:
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Thank you all so much, for your lovely comments about my boy :)
It has not gotten any easier so far, i feel like I'm having panic attacks especially at night after it gets dark.
Your constantly on my mind, i need to know that i will see your sweet face again one day.
I find it hard to believe its been 40 days without you, i miss buying all your favourite cat food.
Ellie misses you alot too, she still looks for you to be lying in your usual places.
I miss you son :(
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It will get easier Andrew. Be gentle on yourself :hug: :hug: :hug:
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Very sad to read of the loss of Rossi. RIP sweet boy. :(
Andrew, you join here a group of humans who love their animals more than words alone can ever express, but being part of this community you will soon grow to understand how our words can strengthen, help and support you. :hug:
Welcome, albeit in tragic circumstances.
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The Granite Memorial Plaque i have ordered has arrived for Rossi's grave.
Doing something nice for my boy makes me feel a little easier.
Thinking of you all, great people here on Purrs... i'm so glad i joined :hug:
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That's a lovely design, Andrew :) . Yes, the plaque is a most respectful gesture and a step closer to peaceful closure and acceptance for you. :hug: :hug: Well done, please let us see it when it arrives?
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It's beautiful Andrew
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That's lovely Andrew. I hope you'll post a pic of the real one when it arrives. I had one done for Lily when I lost her. She's buried in the garden next to Simba.
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Hi all,
Just checking in, the weather here has been very wet so i only got to put the stone in last week.
Also i have been very depressed and have this empty anxious feeling all the time which i just can't seem to shake.
I cannot enjoy anything anymore, its just not the same peaceful feeling i had when i knew Rossi was near me.
The summer is going to hurt so much, he loved sunbathing and when i was trimming the bushes he would dash about after the little twigs and roll over for a belly rub.
thanks for reading and i wish you all the best :)
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The stone is lovely Andrew :hug: :hug: As for how your feeling, I know it doesn't seem like it right now, but it will get better :hug: :hug: :hug:
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You are obviously a very caring cat loving person, maybe in time you can think of offering a home to another furry friend? :Luv:
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The stone is lovely Andrew :hug: :hug: As for how your feeling, I know it doesn't seem like it right now, but it will get better :hug: :hug: :hug:
Thanks Allison, i really don't feel like doing much more at the moment as it brings back memories.
I will work on the grave in the summer.
You are obviously a very caring cat loving person, maybe in time you can think of offering a home to another furry friend? :Luv:
Hi heather, thanks for saying so.
I do have another cat.
A stray which we found 2 years ago in a very bad shape. Clumped Fur, Going Blind and starving... was living in my garden in the recycle bin.
Obviously our relationship is at a younger stage but shes been a great comfort to me.
She has lost the ability to jump up on things but she is very very affectionate and follows me everywhere.
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What a beautiful memorial, Andrew.
When I work in my garden, I always think of my Bridge Babies, as they derived so much pleasure from the garden. It does hurt, but it also brings me great comfort too, and I hope in time you'll find the same. :hug:
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Love the stone and hope you start feeling better cos I found when I lost Napoleon and despite have 3 others I had to get another one that looked as close as possible like him.....sadly he isnt like him at all but he filled the gap that was in my heart :hug: :hug: :hug:
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found some old pics of my boy, brought the tears flowing again....
i look out at the garden and still see the worn patches you made in the lawn.
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Also i really miss you cuddling into my back every night... your fur was so soft and warm :Luv2: :Luv2: :Luv2:
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Lovely memorial for Rossi, a handsome boy
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What a lovely boy.
I just wanted to say don't beat yourself up about your grief for Rossi. When I lost my last cat I was devastated. People who don't have relationships with their pets don't understand, and that makes it hard, because you have to pretend you are ok. When inside you feel you've lost your best friend and a member of your family. It took me a long time to be ok again and I still have a little cry now and then when I think of her although it's more happy memories. It's been 9 years now since she went and I have 2 lovely cats that I love just as much, but they are so different they will never take her place. I don't really have any advice, just try to think of the good times, he was a lucky boy to have lived with someone who cared for him like you obviously did. I didn't have Purr unfortunately when I lost my cat but it's nice to know that there are other people around who feel like you do.
Have you thought about fostering or something like that? I fostered a Mum cat and kittens and I think sometimes helping other cats can help to take your mind of your loss.
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thank you all :hug:
i have filled out a form at Cats Protection as a volunteer, somedays i feel like i would like to adopt a new friend but then i get very anxious and unsure.
Another Saturday has passed, that is 14 now without you. :'(
Almost 4 months and i can't believe it, sometimes i wish it was all just a dream and then i wake up from this nightmare.
I still think about the last meal i gave you on boxing day, i was carving the turkey, turned around and there you were...
sitting silently behind me, you crafty boy!
You had an extra special last meal, you ate every bit gorgeous :)
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Andrew :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug:
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4 months ago :(
Remembering you alot today, big boy :Luv2: :Luv2: :Luv2: :Luv2: :Luv2: :Luv2: :Luv2: :Luv2: :Luv2: :Luv2:
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Poser :Luv:
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Such a handsome lad :Luv: :Luv:
Andrew :hug: :hug: :hug:
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He sure was, Allison :hug:
Found the pics on my old email account.
He left memories everywhere ;D
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That last photo is just gorgeous - he has a very raffish look going on there. :Luv: :hug: :hug:
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Always treasure the memories :hug: :hug: :hug:
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thanks all, :hug:
Finding pictures of him is the only joy i have right now.
Since he passed i feel like i'm just drifting through each day
in some kind of slow motion dream state with no interest.
My family seem to be getting back to some kind of normal.
I feel broken in some way, permanently :(
Andrew
x
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These things take time, Andrew. It can feel very isolating when others seem to bemoving on with their lives, and you find it so difficult. I dont necessarily think it's because they don't care, it's more that certain bonds we form are so much harder to bear when they've gone, but that's the price we always pay for that precious relationship.
I know that although it's been very painful losing our treasured companions over the years, I wouldnt trade the relationship I enjoyed with them, to save myself from the pain afterwards.
I think that when you feel more ready, taking on a kitten or a young cat might be a good move. It's hard not to get enthusiastic about their energy and zest for life, and your other cat (what's her name by the way?) may well welcome the company - and if she doesn't, then you'll have to work very hard to get them to trust each other, which will engage all of your senses again.
I know it may sound like a gamble, but often the thing which helps us on our own road to recovery is having something else to focus on which absolutely relies on us to get it right, or at least give our absolute best in trying to. :hug: :hug:
I think the move with regard to volunteering is a positive one, for similar reasons.
Don't discount going to see your GP and asking about bereavement counselling. Your health and wellbeing is a precious thing too, and sometimes it needs more help than uual to get back on track. :hug: :hug:
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6 month bridge day for my big darling Rossi.
Can't wait to see you again :Luv2: :Luv2: :Luv2:
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How are you feeling Andrew? Are things getting a little easier? :hug:
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How are you feeling Andrew? Are things getting a little easier? :hug:
I went to the doctor and he put me on Antidepressants, they make me feel numb but i think its better this way.
Still think of him all the time and the love i have for him is just as strong.
Also i now realize even more so, how lucky i was to have him in my life.
Not everyone gets to experience this bond or can love an animal on this level.
Those who experience it are special human beings.
Thanks.
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not a day goes by i don't miss you Rossi, i have had to relearn to do things without you.
i wish i could go back to this time last year when you were still here with me.
you were the most beautiful thing to ever grace this earth to me, i am very proud of you.
xoxo
Andrew.
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So hard :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug:
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An Empty Chair
Rossi's favourite place in the whole world, still the way he left it.
Have not got the heart to change it, don't know if its helpful or not.
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I too would leave it :hug: :hug:
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I too would leave it :hug: :hug:
thanks Gill,
when i really miss him the most it helps me to think he is just away outside to play with his friends and will be coming back :)
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Hi all,
It just dawned on me that because i've been counting the days and weeks since Rossi left me, its been 11 months.
Another 4 weeks would be 12 months, but then there are 52 weeks in the year.
I think i'm going to honor him on what would have been 12 months and then again on his actual anniversary date.
I have big news, a new kitten has come into my life and i am not feeling as depressed as i was before.
I will make a post about it later with pictures :)
God Bless you Rossi, you taught me so much and i know you are watching over me :Luv:
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I've just seen your other thread and I'm grinning like a lunatic. Clever Rossi. ;)
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Me too, Rossi waited until the right looking kitten came along and guided him to your door :hug: :hug:
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Me too, Rossi waited until the right looking kitten came along and guided him to your door :hug: :hug:
Right now he is sleeping on Rossi's old chair beside me while i work.
He found this spot very quickly all by himself, i hope that Rossi sent him my way.
Rossi was about 3yrs old when i took him in and we had an amazing 9yrs together.
i always used to say to him that i wished our paths had crossed sooner while he was still a kitten.
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So pleased for you Andrew :hug: :hug: :hug:
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So pleased for you Andrew :hug: :hug: :hug:
Thank you Allison :hug:
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great news!
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Lovely news :hug:
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thank you ladies :hug:
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Just balling my eyes out right now reading the PURRS NINTH BIRTHDAY
RAINBOW BRIDGE ROLE OF HONOUR, it really hit me hard.
Thanks to Gill for remembering my Boy and everyone else here who has lost a very dear friend over the past 12 months :hug:
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Thank you and know its a very very sad time for all who have cats on the Bridge but we are honouring their memory and you can go there any time just to remember :hug: :hug:
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one year ago today Rossi, i said goodbye and hugged you for the very last time.
Time is so odd, sometimes it feels like forever and sometimes it seems just like yesterday.
I will always cherish the years we spent together, I have not been the same - since you've been gone.
and now Elvis is with you and i know you are happy. I love and miss you always. :Luv: :Luv: :Luv:
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Four Feet in Heaven
Your favorite chair is vacant now…
No eager purrs to greet me.
No softly padded paws to run
Ecstatically to meet me.
No coaxing rubs, no plaintive cry
Will say it’s time for feeding.
I’ve put away your bowl, and all
The things you won’t be needing;
But I will miss you little friend,
For I could never measure
The happiness you brought me,
The comfort and the pleasure.
And since God put you here to share
In earthly joy and sorrow;
I’m sure there’ll be a place for you
In Heaven’s bright tomorrow…
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:hug: :hug: Beautiful poem.
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Beautiful Andrew :hug: :hug: :hug:
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Another lovely one, thank you :hug:
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Wish i could put my arm around you one last time :hug: :hug:
I will never forget you, loving you more than ever this xmas. :Luv: :Luv: :Luv:
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Remembering Rossi today 2 years on :Luv:
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That is a lovely poem, we don't forget them do we? :hug: :hug: :hug:
RIP Rossi
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thanks buddy, having a hard day here but i'm so thankful to have known this wonderful boy :hug:
grief is love :Luv: