Topic: Gypsy very poorly - She's gone (Read 17706 times)

Desley (booktigger) · « **Reply #133 on:** April 29, 2008, 07:54:51 AM »

I agree with Ruth, Gillian, I am sure she knew you were there, she would have recognised the way you stroke her.

Bazsmum · « **Reply #132 on:** April 29, 2008, 04:37:40 AM »

Im sure she knows you were there Gillian.....

In time these bad memories will fade and you will be able to smile and think of the good times you obviously shared!

Gillian Harvey · « **Reply #131 on:** April 29, 2008, 00:32:56 AM »

Thank you everyone

It really helps to read your kind words and hear of your experiences too. Roz, I know what you mean, I was devastated that her last moments were spent overnight in the oxygen tent and not at home with me, but of course she would have suffered even more if I'd not taken her when I did and there was no way she could come home the state she was in, I don't even know if she knew I was there, I spoke to her and stroked her, I hope she did.

I just can't get those last moments out of my mind, I'm trying so hard to think of happy times - she was so beautiful, not just in looks, beautiful inside - anyone came to the door, she was there to greet them, if they sat down she was straight on their lap, I loved that confidence she had, and that she was so laid back and easy going, I've not had a cat quite like her before.

JackSpratt · « **Reply #130 on:** April 28, 2008, 20:59:30 PM »

I haven't put anything on this thread because there don't seem to be the right words.

I'm so sorry for your loss, Gillian. Gypsy will have known how much you loved her and that to me is one of the most important things.

Have fun at the Bridge, Gypsy.

Roz · « **Reply #129 on:** April 28, 2008, 20:33:26 PM »

Hello Gillian,

I am so sorry to read about your dear, beautiful little Persian, Gypsy. You must be heartbroken and I just wish I could take the pain away for you. But remember your little girl is at peace now, bless her, and will be watching over you from a place so fabulous that you could not even begin to imagine it....

'Those that we love and have lost
are waiting for us
in a place without parting
where we'll never
have to say goodbye again'

Gypsy will always be with you and she wouldn't want you to be unhappy. Try to think of all the fun times and all the love and happiness that you shared together. I'm certain that she couldn't have wished for a better life.

And Gillian, please do not blame yourself. You did what you thought was right at the time and we can all be wise in hindsight. I know exactly what you are going through....I think we've all been there. 'If only I had done this or not done that'..it's natural and part of the grieving process. I had actually typed up a whole explanation about how my little Dubes died within a week of becoming ill....and how I wished to God that I hadn't taken her to the emergency vet on the night she died because I am certain that he caused her death. He was so young and inexperienced and gave her anaesthetic when she was hyperventilating!! She had only been seen for a further examination by the Senior partner earlier in the evening who didn't seem to think she was particularly ill... However, I decided to delete it in the end because I realised that it would not serve any purpose except to show how I still think the same thoughts.....and this was three years ago! But I know that if my little angel had died at home I would have thought 'Oh why didn't I rush her in to the emergency hospital' You see you can't win.

Gypsy had a doting mum who looked after her in the only way she knew how for as long as her little angel had on this earth. Nobody could have done any more.

R.I.P Gypsy darling....God bless.....you were loved very much.

Thinking of you Gillian

Roz

Dawn F · « **Reply #128 on:** April 28, 2008, 09:38:50 AM »

madkittyrescue · « **Reply #127 on:** April 27, 2008, 07:49:12 AM »

oh Gillian, just caught up with this thread and I am so so sorry to hear of Gypsy's passing.

It is never easy to lose our babies especially when it is so sudden and unexpected. She is at peace now and you must try to tell yourself this or else you will beat yourself up. Sometimes things go the way we don't want and I think its natural to wish we could have done something different and to analyse what happened trying to make sense of it all. But please don't feel guilty for anything you have done. You did all you could for Gypsy but it was her time, albeit far too soon and you have nothing to feel guilty for.

I truly believe that Jan (Our Founder) is up there waiting on all our furbabes when they arrive and will make sure they are OK and I'd like to think she is giving Gypsy cuddles and taking her under her wing.

My thoughts are with you and your furbabes.

xxx

swampmaxmum · « **Reply #126 on:** April 26, 2008, 10:17:19 AM »

Gillian xxx

Bazsmum · « **Reply #125 on:** April 26, 2008, 07:28:24 AM »

Gypsy's gonna send you the biggest rainbow Gillian, she is still with you and in your heart she will stay....

alisonandarchie · « **Reply #124 on:** April 25, 2008, 23:34:54 PM »

Thinking about you

bunglycat · « **Reply #123 on:** April 25, 2008, 23:25:09 PM »

Hi Gill -sending

to you from me and the Lincoln looneys ( as they have been today !!) .
Hope Lucy starts picking up soon too.
I have my ashes from Oscar and Bonnie just above my bed with their pics and i give them a kiss every night and Oscars been gone 10 years and Bonnie 9 years -it eventually gets easier .

Desley (booktigger) · « **Reply #122 on:** April 25, 2008, 23:14:52 PM »

Aww, Gillian, it is understandably still so hard, things happened so suddenly you didn't get chance to expect this, and it is soo much harder to deal with when it is unexpected. And getting their ashes back is such a final thing, and another reminder. You will get days like this, but things will get easier in time. Big hugs to you.

Gill (sneakiefeline) · « **Reply #121 on:** April 25, 2008, 23:06:30 PM »

Its so early days yet Gillian and am sure that this will happen often

You have Gypsy back and thats bound to be an emotional time. You are just acting as any normal person would, dont worry you know the only healer is time, a very long time

Gillian Harvey · « **Reply #120 on:** April 25, 2008, 23:02:46 PM »

Feeling very sad today, I bought Gypsy's ashes home.

I can't seem to stop crying - out shopping yesterday and I just felt myself welling up, and again when I was talking to a new grooming customer this afternoon - and then in front of the CAB advisor (mind you expect they're used to that!) The little casket came with a sympathy card from the crematorium owners (family run) and of course the little lock of her fur.....thank goodness I knew to expect it. Its so heartbreaking though, a little piece of her fur, I just want my girl back.

Bazsmum · « **Reply #119 on:** April 22, 2008, 10:06:08 AM »

I echo what everyone is saying Gillian.....you are now questioning yourself and I am positive that if you had had an incline (sp?) what Gypsy's outcome would of been you would of acted differently....But you wer'nt to know....the vets did'nt even know so please try not to be too hard on yourself....

Desley (booktigger) · « **Reply #118 on:** April 22, 2008, 08:01:34 AM »

Aww Gillian - it honestly doesn't sound as though you could have done anything different to be honest, and I think it is something that only time will help with.

Gill (sneakiefeline) · « **Reply #117 on:** April 21, 2008, 23:56:23 PM »

you did everything you could for gypsy and its part of the grieving process to feel guilty but there is nothing to blame yourseld for.

Yvonne · « **Reply #116 on:** April 21, 2008, 23:06:58 PM »

No, no - you must not feel guilty, it was not your fault. I felt exactly the same way after Cleo died.
Please don't beat yourself up about it - you need to move on but in your own time and at your own pace.

Take care and remember that you did your best for Gypsy and and Gypsy would not blame you.

Gillian Harvey · « **Reply #115 on:** April 21, 2008, 22:52:16 PM »

Thank you for your messages

a lot of my attention has been focused on Lucy, now she's well again, its all hitting home that I've lost Gypsy

I keep thinking what if I'd got her to the vets sooner - I mean she was coughing a few days before I took her, BUT she was still eating ok then, so I didnt think it was that urgent and was convinced antibiotic treatment would soon get her right, and also felt reassured that my vet didnt seem overly concerned. I don't really understand why the first antibiotics had no effect at all, and by the time I'd realised they werent working, it was the weekend, and I took her back on the Monday, which is when she was given different antibiotics, steroid etc. Then it was only the next morning Tuesday, when I noticed the open mouth breathing and took her back again straight away. They put her in the oxygen tent and started different antibitoics again and the bronchodilators, but she deteriorated so much from when I took her on Tuesday morning to when I saw her again Wednesday morning in such distress.

I know I probably shouldnt be dwelling on all this, but I can't help it, and as I said, the worry about Lucy has passed and this has all come back with avengence and I need to make sense of it all.

Corporal Smokey · « **Reply #114 on:** April 20, 2008, 19:18:14 PM »

So sorry to hear about Gypsy

Yvonne · « **Reply #113 on:** April 19, 2008, 23:23:08 PM »

So sorry to hear about Gypsy

With heavy hearts; and a tear in our eyes
after all these years; we must say goodbye
Please understand; we've done all we could
if there was anything we could do; you know we would

I'm sitting right here; gently rubbing your ears
while I talk to you softly; trying to hold back the tears
The memories you gave us; we'll never forget
especially the ones; of the day we all met

One last hug; and one last kiss
you have no idea; how much you'll be missed
To look into your eyes; this one last time
you tell me it's ok; you know it's your time

Dream of that special day and time
when we'll meet at the Bridge; and all will be fine
We'll run and play; side by side
with a soft warm feeling; deep down inside

Your memory will live on; in each one of us
you'll always be number 1; to all of us

So with heavy hearts; and tears in our eyes
just for now my friend; we say Goodbye.

Moggy73 · « **Reply #112 on:** April 19, 2008, 12:04:55 PM »

Having read this sad thread... just want to send positive thoughts and love to you and Lucy..

R.I.P Gyspy xx

Bazsmum · « **Reply #111 on:** April 19, 2008, 03:29:54 AM »

Gillian Harvey · « **Reply #110 on:** April 19, 2008, 01:14:44 AM »

Thank you again everyone

started another thread for Lucy.

Everything seems really strange here, the group dynamic has changed, the cats are all sleeping in different places and they seem dotted around the house, rather than all snuggled together like they often were. With Gypsy gone and Lucy withdrawing because she's poorly, nothing seems right.

Gwen · « **Reply #109 on:** April 18, 2008, 23:25:21 PM »

Thinking of you and Lucy

pappilon · « **Reply #108 on:** April 18, 2008, 21:54:17 PM »

Oh Gillian, sending positive thoughts for Lucy. Thinking of you both.

Bazsmum · « **Reply #107 on:** April 18, 2008, 20:49:38 PM »

Ditto.....Thinking of you both!

Gill (sneakiefeline) · « **Reply #106 on:** April 18, 2008, 20:48:33 PM »

I am so worried, I hope Lucy is Ok

Rosella moggy · « **Reply #105 on:** April 18, 2008, 20:47:46 PM »

Waiting to hear about Lucy with everything crossed Gillian

Gwen · « **Reply #104 on:** April 18, 2008, 20:18:09 PM »

Sorry to hear that Lucy isn't well,hope you get some good news from the vet

Gill (sneakiefeline) · « **Reply #103 on:** April 18, 2008, 19:39:50 PM »

I do hope that Lucy is Ok and sending lots of good wishes for her

Christine (Blip) · « **Reply #102 on:** April 18, 2008, 18:56:53 PM »

Let us know how Lucy gets on at her appointment

tigerbaby · « **Reply #101 on:** April 18, 2008, 15:56:42 PM »

Sorry to hear this Gillian... sending healing thoughts Lucy's way.

tammy · « **Reply #100 on:** April 18, 2008, 15:27:45 PM »

sooo soorrryy to hear this Gillian, Ive klsot 2cats in 6months and that was hard too.

Good Luck

swampmaxmum · « **Reply #99 on:** April 18, 2008, 14:35:15 PM »

I'm so sorry Gillian and hope for nothing but the very best for Lucy this evening and the vet can sort her out. thinking of you

dolcetta46 · « **Reply #98 on:** April 18, 2008, 14:33:12 PM »

My bestust wishes for Lucy as well... please no more sad news for Gillian, or for us for that matter!!

Bazsmum · « **Reply #97 on:** April 18, 2008, 14:02:58 PM »

Kittybabe (Ruth) · « **Reply #96 on:** April 18, 2008, 14:00:05 PM »

same here. Let us know how she gets on. Hopefully its just a little blip.

clarenmax · « **Reply #95 on:** April 18, 2008, 13:58:19 PM »

I will pray that all is well at the vets with Lucy this evening hun

Dawn F · « **Reply #94 on:** April 18, 2008, 13:55:29 PM »

oh Gillian I hope this is just a horrible coincidence - fingers crossed for Lucy

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