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Cat Rescue & Rehoming => Rescue & Rehoming General => Topic started by: ajay on December 15, 2006, 14:47:12 PM
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To all my friends on this forum, please could you help me? It,s been nearly 3 months now since we acquired George our beautiful British shorthair kitten.To those of you who know me you will know that I,ve been having a terrible time with the situation of having a fourth cat.Amber one of my other cats has been literally weeing EVERYWHERE and honestly I,m at the end of my tether. I have really tried everything(she,s even weed on the tin foil!.........I feel that the best thing to do would be to find George a new home.I know it,s against most of your principles but I don,t think I can cope anymore.It,s not just that she,s been pooing aswell. We,ve been to the vets, got the feliway,kept them apart,done the water pistol......I,m now clueless. My OH says that the balance of our home has been upset (even my siamese have started weeing on top of her markings).I,m crying as i write this but I,d rather him find a home through yourselves than anyone else. He is a big, beautiful cream and white loveable gentle wee soul.I absolutely adore him. I can hear alot of you tutting but I,m really down about this. Please can you help me ? ....x x Jayne
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Have emailed you
Teresa
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Ajay,
I certainly am not tutting or judging you. We took Bertie in a few months ago, and he makes number 4 cat. We haven't had problems with the other cats, but have had problems with him taking to them. There have been times when I have felt so down about it all that I started to think.. have I been fair to the other cats by taking him in? Have I been fair to him? Would he rather be an only cat? There is still a long way to go, but we are finally making progress. However, I know from experience how stressful it can be when all the cats are not getting on. Also Bertie has a problem with one of his legs and because of this he stands up to poo and wee and doesn't squat. As a result, he was weeing up the walls and on the carpets. We have adapted a tray to get round this, but it's awful when you have that constant wee smell.
I don't have any advice to give you i'm afraid, but just wanted to say that I can understand that it doesn't always work out when you have a multi-cat household, so please don't be so hard on yourself.
I hope someone on here will be able to help you.
Sarah
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Again, can't really help,just wanted to let you know I don't think you're the devil incarnate for needing to find George a new home. Some cats are just happier not sharing their home with a fair few other cats, it's how it is. And despite the fact you're strongly attached to George, you want to do what's best for him, that's commendable. He sounds like a sweetheart and I really hope he gets the lovely home he deserves.
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Well Thankyou all for your kind replys....I,ve just been on the phone to Teresa for ages and she has given me some great advice and offers of help.Bless you Teresa your a true angel.I feel better now because you all understand and sometimes having a moan makes you feel better. x j
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I am sorry to hear of your problems, Jayne :hug:
What are you planning to do, having chatted with Teresa, or do you want to wait a bit before you say?
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Jayne, your doing best by your cats which is a good thing :care:
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Hi Christine....Well, Teresa has advised me to initially try and re-train Amber by keeping her in a closed environment. It basically means keeping in a pen which Teresa will lend me. She also suggested (bless her) that she would take George into her home to see if Amber,s behaviour is linked to George.I can,t beleive how kind she has been. Also finally, Teresa said to get her water checked out for an infection.It,s really helped just being able to have a moan and let off steam. thanks again x j....sorry for the grammar and spelling .....trying to type and make dinner at the same time ! x
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Hi Jayne,
Glad to hear Teresa has provided your with some helpful advice ... fingers crossed this will help to sort things out. All of us that know you and know how much you love your furbabes would never tut and think badly of you "if" you have to rehome George (fingers crossed it won't come to that). We know what you went through with Thomas and how you nursed him back to health.
Take care and please keep us informed on how things go.
Sam :)
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Well said, Sam! :)
:hug: to Teresa too.
Hope you didn't burn your food Jayne, trying to type and cook! One way or another, I'm sure you'll be able to sort this out for the best...
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When someone loves and cares for their cats as much as Ajay does it would be tragic to rehome one and then find the problem still exists.
Amazingly Ajay lives close by so we are lucky enough to have a few options open to try to break the cycle and keep this lovely family together.
Keep smiling Jayne almost anything is possible if you work at it.
By the way I will be home from 1pm onwards tomorrow as I have an appointment with Grandchildren, santa and 2 white Raindeer in the morning.
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Aw ...Thanks Teresa...you should run a help line for cat owners!!!Feline Samaratins !!!! Well now I,m all relaxed sitting down with my OH with my glass (bottle) of wine with my little furbabes around me and my children playing happily. Why oh why does the little minx have to ruin it all with her peeing !!!After all your kind words and support you,ve all given me the strength to continue with this.Thankyou all so much....you cat chatters are the best...god bless you all..... x j
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Aw glad there may be some more options open to you all. Well done Teresa. Hope it works out.
Things always seem worse when you are bottling them up, so if it helps to offload, feel free to come on here or you can email me.
Hope you have a good weekend.
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Have only just caught up wtih this, I do hope a solution can be found Jayne, I know how much you care for your cats. Do let us know, and you know where I am - will try and give you a bell this week.
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Oh AJay, I'm sure folks do understand and don't be hard on yourself. I really hope that Theresa has helped but if not it's not meant to be and things will work out okay. If George does have to be rehomed it's not your fault and it will be for the best remember that.
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Have only just caught up with the new forum and your post Ajay. As people who have followed my trials and tribulations on Catchat will tell you, you are not alone. We had to rehome two cats on seperate occasions as they did not fit in with our cats and one of our resident females started to urinate everywhere again. I hope you do not have to rehome George but if you do, it will be out of love not failure. Often the biggest expression that we care for our animals as that we do the best for them.
Rehoming is not always bad either, just to put your mind at rest, both the cats we rehomed went to super new owners and we still keep in touch, they are now extemely happy spolit cats. ;D
How old is George by the way?
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I don't think there's any bad being done here. A cat which is unhappy is being found a new home where it should have a better time: it's painful for his owner but it's the best thing for him, and it takes a lot of courage to admit this. So well done, you, for taking this decision.
And Grit, how nice to see you! Hope all is going well with you and yours, finally! How are your cats doing now?
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Getting a little better I think! Wellmost of the time
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Thankyou so much for your replies of support....It really DOES help so much. Having someone to moan to seems to help in offloading all the pent up emotions. Well,Amber is still being a minx with the weeing....mainly under our bed and usually always in the morning when she,s hungry. I had taken to putting her and George in the kitchen which did stop the behaviour.....however I,m such a softie that I didn,t like them being banished......so I,ve now got the whole area covered with some covers.So far so good. I reckon it,s the smell that is making her do this. Anyway Desley came up with a great idea to put some new carpet ontop which I will try. Georgie boy did another whopsie in my oh,s office again.....so this room will have to be blocked off!!!! We were supposed to be in Belgium but unfortunately couldn,t get on the flight so hopefully we can go today. If there is a delay in replies you know why. Thanks again HAPPY NEW YEAR to all you wonderful Cat Chatters.... x x x Jayne :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :thanks: :thanks: :thanks: :thanks:
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Only just catching up so I do hope that everything will work out well ;D
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How did they get on in your absence Jayne?
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Hi Desley....Happy New Year!! They got on great while we were away, thanks.The lady form "fed and watered" even kept a diary(3 pages) with an indepth briefing of my furbabes. They looked happy and relaxed when we got back which is great. We slept with all four in our bed last night as we,d missed them so much. Last pm. I put a towel under the bed and lo and behold Madame Amber peed on it again this morning.I think i,ll cover it with something proper when the kids are back at school. Thanks for asking.I,ve been reading some of your threads ,you,ve obviously been keeping very busy!!.....How,s Kai?......I have to say I like the name Chi.....that,s a good one !
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I am glad that things went well. Fingers crossed covering it with something helps a lot, and dont forget to get a urine sample checked. I do like to keep myself busy!!
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Update.........Well, What can I say ? I think I must becoming immune to the smell of cat pee as even though it,s STILL happening,I seem to be chilling out more and thinking "whatever"!George has started now in the same spot....under my bed. i put a thick towel down every night and wash it the day after.I,m such a softie because I like them all in bed with us and I feel it,s cruel to let two in and leave two out so obviously the behaviour hasn,t stopped. But now I thinkl....well I know where it,s going to be so at least I can plan ahead!!! :) :) :) :) :) :) :) :) :) :) :) :thanks: x j
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I am glad you are less stressed about it Jayne, and hopefully you can get to the bottom of it soon!!
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OH has just caught George relieving himself in his office. (No. 2 !,this isn,t the first time). He has basically said that George and Amber don,t like playing second fiddle to Thomas and Henry and rather than re-home George, it would be kinder to re-home them as a pair where they can be top cats together.I,ve also caught Amber peeing in my room where I sit here on my computer. I feel like i,m on a roller coaster ride of emotions. When everything is normal I think i,m in denial and kidding myself. I have now come to the conclusion that i will loook for them a new home as it,s starting to put a strain on us as a family. That,s it .....my mind is made up. Sorry for all the different emotions,I am a bit all over the place. Thankyou for listening........love Jayne x :'( :'( :'(
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I am sorry to hear you are having a bad time - but I am sure this is just a terrible phase they are going through and that it will get better!! They are testing each other I think. If you can stand it to hold on things may improve.
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Oh Jayne , I really feel for you, :hug: sorry cant offer much in the way of advice but just wanted to give you a :hug:
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They are gorgeous, why dont you try contacting Wizz?
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They really are beautiful - surely there must be some expert on here to help you keep them! I hope you can sort it out. Take care.
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Jayne, hi - have you had another chat with Teresa? Worth doing that before you finalise your decision - I think she offered a bit of a holiday?
xxC
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Thankyou all for your posts. I really do apprieciate it.My mind is made up.They are 2 stunning beautiful babies.I love and adore them,however most of you know that I also have a pair of rescue Siamese who had behavioural problems. The reason why they are fine now is because they have my undivided attention 24/7.They sleep in our bed and absolutely need and crave attention.I know alot about these types of troubles and it took Thomas and Henry a good 2 years to become'normal'.The thing is that I think Amber and george,s problems are simply the fact that they arn,t top cats. Amber has a very strong domineering personality and bosses the 3 boys around.She has to be the cntre of attention. Little george follows her everywhere and copies everything she does,which is why he has now begun soiling like her.I,ve really have tried everything....Theresa had some good suggestions....but it would involve keeping them in a ...albeit....large cage and honestly, i couldn,t do that. She is most definately right but I know I just couldn,t do that. They are both less than 12 months and I think in an environment whereby they are the only 2 cats, they,ll probably thrive.Theresa also said she,d even take George for awhile to see if Amber,s behavour changes (bless her),but I don,t want to stress them or upset my 2 little boys who are already so attached to them. I think finding a wonderful loving home would be better.I,ll sit and wait for the right person to come along.As i write now, I,ve had to put them in the kitchen which breaks my heart as I know they feel left out.If any of you know a lovely family please could you let me know ? I would only ask that a donation be made to Paws-inn.I wouldn,t normally ask for money but they cost me 700 pounds and perhaps askng for a small donation is a sign that someone is serious about these 2 babies. x x j :'( :'( :'( Thankyou x
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Jayne, hun, please call Teresa and chat this through with her, whatever you decide together, will you do this for me?
xxC
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Yes Christine....Definately. Infact I,ll probably visit her while the children are at school.Thankyou j x x
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Oh this is so sad, try Wizz although she may saybthe same as Teresa.
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Jayne
just spent ages typing long post to find other things written , you have my number ring me
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Thanks Teresa...When can i phone You?.....Also please could you email your no.? Bless you x
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Jayne have emailed you, I`m off to bed now, hopefully will see you or hear from you tomorrow
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Aww, Jayne, I am so sorry you have had to come to this decision, I would suggest contacting Wizz first, just in case there is a better way than to home them both. I will try and give you a bell later.
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I'm sorry it's come to this but sometimes rehoming is the right thing to do by the cats. Peeing everywhere is a sign that they aren't happy so it's often the kindest thing to do to find them a new home.
Is George a registered pedigree? If so have you contacted his breeder? Not only for advice but to return him to her if you can't keep him.
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Hi Ajay, when I tried introducing the lovely Chadwick and it wasn't working and I rang Wizz, the first thing she asked me was would I consider rehoming him if it really didn't work. I said yes and she said that proved I did love my cats and was putting their welfare first and I think it is true. When we rehomed Chadwick we did so through the cattery I use. She knew one of her customers had lost a cat a couple of months earlier and of course for me it had the added advantage that the new owner was known and the cattery owner could vouch for her caring abilities.
Well the new owner came to see Chadwick and fell in love immediately, I could see there was already a bond there, and when he went to the new house he just settled in immediately, it was as though this huge sigh of relief went through him. I had descovered that despite what his previous owners had said about him getting on with other cats he had in fact only ever been an only cat and his relief at going back to this was palpable.
A year later he is still as happy as Larry, he is worshipped and spoilt rotten by his owner, has her undying attention and a huge territory over which he holds sway (he came from a street of back to backs and now lives in the country.
Although I miss him, I know he doesn't miss me and I know it was definitely the right thing to do. We always assume our cats love us, but I think in reality they actually love whoever is feeding them at the time ;D ;D
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Very well said Grit, Chadwick was gorgeous and I am so pleased he is now happy. ;D
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Any developments today, Jayne?
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C
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Hi everyone and THANKYOU for your amazing support! God Bless you all x x Well, I had a fabulous morning meeting the amazing, one and only Theresa and her wonderful OH. What a fantastic team they are and what amazing work they do. You just wouldn,t believe it, they are truly dedicated to all their cats. They are beautiful people that are VERY few and far between. We also managed to have a great laugh and I met the one and only Minimopsical. I,m lost for words really and so overwhelmed by what they both do. I don,t think I could even begin to start. Anyway. bless her ,she gave me a wake up call and pulled my very niaeve head out of the sand. Theresa gave me a cage in which to home Amber while I try to re-train her. I can also keep it in my bedroom so she doesn,t feel left out. It,s going to be a long ,slow process that will hopefully may work. I,m sorry that I,ve made you all ride the emotional rollercoaster with me and I,ll try not to wear my heart on my sleave so much.Must go as I,m sorting my brood out......will update you x x x x jayne
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Soooooooooooooooo pleased to hear this ;D ;D
Wear your heart on your sleeve whenever cos then peeps can try and help.
I do hope the retraining goes well for youe and the babes cos they are truely gorgeous. keep us uptodate with the progress ;D
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I am glad that you have some more options to try out, I do hope they work for you.
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Jayne so pleased that your giving the cage training a chance and covering all your options. Fingers crossed it all goes well and you can keep all your furbabes at home with you :)
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Good luck with the cage training i am sure that Amber will thank you for it if it all pays off in the end :)
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Good luck Jayne - you know where we are :)
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Hi Jayne
Hope your head is above sand level today and that you are attacking this wee problem from every angle, it was great to meet you and really did me the world of good to laugh so much. A problem shared is always easier to deal with so keep that heart on your sleeve and keep us all up to date.
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Thanks Teresa.....We did have a laugh didn,t we? The time just flew by,I could of listened to you both all day.You should write a book!....Anyway the cage is in the garage till my OH gets back from his trip....In the meantime I,ve been confining her and George to one room(same as you do at yours)...this seems to be going well. I really want to get my bedroom cleaned properly before I even put her in there again as it does stink. In the meantime, I went and bought a job lot of that sensitive cat food as they had wolfed down the other.They really love it so that,s good. Anyway, if you and your OH want to come over and have a nice cup of tea and some cake with me ,you,d be so welcome. It would do you both good to have a change of scene for a couple of hours.I can,t believe how hard you both work.....non stop,it really is unbelievable. It,s like living with permanent new born babies!!!I,ll keep everyone informed and THANKYOU again. x x Jayne :thanks: :thanks: :thanks:
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I am glad you are seeming calmer about things Jayne, and I do hope that you can sort it all out.
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Best of luck Jayne, keep us posted on how you go on. Really hope things work out - hang on in there!
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You seem happier, Jayne :rofl:
Thanks for your email - I've sent you a PM. How are things today?
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Thankyou again........Got a bit merry last pm. with my friend....The computer is downstairs in my little entertaining room ,so when I get tired and emotional I can just put a message straight on!!!!!Not always a good thing !!!I,m so thick that my OH has given me a touch screen so as you can imagine it,s so easy for me to put a message on!!!!That,s why even though I absolutely mean,t what I said,Christine, I hope I didn,t come on too strong !!!(ha !ha!). I,ve been living a bit of a roller coaster(as if you didn,t know) and I have to say this forum has helped me SO much.I just think your all such kind and lovely people and it,s really helped me not only with the cats but also the many losses I had last year.(here I go again.....I,ll have to stop the old vino!!!). Anyway ,touch wood ,me little fur babes are behaving so that,s good....so far!!! Much love j x x
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C
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Hope your still rid of that sand Jayne , I will be round for that cake and to make sure that Amber and George really are behaving as soon as Cringle is better.
Keep smiling
Teresa xx
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Well Theresa I,m still in the desert ,but I can see an oasis!!!......or is it just a mirage?.....All will be revealed LOL !!.....Give gorgeus Cringle a big hug x x Fingers crossed j x
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Its a mirage of an Oasis :rofl: :rofl:
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:rofl: :rofl: :rofl: :rofl: :rofl: :rofl: :rofl: :rofl: :rofl: :rofl: :rofl: :rofl: :rofl: :rofl: :rofl: :rofl: :rofl: :rofl: :rofl:LOL HA ! HA!HA!
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And if I find your head in the sand on an oasis or even a mirage of one you`ll wish you were on a desert island with hundreds of dirty litter trays.
Repeat after me--- I have a wee problemI have a wee problemI have a wee problem
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Teresa
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ajay has a ummmmmm a problem :rofl: :rofl: :rofl:
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I have a wee problem.......I have a wee problem.........I have a problem......I don,t have a problem.............What problem are you talking about ?.............. :rofl: :rofl: :rofl: :rofl: :rofl:
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:-: :-: :-: :-: now how would I know what problem you had :rofl: :rofl:
:shify: :shify: :shify: blame it on Teresa :shify: :shify: :shify:
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8) 8) 8) 8) I haven,t got a problem.............or....have I ...? :innocent: :innocent: :innocent: :innocent: :innocent: :innocent: :innocent: :innocent:
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Jayne hope things really are getting better,dont be afraid to shout if you need anything
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Thankyou so much.Laughing aside how,s Cringle?......Well George and Amber have been locked in the kitchen since I last saw you and have been behaving. My bedroom door is permanently closed much to the displeasure of T &H .But, if it means no wee ,then thats a help. This morning I overslept and had to quickly get me and the kids ready for school. Normally my first job of the day is feeding the cats.As I was doing my quick showgirl(wash......feet ,f***y and face) madame Amber ran in the bathroom ,jumped in the bath and did a huge pee.What the heck does that mean in cat language? x x j
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Hi Jayne,
I hope it all works out for you and the cats. It is so stressful when they are not getting on, or are stressed.
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Think it means that human servant is not working hard enough and must set alarm for half hour earlier or tea break time will be spent scrubbing the bath. :rofl: Think it also means litter tray required in bathroom.
Hard as it is keep cheerful, keep cats in Jail and exterminate all traces of that wee problem.
Cringle is very poorly he has been hospitalised.
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Aw, poor baby....what,s wrong with him ? Will he get better? I,m REALLY sorry to hear this. Ring me any time when you and OH want to come round for a cuppa and a chat x x j
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How are things going ajay? Any updates on your furry family?