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Cat General => General Cat Chat => Topic started by: MrsR on December 18, 2008, 02:42:49 AM
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I cannot handle saying to much ATM but Sylvester was PTS just before midnight, as you can imagine I am devastated.
RIP my big boy :'(
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So sorry hun :'( :hug: :hug:
:RIP: Sylvester, sweet dreams babe, xxxxxxxxx
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Oh no....I'm so sorry MrsR :(
RIP Sylvester, play hard at the bridge, sweetie x
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So sorry MrsR :hug:
We are here when you need us.
RIP Sylvester :'(
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How dreadful for you! :hug: :hug: :hug: Just know we are here to support you in this ... :hug: :hug: :hug:
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Oh I am so sorry Mrs R. RIP Sylvester and we will be here when you are ready :hug: :hug:
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OMG! What terrible newsl :hug: :hug: :hug: Please tell us more when you feel up to it :hug:
RIP Sylvester :RIP: Play hard at the bridge until your meowmy comes for you.
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:hug: So sorry
Godbless Sylvester xx
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I am so shocked to read this, RIP little one.
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I am so sorry and truly know how you must be feeling having lost 3 cats this year.
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Well most of you know Vesti had lost a lot of weight recently and we had full bloods done on him that were clear and he started putting weight back on and was returning to be his normal self.
Yesterday in the day and evening he was fine then at about 10:30pm he cameup to me and butted his head against my leg. At first I thought he wanted a brush so started brushing his and he was pushing into the brush on his left which isn't unusual as he pushing into the brush hard along his face, when I went to brush his right side he kept going back to the left so I pulled the brush away and just watched him and found he starting turning in a circle to the left constantly, even when he lay down he kep putting his head to the left and his pupils were huge and dilated, walking again he could manage a rough straight line but still kept vering to the left. Constantly though he kept turning in a tight left circle. We phoned the mergency vets who said to brin him straight down.
The vets was a different practice and a different vet and we told him Vesti's full history. The vet said straight away that it wasn't good, with the history and then seemingly returning back to normal with normal bloods he would have discharged Vesti thinking all was fine and for him to now dramaticaly change so quickly it wasn't a good prognosis, he said guarded progrnosis, when I asked what he meant by guarded he said the worst. He said it was a very unusual presentation and said it was one of 2 things, a tumor on the brain or something else which I cannot remember the name of where air presses on the brain and scull and both were very definate possibilities with how he was now. He said he could give him very strong steroids and sedative and send him home referring him for CT's and MRI's but again said it didn't look good.
With how Vesti was I just couldn't bare to bring him home heavily sedated. put him through daily vet visits, etc as if you knew Vesti yo'd know how much it wa sstress him. For the past month Vesti hadn't been Vesti. Even when the bloods came back normal I always said to hubby about the tumor on the brain that wouldn;t show up and knew Vesti wouldn't be here for the birth of the twins.
We have arranged for him to have a personal cremation and then he will come home again forever.
I have had Vesti for 10 years and he was always my special big boy and always will be. The other cats know something is different and they got really stresse dlast ngiht with Vestis behaviour.
RIP my beautiful Vesti boy.
I cannot type anymore as just so upset and haven't slept much but will be on and off Purrs all day.
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so sorry :hug:
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Oh Nikki,
How awful I am so sorry. There is very little that anybody can say at a time like this. That was a very brave decision that you made and you made it for Sylvester so that he did not need to suffer any longer, you did what was best for him. Take care of yourself today.
:hug: to you
:RIP: Sylvester
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I am so sorry to hear your sad news.
RIP, play hard at the bridge fella.
Most sincere sympathies
Leigh
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I'm so sorry sweetheart, I know how hard a decision this would have been for you :hug: :hug:
Play hard at the Bridge little one.
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oh i'm so sorry to hear this..... :hug: sounds like you did the best thing though, well done for making the brave decision :hug:
please make sure you look after yourself and your babies right now though :hug:
play hard vesti xxx
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Really sorry to hear this Nikki.
RIP Sylvester, play hard at the bridge
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Thanks everyone, just cannot stop crying.
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Many Many :hug: :hug: :hug: to you.
RIP Sylvester - play hard chashing those butterflies on the bridge. Night night sweet lad xxxxxxxxx
I so hate posts like this - it brings back awful memories of loosing babes and how I felt, and I dont like to think of others going throught the same :'(.
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Hi Mrs R, we went through exactly the same with our Timmy a couple of years back - much the same symptoms and the vet said exactly the same to us, we too made the decision you have so I can totally understand :hug:
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You took the bravest road to save your baby from pain and distress. You have now taken on Sylvester's pain and released him to a happy life at Rainbow Bridge. :hug:
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Oh Hun I am so so sorry - thinkng oy you xxx
RIP beautiful Vesti - play hard at the bridge sweetheart xxx
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I'm so sorry hun, but you can at least take some comfort in the fact that you made the right decision in letting him go so he could be free from pain and stress at the bridge.
RIP vesti :hug: :hug:
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MrsR my thoughts are with you. RIP Sylvester x
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So sorry to hear about Sylvester :hug: He'll be safe and sound at the Bridge by now waiting for you until you're ready to collect him :hug:
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Thinking of you all :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug:
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I am so so sorry to hear this news but you have done the bravest thing you could for your little Sylvester to ease his suffering :hug:
Play hard at the bridge little one....:Luv2:
thoughts are with you and your family MRs R. xx
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Just caught up with this thread and I am so sorry to hear about Sylvester. Its such a hard decision to make but you did the right one by the sounds of it and Sylvester now is no longer suffering.
RIP little one :(
Big hugs to you sweetie :hug:
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Sylvester is in safe hands at the Bridge, so don't worry.
RIP gorgeous boy.
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So sorry to hear your sad sad news - I know, as we all do, how awful you must be feeling and nothing I can say will take that pain away.
We are all thinking about you :hug: :hug:
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So sorry to hear this news, thinking of you all at this time. :Luv2:
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IF IT SHOULD BE
If it should be that I grow weak and pain should keep me from my sleep.
Then you must do what must be done, for this last battle cant be won.
You will be sad, I understand, dont let your grief then stay your hand.
For this day more than all the rest, your love and friendship stand the test.
We've had so many happy years, what is to come can hold no fears.
You'd not want me to suffer so, when the time comes, please let me go.
Take me where my needs they'll tend, only stay with me till the end.
And hold me firm and speak to me, until my eyes no longer see.
I know in time that you will see, it is a kindness you do for me.
Although my tail it's last has waved, from pain and suffering, I've been saved.
Please don't grieve that it should be you, who has to decide this thing to do.
We've been so close, we two, these years, dont let your heart hold any tears.
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:RIP: Wee Man :'(
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So sad for you, having lost Tiger on Monday know how you are feeling
He is now at peace and you did the harest thing we do letting them go when they need to :hug:
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I am so sorry and you saved him from any further suffering to be free and happy again :hug: :hug:
RIP Sylvester, join our friends on the Bridge and play hard
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oh that poem :'( :'(
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Oh Nikki, I can imagine. :care: :care: This poem meant a lot to me after we had to let Tobes go in June:
Do not stand at my grave and weep,
I am not there, I do not sleep.
I am in a thousand winds that blow,
I am the softly falling snow.
I am the gentle showers of rain,
I am the fields of ripening grain.
I am in the morning hush,
I am in the graceful rush
Of beautiful birds in circling flight,
I am the starshine of the night.
I am in the flowers that bloom,
I am in a quiet room.
I am in the birds that sing,
I am in each lovely thing.
Do not stand at my grave and cry,
I am not there. I do not die.
RIP Sylvester - you were very much loved and will be missed.
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So very sorry, play hard at the bridge little one.
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I'm so terribly sorry. I know words can't be of any comfort right now but am thinking of you and I know how much you loved Vesti. RIP little one :hug:
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I'm so very sorry to hear your news about Sylvester :hug:
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Nikki,
Please accept me sincere condolences at this terrible time. You have made one of the hardest and bravest decisions any of us can ever make but you did it with love for your special boy :hug:
Vesti will always be in your heart and even though he won't be there for the twins arrival he will be keeping an eye on your all from the bridge.
RIP Slyvester ... much loved and sorely missed. Play hard little man xxx
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I can't stop crying and I want to stop crying.
I want my Vesti back and my heart is breaking :'(
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I am so sorry for your loss, MrsR. It is so very hard, but you spared Sylvester from suffering and that is the greatest gift you ever gave him.
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So sorry to hear this. Lots of :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: to you
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So sorry to hear this Nikki :hug: :hug:
Sleep well Sylvester :hug:
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I'm so sorry Mrsr
Goodbye little boy
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You cry Mrs R cos that's what you need to do and Sylvester is worth your tears :hug:
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I keep buring my face in his bed as it still smells of him. :'(
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You cry as much as you need to Hun, we are all thinking of you :hug: :hug: :hug:
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I keep buring my face in his bed as it still smells of him. :'(
Yes I did with Beau's blanket.
Your heart is breaking because you loved him. Remember the good times and smile through the tears. many hugs :hug:
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What devistating news :'( but hes not suffering anymore, you did the right thing by him and he will be waiting for you at the bridge :candle: RIP sylvester
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Mrs R you did the bravest, and most selfless thing any animal lover can do
Vesti came o you for love and t say goodbye and a the first grief passes you will know deep within your heart that you did the very best thing
Sometimes the best way to say 'I love you'... Is to say 'goodbye'
Vesti sweeteart, you are now young and free from any ailments, safe fro all harm... play hard at the bridge sweetie and look after your Mamma and her babies
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So very sorry to hear about your boy.
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Sorry to hear he took a turn for the worse, neuro issues are so hard and distressing, you did the best thing for your lad by letting him go :hug: :hug:
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I keep buring my face in his bed as it still smells of him. :'(
I can completely relate to that - I slept with Jamesons blanket for ages, head buried in it just inhaling his smell (and probably the odd flea ;) )
Take your time, and remember we are all here for you.
xx
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So so sorry to hear the news :hug:
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:hug: :hug: You will cry for a long time but you must think of the happy times and have some laughs in between your tears. I am sure we are all crying reading this and we all know how you feel because most of us have been there. Most of us will still be smelling our bridgebabes too, I know I do.
Mary x
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Sorry for your loss :hug:
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I'm so sorry MrsR :hug: Sleep tight Sylvester
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So sorry to hear this news :hug: :hug: from us in Lincoln
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Have woke thoroughloy depressed and the tears are continuing to flow, I just want him back. Picked up the brush to brush Bunty with and had Vesti's hair in it :'(
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It will still be raw. :hug: Give yourself time, cry when you need to and eventually it will happen less and less and the crying will be replaced by smiling at the memories of the time you shared together. You loved Vesti very much and in his own way he will have returned that. :hug:
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So sorry :hug:
RIP little one :Luv:
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Just cannot believe he has gone, I keep seeing him out the corner of my eye. 10 years of my big boy and now nothing.
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Ive just seen this , Im so very sorry. :'( :hug:
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I am so very sorry :hug: :hug:
RIP Sylvester. :'( :'(
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A couple of weeks ago i read this and its so true When something becomes a memory That memory becomes a treasure you will always have treasured memeories of Sylvester ,lots of hugs to you :hug: :hug: :hug:
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Oh hun, Im So So Sorry :(
you were there for Sylvester and had the courage for the final Kindness :hug: :hug:
RIP Sylvester safe at the Bridge now
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I know this may sound silly to some but me and hubby have decided that if one of our twins is a boy we are going to give them a middle name of Sylvester.
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thats not silly ,its a lovely tribute to Sylvester :Luv: and im sure he will be keeping a watchful eye on you and your little ones when the time comes. :hug: :hug: to you both
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I am so, so sorry :hug:
RIP baby :'( Your Mummy loves you very, very much :Luv2:
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Thanks guys, my head hurts so badly tonight from crying so much
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I don't think it's at all silly. It's quite a touching thing to do actually. :hug: :hug:
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All I want is for him to once more walk up to me and flop down like he use too - he'd literally throw himself down on his side right into your body - was so cute.
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Old Mog does that - like she thinks it's too much effort to sit down. :care: Sending you another one of these, I know how hard it is.
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Thanks hunnie I need it, didn't think it was possible to cry and hurt this much.
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Oh Nikki, Im so so sorry to hear this :(
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Try to take good care of yourself, I know its going to be hard. I lost one of my kitties when I was pregnant and I just lost hope with everything.
About the middle name suggestion, I think its great way to remember them, my son's middle name is Ted, he's my eldest cat.
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Thanks hunnie I need it, didn't think it was possible to cry and hurt this much.
It's horrible but you just have to go through that. When I lost Magpie I thought I would never stop crying. I dreaded ringing work the next day to tell them I wouldn't be in because I knew I wouldn't be able to explain without crying.
I have kept Magpie's favourite bed. It was a small, donut shaped bed which he would go and curl up in every night when I gave them bedtime treats and shut them in the living room. It is still covered in his fur and smells of him. It's in the top of the wardrobe and jaffa and mosi are not allowed anywhere near it cos it's Magpie's.
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Was just hoovering and found a big tft of Vesti's long hair I'd cut off as it had had a knot in it - just sat on the floor with it crying and stroking it with one finger -felt like him :'(
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The house isnt the same without my boy :'(
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I have done memory books for all my Rainbow Bridge babies, it was upsetting but helped. :hug:
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:hug: It must just feel so wrong without him there :hug:
The first christmas after Magpie died, I bought him a christmas present and put it under the tree. It felt important to remember him even if he wasnt physically there.
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I am sorry things are still so hard for you, things will get easier in time. Do make sure you keep drinking, as the sore head was probably dehydration, I didn't realise you could cry enough to dehydrate yourself till I lost Ginger. Big hugs for you, and we are all here if you need us
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Oh hunny, hugs for you :hug: :hug:
Its' so rotten but the grief will ease, I recently found a picture album of my 2 bridge babes at my dad's and started crying again... smudge was killed 16 years ago and Harry passed on 2 years ago. His love will never leave you and a little piece of your heart will always be his.
I personally take comfort in seeing them out of the corner of your eye, My Smudgie is notorious for this, in fact he's now RW's guardian angel and kept an eye on him when he went missing recently... :Luv:
I'm sure that Vesti is just coming back to check his mummy is ok and to let you know that he is fine and waiting for you at the Bridge :Luv2:
P.S- the middle name idea is fantastic! go for it!
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I have managed a couple of times today to talk about Vesti to the other cats without bursting into tears but dreading work tomorrow and trying to hold back the tears.
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Its going to be hard, especially battling with the extra emotions :hug:
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I feel like I just want to let go and sob my heart out but scared too and holding back because of being pregnant with twins.
Only thing thats helping is thinking that Vesti would have hated the twins so at least he doesn't have that stress to go through when they are born. He was never a little person cat, literally hated children when they were in the house.
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I've never been pregnant so don't know, can you cause damage by crying excessively? Do you think it would put too much stress on your body? To be honest, if you need to cry it might be more stressful keeping it in. :care:
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Getting overly upset can raise your BP which isn't good for the babies.
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I wouldnt try to hold back the tears - I would imagine that is worse for you than crying. There's just no getting away from the upset and shock you will be feeling right now. Hopefully, things will settle down for you soon. You won't stop feeling upset and won't stop having a cry now and then, but you will feel a little calmer eventually.
I Only Wanted You
They say memories are golden
well maybe that is true.
I never wanted memories,
I only wanted you.
A million times I needed you,
a million times I cried.
If love alone could have saved you
you never would have died.
In life I loved you dearly,
In death I love you still.
In my heart you hold a place
no one could ever fill.
If tears could build a stairway
and heartache make a lane,
I'd walk the path to heaven
and bring you back again.
Our family chain is broken,
and nothing seems the same.
But as God calls us one by one,
the chain will link again.
(author unknown)
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Sorry, I have just read this thread - I am so sorry to hear about Sylvester. I can't even imagine what you are going through. Take care. RIP wee man! :hug:
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I loved it when i called him he would come trotting over with his fluffy tail held high and bent over at the tip saying hello ;)
I loved it when he would burying himself under the duvet in the middle of the bed and we would come in and see him and say "is that a Vesti lump"
I'd love it when I was in bed and he'd get under the duvet and flop down with his body against my skin.
I'd love it when he'd meiow as he was such a big muscular boy that his meiow didn't suit his look and came out a pathetic girlie meiow so we'd call him a big gay boy because of it.
I loved it when he washed Poppy and Elvis's heads.
I loved it when he'd lick me lke there was no tomorrow.
I could go on forever and ever. :'(
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Made it to work but have been in the loo in tears a few times. Have Vesti as my screen saver now on my work PC :)
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That's ok - you are entitled to. When you need to cry, do it. Holding it back will just make you explode (like the joke I've put in the joke section!!) Take a look it will cheer you up - i've called the post 'sprouts glorious sprouts'.
Hope you're not torturing yourself with him on your screen saver. Having said that I have lots of photos of Smudge at work and now and again I still have a cry when I look at him.
Mary :hug:
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I know what you mean about the screen saver, I was hesitent at first putting it up and looked at it a few times today but held it together,, I just want to be able to see him all the time.
Wish this feeling of emptiness would go away.
I keep wondering how all the other cats are affectuing, they all seem ok, Popp is maybe a bit more quiet and weirdly coming to me for more huigs and she is a total daddy's girl and avoids me at all costs normally - maybe she knows I am upset annd trying to comfort me.
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They will be missing him too and they certainly know you are upset. The emptiness is a horrid feeling but please just keep trying to remember you helped him in a way that only a loving mother could and you stopped him from hurting. He doesn't want you to be upset, he wants you to look after yourself and those twins. Good excuse for stuffing your face over Christmas - 'Oh, I'm feeding for 3, me and the twins!!' :rofl: :Luv2:
Mary :hug:
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Thanks hunnie :hug:
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I haven't cried today yet, think I am trying to calm myself as it will be just after Christmas Day that we pick up his ashes and I know it will hit me again like a ton of bricks.
Last night I just thinking he was upstairs on the bed alseep - maybe a little denial is creepig in now.
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Am very sorry to hear about Sylvester :hug:
I think the denial helps us to cope.
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Grief is a very raw emotion and affects us all in many ways, but tears are all part of the healing process, denial is one way of trying to shield ourselves from the pain of reality, and no-one can really understand what your going through even tho we may have all at some point expereinced this ourselves because we all deal with this differently, let the tears come , dont be afraid of showing emotion, we are all here for you no matter what, each of us that has lost a furbabe knows the pain so we understand, remember the happy times you had together and rejoice in the fact that you gave him so much love in his life. :hug: :hug: :hug:
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Last night I just thinking he was upstairs on the bed alseep - maybe a little denial is creeping in now.
I STILL do that with Toby. When I get ready to hoover I do my mental checklist of where each cat is and always think he's on the futon. Maybe he is in a way; who knows.
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Yep I am in total denial - told Elvis not to sit on the part of the bed that is Vesti's last night as said Vesti would pounce on her.
In denial and happy like that at the moment and don't care if its wrong.
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Dreading tomorrow as may get the phone call to pick up Vesti's ashes!
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I know it has been very hard and I really sympathise but to try to think about the happy times that you had
Take care :hug:
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Please don't dread it - he's coming home to be with his mum - the person who made the decision to save him from being in anymore pain. Have you decided where you are putting his ashes?
Mary :hug:
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Mary not 100% but it will be in the lounge with us, somewhere we are a lot of where we can see him all the time.
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My thoughts are with you and im sending lots of hugs :hug: :hug: for you both
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Sending you a hug for tomorrow, and agree with Mary, don't dread this, you're bringing him back home where he belongs :hug: xxx
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Tobys ashes are in this room on a wall mounted shelving unit so I know the other cats won't accidentally knock them over. We're waiting until his orange tree is a little bigger then putting the ashes in the planter. The tree has to go outside in summer and indoor in winter, which is pretty much how he was!
Parsley has a fern that sits on our garden table in a planter. That's purely commemorative though as my partner wanted to bury her in our garden; she very much enjoyed prowling in our garden.
It is really hard collecting the ashes; it's actually a bit surreal. You are just bringing Vesti back to be with you, though.
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JS is right it is a surreal experience but one that I have found brings comfort too. I have five caskets in casket corner in my lounge, they sit on shelves in the alcove and will be opened and sprinkled in my coffin when my time comes. I hope you feel comforted by bringing home Sylvester's ashes. :hug:
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Vesti is home, burst into tears and was so hard at first but put the casket on the floor and the cats all rubbed up against it which I thought was nice. Vesti is not next to the fire place where we can see him all the time and I keep going up to it talking to him and laying my hand on it, came with a lovely brass name plate which I didn't know it was going to come with. Think it will take me time to get use to it and the thought that Vesti is in there as its still so painful but I feel he is at home now and with us and the other cats so isn't alone now.
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Well I am glad you feel somewhat better at Sylvester coming home forever. Big hug to you not an easy day :hug:
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This must have been a very traumatic day for you :hug: but now hes home where he belongs with his family, :hug: :hug:
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that is so nice that yojur cats rubbed against him - what a nice welcome back home. :Luv2: :hug:
Mary :hug:
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I should be so happy entering 2009 as pregnant with twins but I just so wish Vesti was with us :'(
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Who says he isn't? I think there's always a connection with a loved family member even after they're gone. :hug:
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Even tho hes not with you in body his soul will always be with you and watching over you :Luv: :Luv:
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I know I just think its still so raw and guess I am still not ready to 100% let him go
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I don't think any of us will ever let go 100% and why should we?
You should just try and think of the funny things that you did together and know that he had a long and happy life with you and know that he would want you and the twins to be happy and healthy.
I know it's easier said than done because after saying goodbye to Smudge when I buried him in my garden in April I still cry and I have cried myself to sleep for the past 5 nights in a row and I am crying now.
We all deal with it in different ways and it depends how they left us but you will find one way to handle it one day.
Love Mary xx :hug:
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Oh Mary :hug:
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I emailed Helen at Cats Protection Stroud earlier which is where Vesti came from originally as wanted a peice on him on their websites memorial page, she has just emailed me back asking if it was ok to feature Vesti in their Valley Cat March edition - :) awwwww my boy I am so proud :)
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That's lovely, MrsR :hug:
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I am so chuffed :)
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See, the year has ended on a good note for you after all - you should be so proud.
Mary x :hug:
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Have been desperately missing my boy today :(
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I wish I could tell you to have a large Gin - but no doubt on here I will get my wrists slapped if I do.
Time is a great healer - honest, just wait it out.
Take care :hug:
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Thanks hun, I just keep hoping I'll have a sign from Vesti that he is ok or still with us in spirit or something.
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Nikki, there are going to be days when it's harder to bear. He'll send you a sign I'm sure; he might just be too busy right now!
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I am going to start doing my meditation again and see if I can reach him that way.
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This is the only video we have of Vesti which was on my mobile only 9 secs long :(
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I'm so sorry to hear about the loss of Sylvester. I've just been catching up with all that happened. He was such a beautiful cat and he was so absolutely loved and cared for. I know you faced such a tough decision but you loved him and did what was right for him. Know that he passed from this life knowing how loved he was and that he is playing on the Bridge, happy and free from pain. He'll always be with you in spirit and in the memories you have of him. xxxx
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Thanks hunnie :hug:
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I burst into tears last night and was sobbig for age s- I picked up Misha and hugged and kissed her and said I love you to her and it was de-ja-vu of at the vets with Vesti before the injection :'(